When you are a mother, everything you do is wrong

Mothering is a hard job because of the fact that you are on call all the time. You never have a day off because you always have to be there when your child needs you. That said, however, it really sounds like the roles that you are playing in your life are not all working together such that you can be effective as both a mother and also an employee. It sounds like you either need to look for an employer that is more understanding than your boss right now or you need to find a different babysitter for your son.

Hi, I can fully understand your hard situation. At one hand, you are working and have to fulfill your duty,but at another hand, you have your son there who need your cares when he was sick. You are like sandwiches,have to work and have to be at home. But there is impossible for you to fulfill both needs at the same time. So you need to make the final decision on which one you should let go. If your family financial situation are good enough,maybe you can consider to let go your office work and stay at home looking after your son. Of course, if he is getting well,then you can try do some home-based work like doing Mylot, writing paidposts, or get some jobs that you can bring home to do it.At least, you are still earning money while you are at home. Or else, if you decided to stick to your current job,then you may need your close relatives or family members to help you takecare of your son while he is sick,so that you can concentrate doing your work in the office. LIke my situation, I always feel like going out to work,but because nobody can help me takecare of my son, that is why I have to be at home for this time being. I do hope as my son grows up, I can be out to work again and earn some money for myself. I may consider to be tuition teacher,at least my working hour is not that stagnant and probably I will only doing a part time basis,so I will still can have some time with my son at home. Do think carefully what you want for your life,make a wise decision and discuss it with your life partner.

That is why I choose to be a stay at home mom. I've often thought about working, I'd like to work.. but I'd come across problems like this too. I'd need time off when the kids are sick, time off when there's no school because I can't afford a babysitter for all 5 kids, time off when there's a play or concert at school because my children would be devestated if I missed all their little performances. It's so much easier to just be a stay at home mom and not worry about these issues. Unfortunately I do not have any skills that would allow me to work from home. Perhaps you could find a job making decent money while working from home, then your son wouldn't have to go to daycare.. or maybe your husband can work more hours so you can continue to afford to stay home. You could also look into what you can cut back on as far as your bills so that losing your income won't hurt so much.

I was lucky...my husband works full time to support me and our children. I've never had to leave the kids at day care, so in that one aspect I've never had to worry...but in others, of course I have, but the kids are grown now and I think I did a very good job! They're all fine young men and women starting lives of their own now..

Hi Helihi!. Welcome to our great community . I hope you will enjoy your time here. I know its must be hard for you to choose between your job and your sons. I can not say much because I am have not in your position because I am still single. I think taking your kid in first priority its will be good if you had someone else to support you like your husband. If not I think its will wise to seek help from your family. Thats what are family for isn't it?, to help each others.

I understand where you are coming from. My daughter is 10 years old and I have worked since she was 10 months old (I am a single mom). There was an attempted abduction of a child near where I live near the school and so I don't want her standing in the school playground on her own for half an hour every morning. This means I am 10 minutes late for work every day. I always make up the time in my lunch but my boss asked me to sharpen up on my timekeeping this week (even although I had explained to him about the attempted abduction a couple of months back when it happened AND he has 3 children of his own and was very sympathetic at the time!!) I can't offer you any advice but I can sympathize and hope that your situation improves and that your son is better real soon.

Mothering is certainly a challenge and no one should try to minimize that aspect. But when I read your post, I see that you love your son and are quite concerned about doing the best you can for him. Congrats. You have what it takes to be a great mother. Your real challenge is balancing motherhood with a job. And to make things a bit more challenging a boss who is not afraid to remind you of your work responsibilities. Young ones do get sick. Do you have a relative or friend who might be able to help occasionally on those days? Of course you would rather be with your child, and I know it is hard for a mom to not be there taking care of him. You will be pulled both ways, needing to work hard to do both jobs. In the end your child is the most important, but you probably don't have the freedom to just walk away from that income. Wishing you the best. Remember, your son will grow, you will gain experience and things won't be so gloomy in the future. Hang in there.

When you become mother, you have an additional responsibility and very high responsibility. Taking care of kid is done by mother especially when baby is not well no one can take care as well as a mother. Its a matter of sometime till the baby grows up you need to spend sometime. Dont have to feel that you are wrong. As a mother, every woman have to undergo pains in her life.

this is especially true when you have teenagers at home. they think you know nothing at all! having a ;young child is much easier!

When you become a mum, you have extra responsibilities in your life and, often different aspects of your life will pull you in opposite directions. We all want to do what's best for our children but, because they are so precious to us, we never feel like we've done enough. Being a parent IS a difficult job and we all need a bit of help sometimes - even if its just a friend to have coffee and a 'grown-up' to talk to. Your boss's main concern is for her business so she cannot afford to have people absent from work and she clearly feels that maybe you wouldn't give your work the same undivided attention as you could in the office - tho' she may well be wrong. I hope your son's health will improve soon and that you will also feel better.Take care of your son but, take care of yourself too and be kind and forgiving to yourself.

don't be too hard on yourself. mothering can be quite hard but there's always a way. i've known worse situation than yours. be positive. get help from friends. if you can't do this by yourself then seek out help.

It is really difficult to be a mother.. because there are many responsibilities that you have to accomplish...it is so hard and tiring..that is why we have father..we mother or ladies have to stay at home to take good care of our child/children..and the father are responsible for working..

There is only so much you can do. Someone will always say you are wrong. I am lucky that my child is in an at home day care where the rules are a bit more lax. I am a teacher, so I cannot easily take work home with me, other than grading papers, which i do during naps anyways. There is always the ability to work at night time when the kid is asleep to get caught up.

It's really hard doing two function at the same time. You have to balance both your time for your kid and your job. At this point of time I think your child needs more attention and you have no choice but to sacrifice your job and might as well leave it. Anyway you could still find a good job if your kid is already okey. If not try to explain to your kid that you need to earn a living to support him. Try to build up a good relationship with your kid so that he could understand your situation.