Long Distance Relationship, Would you settle for it or not?

I'm in a long distance relationship and we've been together for almost two years now. Even though we're from different countries we try to visit each other a few times a year, and whenever we're apart we can still talk everyday via Skype, so we can still hear and see each other. It's a little tough sometimes, because we miss each other a lot, but we manage. I guess whether a long distance relationship works or not depends on the people involved, it may work for some, and for others it may not... as for myself, I'm really happy to have my boyfriend and I wouldn't change him for anyone else, even if that means being in a long distance relationship :)

I think long distance relationship is work. Because there has missing partner physically i.e. help when a couple meet together. It increase love for each other. And, now the cause is working if they are true lover. If not, then physically present/not present is same. And i would settle for it.

In my personal opinion, long distance relationships don't work. Not so much because of the lack of physical contact because that is all in how often you visit each other and how much understanding there is between the two parties. My main concern with these relationships is the trust. how can you build a bond of trust when you're never around the other person to see how they act. My daughter was in a long distance relationship and she knew I highly disapproved of it. She learned the hard way trust is a key element in a relationship and she learned the hard way that she could not trust this man. She's the kind of person that when she loves she loves deep and true. Not many people are like that anymore so I am proud of her. But that also gets her in trouble. This man hurt her badly. Don't trust a long distance relationship unless you can spend more than maybe once a month with him.

I myself had been in unsuccessful long distance relationship, but I do have a friend who has been survived in a long distance relationship. So probably it's not the distance that matters but the invested emotion into the relationship. Just like the saying goes, it varies, and not sure what to believe. Like "absence makes the heart grow fonder" which is contrary to "out of sight, out of mind". So which do you think is real when it has to do with LDR?

I had few long distance relationships but never works. It's extremely hard for me, we need a strong love relationship, a big tolerance, an extensive patient, a neverending trust, a good communication and also a big budget of money. :)

Hello tokwa99! I do not actually approve of long distance relationship. I have tried it myself before but it did not turn out right for me. There is no guarantee with the failthfulness of your love ones if you are far from each other, that is my idea though, however there are living proofs though that other couples were able to make it. But for me, it's not my kind of thing. :-)

I used to defend long distance relationships working but I don't anymore. The reason I used to think it can work is because one of my sisters was in one that was working. They actually met in Mexico when they were both on holidays and he lived in Toronto and she lived in Winnipeg, which are both in Canada but still 3000 KM apart or so. At least it was closer than one living in Canada and one living in Mexico. They were together for 6 years. They took turns flying back and forth to spend a week together, every 3 weeks. They were both business owners and so they both could afford it but yet he usually paid for her as well as his own. The way they worked it out they each took a week off of work every 6 weeks. And they took times together that would last a month, they would meet at a resort somewhere like Mexico or Cuba or where ever and then go on to one or the others home for a few weeks. They did that about twice a year. So they did spend a lot of time together and the plan was in another 3 years my sisters kids would be off to college so she was going to move to Toronto to get married and live there. Then one day, his birthday week, she surprised him two days earlier than he was expecting her and she had keys so she just walked in and took her suitcase up to his bedroom and found him in bed with another woman. To make a long story short, turns out the other woman lived with him for the last 3 years of the 6 years my sister was seeing him and she knew about my sister and was okay with it. So when my sister would go to Toronto to see him she would dissappear and then go back home when my sister left. Can you believe it? Then with myself...I moved to another city and my common-in-law husband of 12 years was supposed to follow me a year later. That year turned out to be 2 years and in those 2 years we flew back and forth to see each other but it wasn't working and he decided that after 2 years he wasn't moving after all so we broke up. In my view long distance relationships don't work....for a lasting forever kind of relationship. They may work for some people but not for me. Cheers and Happy mylotting my friend , Chris

I was in a long-distance relationship with my wife for almost a year before we got married. I think the chances of success in a long-distance relationship is directly related to how far away from each other the people are. The farther away the people are, the less likely the chances that the relationship will work out. I was able to see my wife at least every couple of months, so it really wasn't that bad. The six-hour drive one-way was a little strenuous, but overall, things weren't that bad.

I think that the suscess of a long distance relationship depends on the two people involved. They would have to see eachother once in a while. If they kept very busy and had little time to really think about their situation then it could work also. The longer two people aren't together the more strained things become.

I don't know if I'm a long distance relationship material. But then again, I never had one. I suppose it would depend on the other person I was involved at the time. Because it takes two to tango, as they say. I'm sure if both parties did their best, and tried to meet on a somewhat regular basis, a relationship like that could work. Besides, when it comes to love, you have to be optimistic!

For some people it does seem to work. For me it would be fine for the odd short period, but I don't think that a long distance relationship would be right for me in the long term.

i am with a long distance relationship for 10 years, but i can't agree that this king of relationship could really end up into a cinderella stories, relationship requires some distances but it also requires hugs, kissess and touches.. this is what might make a relationship last long

same here. you could never feel the heat if they are far away from the fire.

i will settle for it but i will make ways for remove the distance between us. if you truly love a person yes you can settle being in a long distance but you wont just settle on that forever cause you will make things happen

I believe in the bond or strength of the friendship. As long as there is trust and sincerity, the friendship will be strong and hence the relationship can sustain. This is easier if both parties are within reach of each other. Over long distance, this gap is there. However, if both is able to communicate with each other over long distance, it is fine to go into such a relationship. Personally, I would not go into it as I prefer to see and feel physically.

Your right, my friend. There is a vice versa distinction in that particular matter. Because not all person has a good perceptions about love or let say long distant relationship. There are people that no patient for waiting. There are also people that relationship didn't work because of money matters. There are also long distant relationship which end due to behavioral aspect and many others which is the reason for a long distant relationship did not materialize

For a couple just starting out I would agree with you, what a recipe for disaster! But if my boyfriend and I had been together for awhile and he needed to move away for a short period of time I would be willing to have a distance relationship with him until he was able to come back. I guess the key is if it's a new or an old relationship and if it's a permanent or temporary distance thing.

Hi tokwa, I doubt that long distance relationship will be fair for both. Unless, if you've met the person personally, then maybe you could trust. But even if you have a sibling from a long distance, he/she could still do wrong to you. What more a stranger? Stranger isn't the right term but everybody knows blood is thicker than water. I'm not sure yet about the success rate on it but I'm sure that it usually fails.

As a student i thought that whether it is physical relation r virtual relation "FEEL" is important... Once you feel as you friend r ny other close relation you can not forget them....

That depends .To be frank ,it doesn't fit for me either .However ,one of my roomies in my college can keep a long-distance relationship with her girlfriend .And you know what ? They are getting married soon .So it is hard to say whether is definitely possible or impossible .Speaking of relationship,maybe it is time for me to go for a romantic love .Wish me luck !!