An Elicit Affair

If I can find a woman who is like that then what a bliss. But then again, as you mentioned in one of your posts it's tempting fate. I have not done it actually, but I'm sure this kind of arrangement is nothing new and I wouldn't be surprised if people are doing it already but that's their lives and they can do whatever they want with it. To be honest, having an illicit affair is one of my fantasies . Just imagine making love to different women and keeping everything from my clueless wife. But having fantasies is one thing and making it come true is another. I wouldn't say that I would forever remain faithful but I'm not yet moving nor do I have plans of moving in that direction. Having an illicit affair, even if there's no strings attached, is just like putting a rope in your neck and feel it tighten little by little before the big jump.

No, i mean it is not the solution at all. If you are not satisfied to each other, then end that marriage before any worst thing will happen. Simple as that, as long as you are committeed to somone right now, please forbid yourself from such affair, that is not the solution. Thank you for a nice topic my friend and happy mylotting. :-):-)

i second the motion. this is not the solution to a bad marriage problem. it will only make the mess even bigger and harder to deal with ... it's either save the marriage by whatever means it's gonna take, or, leave it. and fall in love again with someone who's not married.

It's definitely not the proper way to resolve a problem. You maybe getting through tough times of your marriage, but what if the other is not? Do you want someone to be in pain just like what you're having now? You know how it feels, don't let someone suffer the same. It must be only temptation for both of you. He might see you in your weakest mood, and you see him to be your savior in such situation. But try to look farther and consider the aftermath of the consequences. This is just an opinion.

Hi sweetie. No, whatever the problem should be, this is not the answer at all. 2 people will get hurt. And for what exactly? Rather both of them get divorced then they can play. But you have to be sure that is what you want. TATA.

Honestly? I cannot tell. I wouldn't know how it feels like to be a married woman who is not contented with her marriage. In the first place, I guess it would be a great responsibility of a woman to choose the one she can offer he life for. As for the present situations that we may hear from people around, discontented women are most likely to engage in illicit affairs. Women needs to be loved, caressed and to be treated as a woman and not a hard shield that would guard off the relationship and take her needs for granted. Anyone would say I DO NOT AGREE WITH IT. I WOULD NOT ENGAGE IN ILLICIT AFFAIRS. Who would want to? But I have a question... why women do? They have their reasons. And if maybe, that is the only way I can feel my worth as a woman, I just don't know if I could hold back. Maybe I would it would be able to hold back but it would much of sacrifice. And I wouldn't know if I could still add another sacrifice, not receiving a single drop of love and respect from my spouse. It would be a chain of misery.

No, i mean it is not the solution at all. If you are not satisfied to each other, then end that marriage before any worst thing will happen. Simple as that, as long as you are committeed to somone right now, please forbid yourself from such affair, that is not the solution. Thank you for a nice topic my friend and happy mylotting. :-):-)

No, i mean it is not the solution at all. If you are not satisfied to each other, then end that marriage before any worst thing will happen. Simple as that, as long as you are committeed to somone right now, please forbid yourself from such affair, that is not the solution. Thank you for a nice topic my friend and happy mylotting. :-):-)

No, i mean it is not the solution at all. If you are not satisfied to each other, then end that marriage before any worst thing will happen. Simple as that, as long as you are committeed to somone right now, please forbid yourself from such affair, that is not the solution. Thank you for a nice topic my friend and happy mylotting. :-):-)

No, i mean it is not the solution at all. If you are not satisfied to each other, then end that marriage before any worst thing will happen. Simple as that, as long as you are committeed to somone right now, please forbid yourself from such affair, that is not the solution. Thank you for a nice topic my friend and happy mylotting. :-):-)

No I wouldn't. If you are not happy with your relationship. Settle it first. Try to communicate what is going wrong. But if it can't be resolved then its time to leave the relationship. It is better if you solve first your real problem before commiting to another solution that will create another problem. You are just making yourself more unhappy if you dare to go into a elicit realtionship while married. Your guilt will pull you down more. I say this because I've been there. And however you say NO STRINGS ATTACHED... in the end all people involved will get hurt.

I don't think that giving in to an intimate relationship with another married one would solve the problem. The person is already in a devastating relationship. Why would anyone add a burden to what seems to be a turmoil situation. Being happy can be diverted to another way. Too much complication in life will only make things worst.

Don't give up so quick if you got problem with your partner talk it over and then let him know what you want. Having someone for awhile even with or without strings attach is just messing yourself and the others whose involve. It's never an answer in a relationship to have a comfort men/woman in awhile.

Of course not. First, it is not a right thing to do. Second, you would hurt your boyfriend, and you will be acused cheating. Third, you would hurt that person's husband/wife. You could be a home-wrecker and ruin their lives. Fourth, you'll find yourself crying in the future when he did to you what he did with his wife/husband.

Hi eureka! You know the answer to your question...........!!!. You see both the situation you mention is like 'between devil and the deep sea'. Still, I would like to say that if I am in such a situation, I will not choose the second option, come what may because the second option could be a great peril and could be a double edge sword to ruin 'two families'. I will try to fulfill my biological and other needs through other available means, rather than having an intimate relationship with (another) married person. This is purely my opinion and my perception, you do not necessarily have to agree with me.

No, I can't imagine myself doing something like that. If I were married and not happy then I would do what I could to work things out. If it was impossible then I would just end the marriage. I would think that having an affair would only complicate things and make the situation worse.

No I wouldn't, its not worth all the pain and suffering that will end up happening when the affair ends. I want someone for myself and not sharing with another women. You are just creating bad karma for yourself and in the end of it all he will leave you for yet another woman or to just stay with the wife. Most men who cheat will end up doing the same thing to you once the thrill of it all is gone. If kids are involved it gets even worse. Look at all the people in the news that this has happened to especially the politicians. No even if the temptation is there I would fight it to the bitter end. I always live by "do onto others as you wish them to do too you." Living by this keeps you out of trouble.

Nothing execuses such a deed, an affair is an affair, no matter the reasons are, well instead of cheating , i suppose it's better for the couple to talk about it so straight if they are mature & fearfull enough to keep the bounds of marriage stick. Yes marriage can have such cold intimate time, but each part need to be understandable so the marriage goes on. So in my opinion, if someone loves his partner, he/she will never cheat on him.

I'd rather get a big stone and bash myself in the head. In that way I may be able to come to my senses and deal with the situation in a more intelligent manner.

This is why SWINGERS clubs were invented. so that both partners can gain what they are intimately desiring but don't have the guts to tell the person who they are married to or in love with what they need...