dating a friend of your ex
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
November 15, 2010 12:03pm CST
let's say you were involved ina relationship but this relationship ended, you got over it and one of your ex's friend asks you out. what would you do? would you refuse him?
I was exactly in this situation. my relationship with my ex ended in summer and in the autumn I met one of his friends( a friend that he didn;t have when we were together). the thing is that my relationship with my ex ended badly and this is why I was really doubting that he might have an interest in me when he asked me out. I tought he was doing that just to get revenge over me ( aldo I didn;t hurt my ex...he was the one who hurted me). so I kept avoiding meeting him. after a few weeks when he insisted us to meet I finally accepted. he was really good looking, and my heart melted when he kissed me. I was sooo much into him. we started a relationship but things ended in a weird way (long story..I'll tell you with another ocasion)
so what would you do? would you take the risk?
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8 responses
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
Well, if you ask me, i've done many crazy things. I've even dated my ex's sister. I even did my ex's sister. There's no line for me there. I go all the way.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
17 Nov 10
woow...that's baddd :))):D. I canimagine howyourpoor ex must have felt.anyway is your decision only whatever you do with your life. it was an ugly thing from you ex's sister to do that to her but...anyway thanks for the reply
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
16 Nov 10
We can't choose who we will become attracted to. just because you break up with someone doesn;t mean friends they had should be off limits to you. If the attraction and feeling is there, you should at least give dating a chance.@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
16 Nov 10
my ex broke up with me. I loved him alot and I couldn't do that. that's why I was a little suspicious when his friend asked me out. they weren't friends when me and my ex where together. they met later but anyway the situation was weird. I mean why would he want to date me? why me when he knew I was his friend's ex girlfriend? the situation was hard...anyway this was a long time agop and the sitation doesnt really matter
@saihai (128)
• India
17 Nov 10
Of-course. I take this risk. Actually When I'm in class nine, then i fall in love with a girl. But after two months we break up our relation. Then, before two years of this writing the girl came in my life again. And want to be my friend. I accept her friendship. After one month, i propose her. After some days, she accept it. Now a days, we lead a good life.
If then i don't took this risk, I'll loose the person who love me so much much.
@annawen86 (545)
• Indonesia
16 Nov 10
i dont think it is a good it is a good idea to be with your exboyfriend friend. let me tell you my story.
once, i had a boyfriend (called him A), i never realized that his brother's friend has a crush on me. his brother's friend (we can called him B) is a leader of gang. A always respect and affraid to B because B was a leader and B was older than A. then, i broke up with A because he's cheated on me.
B knew that i broke up, so he started to ask me to be his friend, and then he ask me to be his girlfriend.
what happen next? A always terror me. he phoned me with other number and message me that i am a bi***, and that he would kill me if i am still in relation with B. he didnt dare to terror B because he was affraid of B. i never knew that the stranger message was A. i knew that it is him , but i didnt have prove. untill someday, A's friend feel so sorry to me, and said that it is A who threaten me.
the next thing happen, B was mad, and want to kick A. A try to begged him not to do it (A is trully a coward) but A always threaten me.
that is the example of being girlfriend to your ex's friend.
try to looking for someone who didnt have relation with him
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
16 Nov 10
woow....difficult situation anna.as I said I happened a long time ago. same as you I took the risk of seeing hime. the difference in my situation is that my ex didin't really care what I would do. since we broke up we haven't spoken to exah other but he still used to speak to my best friend and he told her that he doesn't care what i do it is strictly my business
@jubalstar (50)
• United States
17 Nov 10
Hey, once a relationship ends....it's gone. Who cares who you see next. That should not matter to your ex anymore. Escpecially if he was the one that hurt you. Now, I know people make mistakes. Lord, I made plenty of them with my ex.
But, I wasn't going to take all the blame either. I felt she was not putting a whole lot of effort into it. ANYWAYS, the point I am trying to make is that once a relationship is gone...you could do one of two things...linger in the past or moved the hell on. It's not up to your ex any longer.
@nirvik12345 (66)
•
17 Nov 10
Of-course i take this risk. Who say, may I've the person who love me so much. May be she understand her fault, that's why she came in my life again.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
I don't want to conclude but I would rather not. Of course we will not be able to avoid talking about the past with my ex bf that is his friend and we will be able to tackle what went wrong.
@saimrajput (426)
• Pakistan
16 Nov 10
i think the person who already have treated you badly. you shoud not turt him any more. once he have leaved you he had captured then why he wants the relation ship again. this is not right to treat again.he will treat you badly again. at the end you should think at ur own. may b with heart ? if you you will think with your heart it may be agreed but ur mind will refuse it again n again how many time u think.?wat you say about it?
