is men's failure women's pleasure ?

I think that because we have always had the women cooking and men working while the women are at home this statement seems to have stuck. Life has moved on and many women work, just as much as men but it still is the woman that mainly does the cooking. I guess it is just a woman thing, lol. I think nowadays though as there are now many more male chefs around we are used to the men cooking that way but normally in the home it is the woman. Not in my house as i am single and a parent and so it is me that does the cooking, which is good because i do enjoy it and even when i have had relationships in the past, i have cooked for them and things seem to have gone well. I guess that there are many guys out there that either can't cook, don't know how to, or would rather leave it to a woman. Time the men stood up more, got in the kitchen and did some cooking, or even learn to cook, why can't the women put there feet up like men do? Times change so men should also. Is it fair that a man and woman work full time, they come home, the man sits down to watch tv while the woman does the cooking each and everyday? No. Time for men to get some cooking done.

Hello this is 2010 cooking IS NOT THE FEMALES JOB!!!!!!! Nodays females have to work outside the home too. It would be really nice if males can share the household chores too. Personally i love a male that can cook.

Absolutely not and I say that with vehermence. If I had a man who attempted to cook and continually failed I would be terribly disheartened. That would mean I would miss out on having a meal lovingly prepared and served to me, something that rarely happens I assure you. I enjoy cooking and I'm not a bad cook but as with all women, this is a talent that does not come naturally to most and needs to be learned. It seems that a lot of men are born to cook....look at all the great chefs and I see from many, many discussions here that a vast number of guys like to display their talent in the kitchen. To say a man's failure in the kitchen makes a woman feel superior or gives her pleasure is just silly.

I think that because of this supposed myth woman may get a good laugh occasionally if men can't cook. There are many men who are great chefs and do a great job cooking. Men can see how food should be cooked from a man's point of view or taste. Some can cook and some can't. Look at all the barbequers here in the US. Mostly men! I think it all works out.

I am not pleased with my boyfriend for failing in anything, but I am sometimes pleased that I am able to do something he can't. He has an 'older man mentality' sometimes and gets so hung up on all his accomplishments that it makes me want to scream. One day we were leaving school and he was going on and on about how good he thinks he did on test because he is so good at tests and it's not like I'm bad at tests. And often he likes to sit back and tell 'when I was young' stories like he has totally really lived. So, every once in awhile I get to beat him at something and it's an obvious beat and it warms me up and validates me somehow. But, I wouldn't feel like this if he would just shut up sometimes. Women do not want to here self ego boosting all the time. Especially when it boarders on putting us down. Ugg, so when put in a situation where this is happening all the time, of coarse we gloat a little. I mean if your wife were to fail at something you do well, wouldn't you feel a little pleased if you had to hear her bragging all the time about how good at everything she was?

Hi, To some extent it is yes, but that does not mean to hurt us men. They enjoy watching, the way we try to prepare something and land up in something else.I know this pretty well,why because I help my wife in kitchen but she never allows me to do it completely she says I can handle kitchen only up to some extent not completely. I help her in making coffee, tea and also preparing noodles, omelet for breakfast etc beyond that my hands wouldn't work. I tried to once prepare a full course meal as an answer to challenge thrown by her,but I was hands up in the middle of the preparation. she laughed like your wife did and she enjoyed all my efforts with admiration and said she likes to watch me trying to please her and help her. Because they love us more. They laugh.

krajibg thats not true at all as a lot of men are famous chefs and women do not get a kick out of hubbies messing up food that costs real money. No a lot of men can cook but they had the stupid idea thats just a women'a job. I have a feeling that anything a man does not like to do ]he puts off as womens work or job. here in the US a lot of mek coo k in theri own homes and do as good or better than their wives. the thing is they are not raised to think thaat all wor k is just womens work. I am so glad that these old things are no longer bought by our husbands. some couples often cook together.

First of all I don’t agree that men are generally bad cooks because I know several men who are excellent cooks and much better than I would ever hope to be! There are brilliant chefs out there who happen to be men. I have to wonder whether knowing that you are very good at something and watching someone else attempt that very thing and fail would entice our ego to give us a certain pleasure. I don’t think it is limited to cooking, I think it is just human nature to feel good about what we do well...I don’t think it’s about taking pleasure in another’s fiasco but indulging in the fact that we may excel at something.

I think it is best if men know how to cook and not just let his wife cook for himself. It's not a big deal for me if men cook or not. The important thing is that men love his wife and do some kitchen business to serve and show love to his wife

i do not think so, not a man can not work in the kitchen but not used. when before they were married i often cook it until marriage even they can surely work in the kitchen

Not exactly, I haven't ever thought about that. In marriage, you have to fill in the weakness of your partner especially when you believe you have strength in that aspect.

I believe that men are very good cook. I watch cooking shows and I can testify also because my husband really cooks great! When i cook and it tastes better than his, i feel good. Who wouldnt? I don't really cook at all! And if my cooking is better than someone whom everybody knows as a good cook, then i should be rejoicing! shouldnt I? And when someone who is known to be a very good cook (like my husband) fails, isnt it exciting that even for once, this great cook failed! He is like me after all...

I don't think so!if I have a boy friend ,I'd like he to share cooking with me!I don't want cooking is my own responsibility!if he can't ,I'll teach him!That someone would like to cook for you is a romantic thing!

I think men can be good at all things and women can be too, if people stopped getting one up on each other life would be easier.

I have found that generally, men are very good cooks. They are not afraid to experiment with different flavors and cooking methods. They do not associate success in cooking with their self image so they are not afraid of failure. Most men I have met are very good cooks, even if they rarely do so. I would not take pleasure in a man's failure in cooking or anything else. That is not healthy.

Hi krajibg: I think this happends not only with cook but with the things girls think that they are really good at it. I have a friend and she laugh at me when I was trying to do some decorating because she was amazing making things look beautiful and I don't . But I'm sure that this doesn't happend with all girls. ALVARO

Are you new with your wife? You don't seem to know or understand why she is laughing as I also do not know. I do hate it when a woman bribes her intelligence on knowing what she's good at unless if the woman pities the man's work, its hard to explain. Some men are also good cooks and some women suck at it, so don't consider that it's a woman's job. Men can do more than women, but some of the women has ego large as Africa. Women are just trying very hard to compete with men.

hahaha. cute! i dont think it is. in my case i think my bf cooks better than me. does that also means my failure is his pleasure? hahaha...

I can only base my response on what I have seen and can only rely on my experiences. But I am a superb cook and find that no so far I can have can top me. However, my live in boyfriend does a lot of cooking and there are a great number of dishes he exquisitely makes well. I also have frequent many fine dining in my life of which most have been male cooks and they have done an excellent job. So although perhaps not as many as women there are men who can be great cooks.

I believe it is so. Perhaps it depends upon the nature of the women and may differ.