what would you do if your dad act like you are garbage?

Even if your father acted that way you still need to love your father. Let your father think bad about you. The important thing is that you love your father which you learn from the bible... Meaning you obey the commandment of God and that is the most important thing than to love your father. Have a great day!

Hi Annawen, You are 25 and an adult. The bible might say to respect your parent but I think that might mean to treat them with respect. Actual respect has to be earned. Hitting you and calling you names is abuse, anna and I think you should do all you can to get away from him as soon as possible. Do you have a job? Are you able to support yourself on your own? Where is your mom? Would it be possible to move in with her? No one should have to put up with abuse and from what you are saying here, it sounds as if you have been for years.

Perhaps it's time to confront your dad. Ask him directly. Start with Dad, don't you love me anymore???? He will want to know why you say this. Explain it all. He might not realize what he has been doing. He might also not realize you are a grown woman. Nothing clears the air more than a one on one talk. If you are just too scared to talk, at least write a letter so he will come to you. Communication is key in all relationships. Get it all out!!

i think there are humans beings that are the low of the low, they just want to have kids because they "they have to" as everybody else is doing, or because of an "accident". that's how they end up horrible parents i think we have to try a relationship, always thinking in our own but when enough is enough, we have to be distant, there are parents who can only hurt their kids, physically or psycologically

i could feel that my dad is hostile and sarcastic. never give encouragement and hes not a sweet person. im so fed up with his sh!t. hes a nagger and a critic and everything that comes out from his mouth is negative. for him magic words does not exist. no sorry, no thankyou...home is always bleak and gloomy so im planning to move out soon. im planning to go abroad to get rid of him...

It would be truly difficult to experience that especially from a father. I believe respect begets respect. If a person wants to be respected, he or she should respect other people first in order to gain or be deserving for their respect as well. But I think it would be somehow different when our parents are involved. We have that respect ever since, it would be hard to erase it for most people. Personally, I would be really hurt and disappointed on my father's attitude towards me. Even though I try hard not to mess with him, at one point, I may just burst out and tell some rude words to him. But as much as possible, I want to avoid that to ever happen or not happen again. I also believe that another mistake can't correct the first. He may have treated me worst but if I also treat him that way, will it change our situation? Will it make me feel better? For me, I guess not. I wouldn't want to change into a bad person just because of a person like that. It's not worth it. If it's really hurting me physically and emotionally, to the point of destroying my dignity as a person, and I can no longer stay some more, I think I have to move out. Although they are my family, I think it's best to allow myself to have a good and peaceful life after all those years I've tried to please him. I think I deserve more than being treated like that, I want to save that remaining dignity for myself. Moving away doesn't always mean I no longer love my family and that I will never come back. I just want to give them time to really realize and understand our situation. I also want to give myself time to heal. When the time comes that all wounds have healed, I'll try to communicate with them and assess if things have now changed. Maybe we can have a chance to be together again and this time as a real family. I don't want to fully close the possibility of reuniting with them and starting over again. Who am I not to forgive? =)

As they said, you can choose your friend but you can't choose your family. You're still obliged to love him despite that. Your father is an @ss but you still have to respect him as a father. That's your test.

oh...i think this one is worse than my dad. hmmm... i could somehow relate. my way is to always try to talk in a subtle way. if it doesnt work i just end up crying until my parents realize that i am already old enough to handle myself and that they are inflicting me pain. i make sure they understand that i dont want to disobey them, but i just want to live my own life and i still value their advices even if i might not be able to follow them. hope things will be better soon for you pal. =)

Hello Anna, i would just leave the home, where my father lives and will start a new life. You are 25 years old, which means grown up and you can make your own decisions without asking for his blessing. The one who can bless you is the God you believe in, because you are too patient with your father. Just move on and forget about that dark years of your life. And don't think that God will judge you if you leave your home. I don't think that you still love and respect your father with your heart, if he is doing so bad things with his own daughter. So if you are not respecting that person with your heart, there is no sense you to stay and suffer that way you do now. It will be the same if you stay there without love and respect to him, or if you leave the home. Just the second thing will be better for you as a person. I'm sure you will feel better. At the same time, i wouldn't love and respect that kind of father. So i don't blame you, i just can feel your pain, not because i got that kind of father, but because i've seen people, like you, who has problems with their family and it's terrible. Move on girl, you are strong!

so you're 25 now?!.... 25 years with that kind of father, is enough for me... if you could, why not ran away from home?!. just make sure you will do good with your life. maybe you would be better that way.. you're old enough you can already make a living. everything has to be end, his cruelty must last.. if you will not do anything to stop it, then who would?! you can decide for your own welfare now. if he's the kind of father who listens then its so simple, just talk to him, but based on what you said, he's really not a good father. I dont want to influence you bad, but i find no reason why you still live under your "not" so loving father. just make sure you'll do good! If you succeed your father will then realized that he's the one mistaken.

i will ran away with my girlfriend.