When your bf looks to other girls while with you on the mall

I've actually never experienced this. My husband is wholly and utterly unaware of the world around him and he never notices anything or anyone. I, on the other hand, have a heightened awareness and perception and am constantly watching people when I'm out anywhere. Actually to the contrary, I find it extremely unnerving when he doesn't find other women attractive. I'm not entirely sure why. I think it may be that it makes me severely question his taste in aesthetics and as a result makes me feel horribly hideous by association.

Hi Mhypie I think it is really irritating, but as I think, people wants to observe environment around them, so may be he is in such type of people but as you said that one time for just a glance it is OK but doing it again and again on a same person is really bad and you should talk to him that you dont like such type of habit and I think he ll surely tell you what are his intentions to watching and your mind may be clear towards him So I think keeping thing in your mind and solving it by your own, is not much effective than communicating with the person and getting some good feedback from him. Be happy and keep smile on your face always...:))

Well that can be really irritating for us women. Men are easily distracted on what they see so probably there was disturbance in your surrounding like women wearing revealing clothes or short shorts. But the bottom line is still there, respect and if the person loves you, he should not be doing that. Did he just commented on what he saw? You should have sarcastically joked about it whenever he does that, what if you put your eye on some hunk and see what is his reaction . A taste of his own medicine, well if my hubby does that, he will really get ithaiiyaa, karate chop,lolz.

To be honest, I no longer care. I have much issues to paid much attention of rather than scolding my boyfriend to behave. Whenever, we get to meet girls wandering around or the like; I allow him to look at those girls. I don't know if it's normal but I have to say that I'm already very secure of myself.

That's what my ex bf used to do as well. While window shopping in a mall, or having meals in restaurants, his eyes never fail to wander around, looking for eye candy. I know it's hard to control, but at least try. He didn't even try because the moment he saw one, his eyes is fixed on the target, following her motions. I have numerous arguments with him over it till I finally gave up. And that's also the time he left me on the quiet too.

I think it's a human nature of a man to always take a glance on every beautiful women they see around. This thing should be discussed with your boyfriend and let him know your feelings everytime he is doing that. After that, if there is no changes, i guess you have to give him an ultimatum hehe because it will only show that he is not respecting you. For sure, doing the same with him will not be nice for him. talk it over with him. Have a nice day!

Hello mhypie, I can understand what you want to say here. I guess it's um, a little natural for us guys to have a glance at some girl who looks attractive, but i just give them a glance and not anything more. I am conscious when i am with my girlfriend and i don't want her to feel the way you feel. I don't know why girls don't do this like we do, but for some reason take it for granted that men will be men, lol, and if some gorgeous girl is nearby they would sure want to have a look. If your boyfriend keeps staring at her, that is wrong. Give him a kick. If he is not talking right with you, paying attention somewhere else, then he is being disrespectful to you.

woah! glad my bf never did this. anyway, my bf usually says attraction is normal, but seduction towards other isnt good when in a relationship.

My ex-husband use to be this way and it was so irritating and frustrating. Especially when they both were gazing at each other as if I did not exist. I live with my boyfriend now for almost five years and one of the things I noticed about him, he will never disrespect me this way, as he has never done this in my presence. I am sure all men/women do as long as they are respectful with the women/men they are with, and then not have the gull to deny as my ex-husband was a pro at it.

im sorry for that. your bf was too stupid by acting like that. yes i agree that you dont mind that he looks to other girls but just look. not stare like a crazy in love guy. i agree that you didnt like that you were talking with him and he couldnt stop looking and didnt pay attention to you. you should tell him that you didnt like his attitude. if he doesnt say sorry next time when you see a cute guy in the mall and are with him also look to that guy and ignore your bf. he will for sure see what he did to you and wont repeat it ahah

Hello there. Yes you are right. The guy would look and stare at other girls then I will ask my boyfriend (before) "Oh another friend in college?" coz he always tell me that as a reason. Then I told him "why is it that all women in your school are big-bre_sted?" Then he would know what I mean and get upset sometimes. I know how it feels when a guy does that to their girlfriends. I just ignore guys who stare at me like that if they are with their girlfriends because clearly know how would a girl feel. I really get annoyed and I really show an irritated face. But somehow we should free ourselves from this kind of thinking. The guys might perceive that we are getting paranoid from being jealous. Let us make them think that we are confident with ourselves as well. If the guy that I am with does that then I look for cute boys out there and say it out loud how cute they are as a retaliation. Then we are even! Hehehe.

I have felt that way too! My boyfriend would sometimes smile and raise eyebrows to someone when we are at the mall. Often times, he talks to girls as if like he knows them, entertaining them so well when in fact I am just around. He is a little childish and I know he was unaware of that but I always feel bad when he does. It's not about being insecure. I feel it more of an INSULT. I was there just right beside him but it seems he has eyes for other girls. Definitely, it is devastatingly awful. I told him that and he avoided that to happen again.

Its annoying when you are talking and your partner doesn't listen....I get irritated as well and don't talk to him then.

Well coming from a guys point and me being in a relationship wher I have done this i can tell you he means nothing by it. If he's anything like me he is just a people person and is always looking at the world around him, curious if you will. I do understand if your asking him something or holding conversation and you notice he's drooling at some skimpy dressed girl it can be annoying but at the same time it's not like he's trying to do it to hurt you. If a girl is showing some skin in a public place chances are majority of the males will look/stare at one point whether there with a gf or not. thats life.

Before we got serious I told my guy there will be three times I will check out a guy. If he has red hair, if he is a biker , or a cowboy! I will ogle them as they pass. He is cool with it because he Knows I love him. In return I will point out beauty when I see it. My mom would do the same for my dad. I never thought just because a guy loves me makes him blind to other women. And I wouldn't want him that way. I know each hunk I admire makes me want my guy more.

No it doesnt bother me at all if my man looks at other women when I am with him. If I was with him and he went up to another girl and was flirting with her then that would make me furious but just looking at another girl wont make me mad. My ex and I used to look at girls and try to find the hottest one at the mall. My ex had bad taste though. I would tell him to when I saw a gorgeous guy.

It's so unfortunate of you.Actually,I haven't been experience on it also.But if it happen to me,I wouldn't love him so much.I think that I would leave him one day.Maybe you said that it is a little terrible.but on my word,I do feel that he take so little care for me.

hello mhypie, i guess looking at something very attractive cant be helped. but to stare.. that would be a different issue. any girl/lady would find that habit irritating and disrespectful. ann

It can be annoying when the guy you're with in the mall is looking in another female's direction. It doesn;t do much for your confidence. He isn't showing much respect for you when he does this. he may not be aware that he is hurting your feelings. the best thing you can do is to show him he has more to appreciate when he looks at you.

For me it is not good of a kid to be your husband.