Suddenly you fall in love to your best friend

Have you tried coming clean with her? If shes your best friend Im sure shell be understanding and supportive (stop texting for a while etc) just remember its easy to turn a friendship into a relationship, but nearly impossible to turn a relationship into friendship.

just tell her how you feel and and tell her you cant just be friends that you need something more or that you have to move on and can not see her anymore just put it all out on the table

Been there! Done that! Hahaha it came to a point where everybody thought we were an item already. You just have to make a decision on where you want your relationship to go. Stop "falling" and figure out where you fell. If you think that you are IN LOVE with her tell her directly that this is the relationship you want. However, if she does not feel the same way about you, then you have to accept her feelings. I have been there I know how it hurts and how good it makes you feel to be with her at the same time. But in order to move on, you just have to believe that she will not lead you on. If she says your are just friends than deal with it close the door. My best friend and I are now married to different people. we are still very close we know we love each other but we also know we are better of as friends. We were never a couple. But we treasure each other as friends. I don't have any desire or delusion to try to make it otherwise. What we have will be be romantic again. And I'm happy with that, knowing that I will always have a friend who will be there for me when I need her.

YOu got to tell her what you feel man! At least clear it up with her. Doing it could help you to move on to, because if you don't tell her that and you just continue what you're doing, you won't be able to get away from that situation at all. Give yourself a break and tell her exactly what you feel and who knows she might have the same thing for you. If not, then that's the time you really have to move on with your life.

well, i know how it feels. once, i was in your position too, and once i was on her positition too. all that you can do is tell your feeling to her. no matter what, you have to be ready if she refused you and dont want to be your friend anymore. i guess no matter what the respon, it is the best thing for your life. if she received you, then, you dont have to keep this feeling over and over again. you can get her as your girlfriend. but if she refuse you, and dont want to be your friend anymore, you can forget her easily and you can move forward and looking for your true love. just make your self ready before you say it, my friend. if you want to keep that feeling. it is not good for your life. you will be trapped in this rotation forever. you cant love any other girl and you cant get her too. fighting :)

well thats not possible!! you already know each other your strengths and weaknesses.. If both of you love each other!!then you could have a better relationships.. KEep it up.. happy mylotting..

Hi. bulastika. I think that you two will need to be honest with each other. Be honest with her and tell her how you really feel. It is obvious that you have some special feelings for her. I am sure that she sees this too. I hope that she will tell you how she feels so that you both can stop all of the back and forth with each other. Take care.

Being together for such a long time, sharing good and bad things, memories, etc, falling for that someone is not impossible. If you had tried to tell her and still she insist that her feeling is just a friend, why don't you take a back off for a while? Give her space and time to realize what is it without you? You see, she is like that because she knows you can say no to her, let say she's in the thinking that you can let her out of your life because you love her. Why not let her feel your absence? In that way, she may realized your worth for her and for sure will discover a change in her. Try that. Nothing to loose, beside you too want to let her go. If this is acceptable for you, start it now or else it would be late for both of you. Good luck to you.

Falling in love with your best friend can be a wonderful feeling. you already know so much about each other. it can also be a problem if the friend doesn't feel the same way for you. This is is a risk you have to be willing to take. Romance can fade, but friendship can always be a part of your life.

Reminds me of my best friend when I was still in college. Actually you're even lucky that in spite of what you feel for her and her knowing it, the relationship remains unchanged. I guess you just have to keep on waiting for who knows she might have a change of heart and fall in love with you too. Just be patient and just be there for her every time.

Admit yourself that you are in love and go propose her, its better that way to let her know what you feel for her and how much you love her and all, its better than keeping that love for yourself, the tension would be over quick if she loves you or not, look for the best time to say it and speak to her. specially if you want to share your life with her just say it dude. if it was me i would look on what her feeling towards me and if she loves me am going for it then. either way it may be that she loves you it seems.

Boy, that's really hard. I hope you'll get her soon somehow. Maybe she's not going to realize it soon. But as you're falling inlove with her, control your actions and feelings towards her. Prove her in her challenges in life that you are worth eternity for each other. You can hug her by now, you're still best friends anyway. That's how you can show love to her, unless if you're not so flexible about it. Take it slow, I bet there's still a long way for both of you to fall for each other.

this is normal and for such a long friendship it is absolutely normal.. from my opinion you should make her feel your love for her.. do not take too much care for her, because girls will obviously find it like acting, instead try acting like you avoid her, if she responds positively then you can continue doing like this.. but don't avoid her like you never want to see her anymore instead talk with her sometimes and avoid her sometimes.. she will definitely find your confusion and there are chances for you to get attention from her... Good luck bulastika...

Hi bulastika. Personally, I think that if you have been best of friends for 10 years now, both of you must have had known each other well. When we are with a person for so long, somehow we get to know or we become familiar with how that person thinks or reacts in certain ways. I think there is a possibility that your best friend somehow has an idea how you really feel for her. It's not really assuming, sometimes some people could really feel it. Some women have quite good instincts. Maybe that is also why she constantly tells you that you two will just stay as friends. I'm not saying this is really the case, it's just a possibility. I know it's hard to fall for someone especially when both of you have already formed a strong foundation, ten years of friendship is a lot. Although it's a good start for having a much deeper relationship, still it doesn't always happen for some good friends. Not to put you down or anything, I just based it on what your friend told you. If she is really aware that you like her or you are falling for her, she should be more sensitive or cautious with your feelings and try to give a little or some space just to help you cope up with it. As a friend, it's also good to do her part to help you. She doesn't need to call you often and ask you to do stuffs with her that make you fall for her over and over again. If she doesn't, then the more you have to do it yourself. I think it's best for you to really stand up for your decision on forgetting her. I know you might be thinking about your friendship but at this point, if you're really hurting, it's time to do something about it. If you two are really best of friends, your friendship can and will survive even with lesser time with each other for a while anyway. You can only forget her if you allow yourself too, otherwise, you just put yourself in a difficult and painful situation. It also wouldn't be healthy in your friendship if one of you is in love with the other. I think she also wouldn't want you to suffer from playing the part of just being her friend when you do have feelings for her. It's about time you have the courage to put your plan into action even if she calls you again. If it will cause you problems with her, then it may be helpful to explain to her why you are doing it. It may somehow have an effect on her but if it's really necessary to tell the truth then I think we have no choice. Again, if you are really best friends, she will understand it and later on, when you have already moved on or solved this problem, you two can hangout with each other again without worrying that you might fall for her again. You just have to let yourself undergo the complete process of forgetting somebody you love. It's not easy, it's not that fast, but it's not impossible to do if you're really determined. You just have to weigh what's more important for you, either save yourself and your friendship with her or suffer and let your friendship also suffer. Whatever you decide, make it your motivation or drive to be able to achieve your goal. I know you can do it. =)

For me yes we need to recognized after all for that situation.

If you'Re falling in love with her then go get her before i get my hands on her. If you think she's the one, it's all worth it, i'm telling you.

I used to have that experience before, it was painful because the guy didn't know (or just pretended not to know) I was falling for him already. But I could feel that then feeling he was showing then wasn't mere friendship anymore, but pure love, we were just shy to acknowledged our inner and mutual love until we parted ways literally because we have to chose our own universities..

Then my situation will be difficult. I want to express my feelings to her. But a question in my mind, will depress me all time, the friendship might be then in deep trouble. I must try to maintain a distance from her in this subject of love. I also try to understand her feelings, emotions and willing as a good friend.... If she is very close with me then i will discuss with her, what is love at sight??????? If she answer, love is a feelings that came any time, any where in any person... Then i will offered a question to her,"if a guy loves you very much from true heart, and you know him from a long time of your life. But he can't express his feelings to you?" How you can feel his feelings???? If that time she show interest in that matter, i think it's easy to express her how much i love her???????