Do you think money make a person proud?

Hi Formidexo, sometimes it is not a matter of loving money. All of us love money to a certain extent. However, we do not use money as a measurement of our success. Those who come across riches suddenly often forget that having money does not mean they are smart or better than other people who are far poorer than them. They forget that it is plain luck that brings them wealth overnight. Sometimes they think that they have to mingle with people of their classes, meaning the rich, and they do not want to mingle with the poor people anymore. It is sad when this happens.

Hi Formidexo, actually the same thing happens in the office when someone gets a promotion. She starts to think that she is better than the others, just because her work is well enough to earn a promotion or her boss likes her more than the other plainer looking colleagues. Some of those newly promoted to supervisory posts become very arrogant, and look down on the other colleagues. I think it is the same concept. Those not used to money become proud, and those not used to power also become too proud and misuse their power.

Maybe they are letting their wealth or success go to their head and looking as if now that they have money they are suddenly better than others. Money is just money, some things it can do and some things all the money in the world won't do any good.

Hi Sid, I think those poor people who like to show off will be worse if they have money suddenly. Sometimes it is hard to know a person until we see him become rich suddenly. Some people become religious. Some people become proud. Some people continue working and living as if nothing happens. If we know our friends well enough, we could probably guess their values towards money. If we dont know them well enough, we may get a shock when we see how they react with sudden wealth. The little bragging remarks become a full blow bragging exercise.

True Scheng! When children are born with a silver spoon, they do not realise the value of money. But, it is mandatory for the parents to inculcate a proper sense of values to the children.THis is how, wealthy people can hold on to their wealth for generations. Regarding some poor people giving undue importance to money, we can also give the benefit of doubt to these people and justify their behaviour with one reason--they would have been looked down upon by their wealthier relatives or friends and the hurt would later made them behave in a peculiar flaunting manner[there have been rare cases like this too]It calls for a lot of grit and character to hold on to one's own despite odds and not care for money.THis is where the upcoming middle class or the lower middle class tend to behave in an odd mannner.THye feel like showing off.It is rather sad .Self-made millionaries do have a different sense of values.My father was born wealthy but he sweated his life out making a successful profession for himself.He never paid that much of importance to money and was a very classy man.I have not heard him talk too much about it too and he was known to be a large hearted man.similarly I myself have known people in all the categories you have mentioned.Ultimately, it all comes down to one's upbringing and strong sense of values.

Hi Kalav56, that is an interesting perspective about poor people who get rich suddenly. I think they are not used to the sudden wealth. Maybe their mindset is still the poor people mindset, where a dollar is real cash, but a million dollars is just something you read only in newspaper. I think it is really hard for a rich parent to teach about the value of money, especially so when the pocket money given is worth more than the monthly earnings of a laborer. Maybe sending their kids to poor countries to do charity work, such as building school or hospital, can help. That is provided the kids are interested or obedient enough to go.

Hi Celticeagle, I think that will depend on what we are proud of. Most of us are proud of the achievements of our friends and family members. Many parents are proud of their children. It is quite rare for anyone to get proud until the point when he looks down on everyone else. That is the bad effect of having too much money suddenly. The lucky person may start to think that he is the greatest person on earth. It is different if we are proud of our abilities to earn the money. When we know how hard it is to earn money, we will not look down on other people who are also working hard.

Yes, this is true. Depends on how we were brought up and what values we have.

Hi Jaiho, in certain countries, rich people do have a lot of power. They can even use money to buy the police, so that the police will not listen to the complaints of the poor people. It is sad when rich people behave like that. Many poor people suffer because they misuse their wealth. Sooner or later karma will catch up with them.

Hi Uniqueorn, I think there is a difference between those who work hard and get rich and those born into riches. Those from poor to riches seldom forget that they were poor before. Many of them still look like the poor chap next door. However, those born into wealth spend money as if the money comes out of the tap. These are the ones usually appear very arrogant.

Hi Dragon54u, actually these people are everywhere. They do not even need to get very rich to show off, and use words to make others feel bad. Sometimes a job promotion has the same effect. They start to say things like they need to buy branded goods, since they have to look good in their job, or that they can afford to buy this or that, since their bosses like them, and given them a promotion. Imagine what will happen if they win a million dollars jackpot. I think they will be ashamed of us.

Hi Shenzhou, I think you can see more examples in China. The rich are so corrupted, and they want to become richer. They dare to bribe the police, and buys the judge. I think sooner or later China will undergo a big change if the rich people think they are gods.

Hi Megamatt, it is true that money can change a person. We can only hope that money can make us into a better person, a kind and generous person, instead of an arrogant yet greedy person. Those who get rich suddenly usually become proud, and they want even more money. I have seen a person who wins the lottery, and then buys a big house for his mistress. His wife and children hardly see him at home after he won the lottery. When his money runs out, his mistress leaves him, and he returns home. Later he goes to the Indian temple, prays for another chance to win the lottery. He promises to behave better. Guess what, he wins. Sadly, he returns to his old way, and spend all the money on his mistress. I wonder how a person can be so stupid.

Hi Cutie, I think if we have to work very hard to get rich, we would not have this kind of attitude problem. Those who get rich overnight are the ones who are too proud, and say things to hurt their friends. Some of the things they say are very cutting, such as "Be careful with this teapot, you can never compensate for it with your salary."

Hi Jennbart, that is very true even in Singapore. The newspaper reported some millionaires are still living in public housing, and drive simple car to work. Those who hardly can afford luxuries buy private apartment, and have to work very hard to pay the mortgage. I think that person who keeps bragging and showing off will not have real friends. She may have friends who want to gain something from her.

Hi Applejoy, I have seen some people like that. Fortunately they are still a minority among my acquaintances. Once my cousin met a person who got rich suddenly. That person was showing off his branded leather goods. My cousin said to him, "so what! My whole body is covered with leather from head to toe." My cousin was very angry, and told us all about it.

Hi Cecil04, we can only hope that money changes people for the better, and not for the worse. I think if good and kind people have money, they will spend time on charity and volunteering work. Those with wrong attitude towards money get greedier when they get rich. They are ashamed of their poor friends and relatives, and try to mingle with those rich and powerful people.

Hi Lexielilly, many people do use money as a barometer, particularly for career success. They think that when a person earns more money, able to buy big car, big house and marry a beautiful woman, that is the ultimate success in life. The rich people do not really treat money so importantly, since they are so rich, and they know that money is not so important. It is the poor people who have this kind of mindset. That is why when they become rich overnight, the attitude surfaces. Their friends and relatives who are still poor are astonished to see money make a person changes so much.

Hi SimpleBB, you are right in a sense. Many poor people are indeed proud and love money too much. It is just that they are poor, and they have nothing much to show off. Once they get money, they really hurt their relatives by their remarks. I think money in this case, brings out the worst in a person, and shows the world the real person. I think those who work hard for money and get rich are usually very humble even though they have money. It is those who get money suddenly, such as a lottery winning or inheritance, that becomes very proud.

Hi Tovk, usually people with sudden wealth cannot remember that wise saying or the wise perspective towards money. Those who win lottery, especially the million dollars jackpot, thinks that getting rich is so easy. They forget that easy come easy go, until they spend everything, and have no more friends.

Hi Pankajgarg, if we have the ability to make more money and get rich, we are of course proud of our achievement. But it is not the same as looking down on others. You know some people are so arrogant. They buy an expensive shampoo, show it off to their friends, and then say, "Be careful. This is very expensive. You can never afford this shampoo." The whole purpose of showing off is to make their friends feel bad. This tends to happen when a person gets rich suddenly. I mean when a person earns just $800 a month working in a factory wins the jackpot of $2 million dollars. The sudden wealth changes his view about money.

Hi Calpro, I agree that those who do not work for money are the ones who become very proud. It is the same concept in the working place. Those who become manager after leaving school are the ones who think they know a lot. They order their people around. Those who earn promotion after years of hard work never treat workers in this manner, since they understand the difficulty of a worker. The same thing with those poor people who become a millionaire after winning the big jackpot.

Hi Arshi999, fortunately I do not have to witness 100 cases, since I do not have so many friends and relatives who get rich suddenly. One or two experience is bad enough. When your friend gets rich suddenly, the words he or she say are meant to hurt others, making them feel bad about the lack of money.