I am planning my wedding

Just tell her patiently that you disagree about her idea, and you should have prepare and discus to her what is you idea, I think that can help.

hmmm...that seems a big issue - wedding. try to talk to her and tell her in a subtle how you feel. maybe she would understand.

If you are independent enough and you can live by yourself then ask your parents about your plans of course. You have a life to live. Tell them that you are matured enough to handle things especially when it comes to family because you are planning a wedding. Hope it helps.

My friend is also planning her wedding. Her wedding is going to be a few months from now and I am really excited about it. She ask me to make her wedding cake for her. I think that will be our wedding gift and we are pretty sure she's going to like it.

First of all: Welcome to MyLot! I think your situation is rather delicate (I am also planning my own wedding at the moment, so I know!) but you can do what I did: tell her that you really have very good ideas regarding most things yourself, but that you could really use her help with something small. I asked my Mom to be in charge of invitations, because I really wasn't interested in them anyway, for instance, and she got really into it and does not bug me about other things anymore. Other suggestions could be to ask her to plan the bar, plan bridesmaids gift's or be in charge of the guest book or whatever. Something small, so that she feels she is needed (if you can think of a reason she would be so awesome at it, even better. I told my Mom I wanted her to do the invitations because she is so artistic, for instance, which she was really happy about!) and you are not ignoring her. Otherwise, you need to be firm and honest I guess. But that can be really hard to do with family members, which is why I went for the diversion instead :) Congrats on getting engaged! And enjoy the wedding planning, it should be fun! :)