How do you handle intimacy issues in your marriage?

Communication. If you're not being satisfied, you TELL your partner. If he can't or won't change, then you have to evaluate whether you can stay in a relationship with a person like that.

I have gone through severe crisis with regards to intimacy issues with my husband. I did a lot of reading and listened to counseling sessions about intimacy and learned that getting intimate is not limited to the act in bed but also through touching, embracing, hugging, tickling, little kisses and just holding hands or sitting/lying next to each other. Since my husband's culture is very conservative, i always initiate these actions and encourage him to respond or do the same. He is not used to these but he responds although I need to remind and encourage him all the time. Also, i refocus my energies to other more noble thoughts and activities so i wont have time mourning over my husband's disability to satisfy me.

sender with the help of unconditional love, you love one other as you are as none of us are perfect.too many people now days look at so called mates as being able to exchange for one better when they discover oh my G. he leaves the toile seat up or she hangs wet clothes in the shower stall oh horrors we must split up, cannot take that, and each finds another person. only they are not perfecg either so out goes another relationship.this is silly. who is perfect, show me one person who has no flaws? Iam widowed but we used communication, talked our problems out and compromised at times, and wor ked to keep our marriage wonderfully fulfilling.

Hi Sender, When I feel that the relation is not going the right way, I feel there is something that needs to rejuvenate the relationship. Things that we try are change in place - like a holiday or break to a different place, a movie at the theater or even a dinner at the restaurant. It has been helpful in our short span of 4-year married life and I believe that we would have to look for more options when the relation grows in age. Cheers, theSids.

Many things happen in a marriage both good and bad, yes you are to love your partner, especially when marrying them. This was not the case for me, i got married as my partner was pregnant and i thought it was the best thing to do, i hoped that as time went on i could love her, i was so wrong. We did have many unsatisfied intimate moments, there was already really distance between us as there was no love there, we hardly spent much time together as i was working hard to bring money in for our family, while i was doing this i later learned that my wife was coming back to our old town and sleeping with her ex, no wonder we had less intimate times, but as i said, there was no love that i felt and so i was happy with no intimate times. If things were different then this would have to be discussed as atleast one of us would have a problem, to share that problem may create a good answer and you could then move on and things may change and get much better.

Having intimacy issues is a part of marriage and it's one that you have to deal with together. I just got hitched lately and although everything is still lovey-dovey now, we both know that we'll face intimacy issues along the way. Besides, there's more to relationships than just physical intimacy and sooner or later the relationship moves to a deeper kind of intimacy, which is more lasting. Couples who are able to achieve that deserve mad respect.

It's not only in marriage that intimacy issues arise. I am not married but I have a boyfriend, and as you say, a relationship is not all romance and sweetness, and intimacy can fell more of an obligation than something special to be shared and cherished. My partner and I recognize this. So what we do is talk about it casually. Sometimes, when one of us feel a bit touchy on the issue, we text each other about it. For some people like me, texting is sometimes better than talking face to face, because we could express ourselves without fear of rejection and embarrassment. That way, both of us find a way to make each moment more romantic. If talking doesn't work, one of us goes away for a solo weekend, and then come back rejuvenated.