Why Would Someone
By dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
November 15, 2010 1:08pm CST
waste their life away?
I have a friend that has had a very rough time in her life for the past several years. She seems to be doing better now, but her current boyfriend is another story. About a month ago we took him to the hospital because he was huffing paint and just didn't sound right. While he was at the hospital he had a short cardiac arrest.
After three days in a crisis stabilization unit they let him out of the hospital. It seemed that he was doing better, but then last weekend he did it again. Not as bad as the first time, but again playing Russian roulette with his life.
This got me to thinking, why is it that people do things like this with themselves? Don't they understand that only one time could be too much and their life could come to an abrupt halt?
What makes it even worse in this situation is that four years ago his brother died from the exact same thing.
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11 responses
@inday_lorna1970 (1268)
• United States
20 Nov 10
I do agree with you. There might be something going on their head can't express whatsoever.!
@inday_lorna1970 (1268)
• United States
20 Nov 10
Maybe you need to talk to him..why it keeps happening to him!
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
18 Nov 10
Good grief. I cannot imagine this. Maybe all the chemicals in the paint have already affected his brain. Otherwise I can't think why anyone would do something so dangerous a second time. I guess some people just don't learn.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
dear dora,
i just wish God give life to people who love life.. to those who want to live long. it is very ironic that there are so many in these world who are sick yet who wants to live some more and who try all the necessary things to make them healthy and bounce back, and so many of those with good health, yet just wasting it.
your friend's boyfriend is an addict. i wish he can get that habit out of his system.
ann
your friend's boyfriend is an addict. i wish he can get that habit out of his system.
ann
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
19 Nov 10
That is very sad. I don't know why some people would go through those depths.
I know I go through my own low times, and sometimes I get overwhelmed by it, but I'm sure that it is nothing compared to someone who would lose mental capacity to go on living. And just waste their lives.
I hope your friend would prove to be instrumental in changing the perspective of her boyfriend. That inspite of everything else, there is reason to go on living. And to make life better for both of them.
@couchpotato143 (110)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
It is so easy to judge especially if you do not know how the person feels. we must accept the fact that there are people who were not built strong especially when dealing with their emotions. This is why shrinks are there in the first place. It only suggests that the person you know is not only the one experiencing this. Like you said, it happened to his brother. Normally, emotions can be contagious. Instead of being judgmental, I think we should try our best to understand such depressed people since it is what they need.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
15 Nov 10
It's an addiction like any other. There is no lesson learned til the final curtain is called in many cases. You'd think a huge hospital bill and so close to a similar fate would of made a light bulb go on! But perhaps he's done it for too long relies on it and won't admit he needs rehab ect. I don't know how your friend can handle being around someone like that. I guess she may have to realize she either can convince him to get help, watch him die, or walk away.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
15 Nov 10
I don't honestly know but suspect that it could be for a number of reasons. About 20 years ago I went to the U.K. to my sister that qas having a very rough time with her youngest son. He was sniffing glue. So we went to the clinic to talk about it and the doctor asked her if she (my sister) was sniffing glue. She was shocked and said no it was her son. He said that he could not do anything until the son came in as she was not the addict.
This story has a happy ending as he got himself together and now owns a finance company with offices in New York and Singapore. He is married to a wonderful wife to whom he told everything and his marriage is great. He is also a very loving and devoted son to his parents.
I hope that the story you told will end differently too, but this, as you know, is not always the case
This story has a happy ending as he got himself together and now owns a finance company with offices in New York and Singapore. He is married to a wonderful wife to whom he told everything and his marriage is great. He is also a very loving and devoted son to his parents.
I hope that the story you told will end differently too, but this, as you know, is not always the case
@craigy123456789 (1759)
•
15 Nov 10
i think that to have a scare like this should put your priorities in order and open up your eyes. It seems he needs to do this and take his life more seriously, otherwise the next trip to the hospital may end up being his last, and for the wrong reasons. Life can end so quickly, it is always best to be careful and sensible with your health.
@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
Now, that person is really suffering from a psychological problem. He wants to inflict pain on himself and just don't care about the people around him. These kind of people are numb and needed a lot of guidance. Has your friend ever considered of bringing the boyfriend to a psychologist just to find out what his real problem is?
I'm sorry that your friend has to put up with this.
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
I think some people do play "Russian Roulette" with their lives out of ignorance. They have not yet met the TRUTH of life, hence they cannot comprehend the source and nature of their affliction and sorrow. Due to ignorance, they view their present condition as "normal" and so continue in the same cycle with tremendous personal consequences and to the detriment of those people close to him. Human beings, have the capacity to change if only he wills to do it, but he cannot change unless he is given the alternative of better existence. The alternative is knowing the Truth of life. Putting it in a nutshell, the Truth of Life is about Self-Control, Self-Denial, and Self-Purification. It is hard, but absolutely attainable. Once entered, the effect is immediate, a life that is joyful, calm and at peace, progressive, blessed follows.
