Mr. McBean... You Are Not The Father!!!

While accidents do happen, they are both adults and should share equal responsibility. It's not ALL on the women. Woman always tend to take the brunt of the encounter. They are the one that gets pregnant, have to figure out the father and I do agree that it should not be such a puzzle but in reality...it can be, they raise the child and even if the father is determined and actually pays child support...9 out of 10 instances, it is the woman whose world is changed up to care for the child. More often and surely not always the man sees the children or child on his terms and when it fits conveniently into his schedule. While there are women that do deliberatley claim a man is the dad when he is not, I have to say that in most cases she doesn't have a clue. She is as irresponsible as the guy and just going after who she wishes it was or thinks will be the best dad. And often she might really think it is the guy she names. If the guy she names as the dad doesn't KNOW then he is as irresponsible as she is.

Hi Sid . Thanks for responding. I actually know of one or two cases where the child was knowingly passed on to another man in a bid to hide the real paternity of the child or where the woman wanted to somehow get back at the real father. There are cases where the real father is sure (or strongly felt) his girlfriend was bearing his child but she denies it is his child. I agree it might be hard to prove but it would not be impossible. The effects the punishment to the mother would have on the child is important to bear in consideration but I do feel that some measures should be put in place to catch women who wantonly do this. The fact is that when a woman knowingly pass on a child to the wrong man by trickery that is where the first hurt is inflicted on the child. The truth has a way of coming out even after years of being hidden. It would be at the discretion of the court and the offended man but I think if the man so desires then he should be financially compensated. Each case would have its own level of sensitivity so a blanket cure is not applicable.

I agree with you. We cant just ignore the hurt and misery that such a situation created for the man. He was tricked into emotionally bonding with a child which was not his while the woman is there observing all this knowing that they were living a lie. It is a royal mess that she should not be able to just escape from because she knows the law will favor her for the sake of the child.

I gather from your comment that you do not like it when a child is referred to as being illegitimate. I am not sure though but I'd like to say thanks for sharing your views. Happy Mylotting

I sorry but I nearly keeled over with laughter when I realized you think I was talking about myself. SMH I actually have not even had my first child yet and have never been pregnant. Its OK though. No hard feelings about that mistake. I brought the subject up here because a friend of mine emailed me an article on this topic. Thanks for sharing your thoughts forumtank.

It is a sad state of affairs indeed. It is worrying that women have chosen this sort of trend. We do bash the men a lot for the ills they do but there are behaviors such as this which should be highly discouraged among the women as well.