Torn between two lovers

Love is a broad word, there are several kinds of love. Love for your parents, love for your siblings, your love for friends, your love for a special someone (girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife). Those were the kind of love there is, as to being torn between two lovers well maybe it's possible that there are two persons in love with you, but it can't be you being in love with two different persons. Maybe there's a possibility that you feel affection for both persons but you know within you who between the two you really love, love in the same context with what the two is giving and feeling for you. LOVE (for gf/bf or hubby/wifey) is always a decision. Because the feeling of affection alone couldn't sustain a relationship. Decision do help sustain relationships combined with respect and trust. So if you want a good relationship, then add TRUST and RESPECT to your love. God bless you nereidiane!

Interesting topic, I must say. Well, it happens, sometimes you think of the person as the "ONE" and yet in one moment she is not. Its really difficult to come up with a very concrete answers as to why this happens. Loving two persons at the same time is definitely not a good thing to do. Definitely, we are only entitled to commit into one relationship at a time. By having more than one, that would be a taboo. I guess when we are in a relationship and we still pay attention to others is an indication that there must be something wrong with the current relationship. I bet you will never turn your head to someone who possesses the same qualities as the one you are having. You might be looking for something which is missing that is why you tend to look for someone who can fill that up. I hope I have imparted sensible opinions.

Loving two person at the same time with different levels? That's great,but where is your self respect? Well,every individual has their own opinion in every aspect of life. If your friend believed in it,let her,it's her life and what ever trouble she might be facing soon,it's her fault. Love is all about honesty and faithfulness to your partner. How can you love someone who he is not honest? Because to love is to trust your heart to someone. How can you trust someone who has the capability of loving two person at a time? Have a good day

When my husband and I were in our first year of dating relationship, he was too jealous of all the guys that came near me that really turned me off. Several times i tried to break it off with him and every time I did, he would beg and cry. That time I met a guy who was actually my ideal man, but at first I tried to avoid him because i was already committed. But then he was also persistent that I went out with him too. However, my husband was aware of that situation and just begged me to stay with him. As you can see I was loving two men at the same time, my husband (who was just a boyfriend that time) was more of a pity than love, while the other man was the real thing. But why did I end up with my husband? Because he showed me real love compared to that other man and I would rather choose the man who runs after me than the man i'm running after to.

Hi nere, A lady friend once remarked that the it is the theme song of two timers. If they feel like a fool, then they deserve it for they are fools in the first place. I did not comment on it then for I feel disagreeable to her statements. When I encountered them in my life later on, I know she was right. I have a couple of partners who also sang those songs and I may say, theirs is not love at all but just being out for a good time. Needless to say, I also went with the music, feeling like a fool. And when the time came for me to sing the song, I opt for the lines of Lobo "How Can I Tell Her (about you?)." Strange but one of them became my wife now, and she still remember that song from a long time ago. I wonder if she knew that I also sang the same song to the other girl. A friend remarked on this that this is all a product of insanity and of being insane in trying to "serve two master at the same time." The only time to have peace of mind is to decide and settle down for good.

I've never experience this, I even have a crush one at a time, hehehe. I think it is a very difficult situation especially for the two people one was torn between with, I wouldn't dream of being in this situation. :)

I haven't heard that song before, but I think I had a ways back, like maybe 10 years ago, I felt torn between two lovers but all in the end I let them both go because neither of them were committed to the relationship and I was looking for the one person that would be committed to the relationship and that was the one that I would have picked. In the end though neither were committed. I must agree that it is not only the men that cheat on their significant others, but also women do the same as well. I think that people should stay committed to one person and that is it and not just have commitment to more then one person.

I remember hearing this song alot in the 70s. it was so heartbreaking and sweet at the same time. to be torn by the love of two people is something that most people can not imagine. when it affects your life, it can be crushing, brutal, tragic and even romantic.

It just goes to show that love is indeed unpredictable. We may be in love with one person and the next moment we're in love with another. That song is very true to the bones. It's about human nature and the reality that love sometimes sucks.

Maybe to some people they can love two people but not the same as the other one may be much stronger. But for me, I cannot give my heart to two persons. I can only love one. If I would be loving someone new, it would only mean that my love for the previous one is already gone.

hello diane, well,yes,people can love two persons or more at the same time.but i can say,love can be at different kind of levels also. it can be you both loved the two persons but the other one is the one you loved the most,whom you can always share the most intimate side of you. the deepest secret you have and the person you think you can love and be with the rest of your life. well,it can also come in other ways like, there are people we can't estimate because we might not know that they are just out there for lust and not love. or is it the fact that they don't know how to love at all that's why they just keep on collecting. when in reality they really don't love anyone. it's just a game for them. people do have different kinds of opinions and beliefs in life. it's just how you learn to understand and familiarize with their actions,beliefs and views of life. we can't control what's on their minds as well. so,it's really hard to tell if the person really loves you or not. maybe that's the problem with me also, i find it hard to trust anyone especially in terms of love relationships. proves to be i'm still single right now.

this happened to me before. i was with my ex bf and we broke up and then i continued talking with him to see if things could be solved. but other guy that liked me since more than a year was so sweet so i got tired of what my ex was doing. and gave a chance to that guy. that now is my ex too. anyway it happened bcs i liked my first ex but i felt that the better was give up. i started like the other guy and forgot my ex and gave him chance. and we were happy the prob was that he didnt have time for me. but maybe things can be good again someday but is possible to be undecided between two guys but about love isnt possible. you can love one and have a crush on other. but real love is only for one person. but being undecided and dont know our feelings exactly that can happen.

I don't really believe on such things. You fall in love once at a time. You could not give the two persons involve the same intensity of love. At some point, one chooses the right one and the other one looses the love. It is very ironic that some people use it as an excuse, that he/she both love the two persons. Its complicating their life and they are stressing their life. And I don't know why. If you're experiencing something like that, try to evaluate things. Try to reflect. For me, you cannot love two persons at the same time. ;)

love triangle? its not love, why stick your nose in if its occupied, and why entertain too much, limitations i assume might be in handy in such a situation like this. Im too eager for this because, its too much that you love someone, then she/he loves someone too. its just not fair, too much pride and too much obssession with this kind of relationship

No, and I don't like to experience that because i don't like to be stress..

For me it is beyond normal situation so me I will not.

I don't believe in such crap. Maybe you love the other person with your heart and the other with your mind. You will always have reasons why you love each one differently and it's but proper to base your decisions upon these feelings and reasons. You always have to think about the consequences of your actions and putting yourself in other people's shoes. For me, I will never be a part of such complicated setup.

I never have such experience before,but I believe this situation is exist. Of course,I think that two love isnt the same level as well. Even though its hard to make a dicision immeditaly,you will know who is your really love when time past.

No i havent experienced anything like these, but that seems to be very confusing to trapped between two lovers and choosing one and hurting the other one seems to be very complicated in my opinion.