Friend request
By thanks1961
@thanks1961 (7035)
India
November 17, 2010 11:38pm CST
We used to get friend request from other myLoters. Will you accept all or deny any of them, if you don't like their profile? Will you please share your opinion? Do you have any concept on what kind of friends you are looking for? Or have you denied any friend request, if so why?
Thank-s
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24 responses
@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
18 Nov 10
I don't really care who I accept the friend request of on mylot. Too me this is not my site of all my best buds. I get notices sent to me when one of my friends posts a topic and it is in my best interest to get more of those because the more I post here the more money I get, but I'm not going to waste a whole bunch of time surfing mylot for topics to comment on so I just make lots of friends and comment everytime I get a notice. I believe I have about 2.20 give or take right now. It's not rent money, but it will help with expenses.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
As you said, everyone have their own favourite sites with more and close friends. I consider that getting a friend request is a kind of pleasing atmosphere. Anyone who asking for a friend request, they must have spend atleast 1-2 mts. on our profile or subject. That means whoever is asking for the friend request, they mean it.
The words you mentioned here “I believe I have about 2.20 give or take right now”, I don’t get the meaning of the same and will you what do you mean by that.
Best regards,
Thank-s
@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
18 Nov 10
Lol, I just meant that I have about 2 dollars and 20 cents earned right now. I hope to earn a bit more before the end of the month, but I don't think it will be enough to pay any major bills! Lol
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
You are right. What we earn from here is not good enough to meet our requirements. If we want to make more earning, we need to look into something else also. I always say that if we spend 6-8 hrs. continuously with myLot, the earning for a month period could be very less.
If I do a comparison with my actual billing hrs. with a day’s job, where I am presently working, it is 5 mts of my chargeability would be equivalent to 8 hrs. of the myLot time.
Regards,
Thank-s
@chowee (517)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
For me since mylot is a social network..
Then, being a social is a must..so i never hesitate to accept all my friend request because i also love friends but i dont like friends that are harsh..to me..
so if you want me to be your friend just add me and i will never hesitate to accept you..
happy mylotting..
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
I just thought that, whoever is responding to this discussion, I will ask for the friend request. Surprisingly, you mentioned the same also!! Yes, I need you as my friend and we will be in touch with regularly. Thank for your timely response.
Regards,
Thank-s
@eshaan (6188)
• India
18 Nov 10
I have denied only one friend till now in my 4 and a half years journey at mylot..and that was her avatar..being an Indian we have some limits according to our culture, and the girl in bikini was so vulgar for me that I could not accept her..that's all...rest i have accepted all friends..without seeing their profile
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
Yes, you are very right. Sometime, if people behave out of the limit, we won't feel like keep in contact with them. The same thing is in our real life also. Here in myLot, we are not so familiar other than online contacts. But here also, if someone behave out of the way, we have to restrict.
I got a better idea on the vision of our myLoters while accepting and rejecting the friends over here. Hoover, thank you so much for your comments.
Regards,
Thank-s
@JudgeIronFist (2472)
• Singapore
19 Nov 10
Nope. I have no 'special expectations' of any friends. Any request that has been sent to me, I just accept it. I don't want to make any enemies here LOL. A friend's a friend.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
19 Nov 10
Hi dear,
Thanks for your comment and it is true. Here all are friends, and whenever they request for a friendship, there is no reason why say, no. We all can be good friends here.
Best regards,
Thank-s
@chrystaltears (3392)
• United States
19 Nov 10
I try to accept any friend requests. There is only one type that I would not ask to be my friend, but I will not say what that is.
When I see a nice comment, or a very different kind of comment, or something peculiar, something extremely negative or whatever, I go to the profile and have to know more about the person. Sometimes I ask them to be my friend. I'm not real picky. I mostly like everyone.
As long as the person doesn't have things in their profile that unrests my spirit, I would love to have them as friends.
Great post. Keep it up!
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
19 Nov 10
Hi dear,
Thanks for your comments.
Nice way of thinking. It is genuine and the way you deal is always advisble.
Best regards,
Thank-s
@Cargoleta (723)
• Spain
18 Nov 10
I accept all friend requests here on myLot, since I think that maybe that person thought my posts were interesting and they want to be notified whenever I create new ones, for example. Also, if they post interesting discussions then I'll also get to know about it, or find out we share some interests, which is also nice.
I'm only like that here on myLot though, I usually don't add people I don't know to friend lists (like on Facebook or other similar sites).
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
Thanks for your response. There is difference between myLot and facebook. Facebook is more exclusive with existing friends and from there we expand our friend circle mutually. But here in myLot, there are millions of people participating with their own interested subjects. Here also we have our own interested topics and there are people come come with similar interested topics. When you start with any of a discussion and people in myLot may attempt your topic with their comments. It can be regular or upto the mark depend on the subject.
Also, some time you will respond to a discussion where you have interest. Like that many will participate in various topics and you also will become part of it. I like myLot than facebook. The reason is here we can request friendship with our own wish and if interested, people will accept. But in no other site has such open and familiar friend circle. If you examine the same closely, you will realise it.
Regards,\
Thank-s
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
Hi thanks! I am selective with friend requests here in mylot as much as i am selective with my friends in real life. If I havent seen the requestor to have replied in any of my posts, then i would decline his request. I prefer friends who share the same interests as mine, or someone i could share wisdome with. That is the reason why i accepted your friendship request thanks, i honestly think you are more intellectual than i.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
So nice to hear from you. I think I need to accept you to an extent. As you said, some people never respond to our discussions. Recently I notice also. I have responded nicely to the person and who asked for friendship I accepted also. But he never responded to my discussions and I have participated several times and he used to come here with 5-7 discussions daily.
I think we can cut short them if they never respond to our discussions. However, feel good to talk with you and thanks for your response.
Best regards,
Thank-s
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Nov 10
Well it might be a while before I get around to accepting them but I will eventually accept them. There are just times where I don't really feel like accepting friends right at the moment. I let them build up over a number of weeks or months even, before I go in and see if I can accept them. Providing they still seem to be active again.
I think that there are a lot of people that are on there that just friend everyone. However, they might be gone in a number of weeks. I'm to the point where I only accept friends that are in it for the long haul. No offense to anyone, but that's just the way it is. I'll get around to accepting you eventually. One day, I plan to sit down and work through the backlog.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
Thank you for coming up with your comments.
I think you are so selective and observe a lot many things. It is better to have a check on your list of friends and I can presume the people your list may be of selective and mannered.
Regards,
Thank-s
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Nov 10
Hi Thanks,
After a long time we meet up on your thread.
As you can see during this time I have overcome the drawback and am using emoticons too.
Ok, no more of that, seriously speaking, I never look at any of the profiles. If someone makes a request for friendship, I wait and see their numbers change for about a week. If they change and changes are rapid... I accept their request. I deny friendship to those whose numbers do not change... I had a request form someone at 3 and after 15 days the number still stood at 3. This meant that they are inactive and so there is no fun adding them up.
Yes, for those whom I send out friendship requests, I am selective and ask for friendship only when I find their discussions / responses interesting or matching with my thoughts.
Initially of course it was just any one would do as a friend but then I learned that it is better to have a few rather than all.
Hope that helps.
Cheers,
theSids.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi thanks, how are you? Many new members will request to add as friends, i will add them if i like their profile and all female request i will accept. There is no particular concept in this matter, just add them if they start any discussion try to respond them if possible or if i like or if i know that subject. Since most of the members are here to earn some money or very few members are there here to know the opinion of others. I am here to spend good time with the friends only open on the discussion and i never entertain any personal talk whatever may be anything can be open through the discussion or responses. And i know all are well educated and decent here i am still here in this site. I never denied any friend request rather i will keep pending if i didn't like their profile. Most i don't want to discourage members by denying their request. Let all the members be welcome and participate here to have a good time over here.
Have a good day thanks.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
I am good and doing well. I like the way you commented. The entire fact you narrated in a single para and whatever you mentioned here are the real fact. All of us are here for some fun and some earnings too. As you said, due to denial or non acceptance of the request, no one should de-motivated. Even though we accept or reject, those who wish to continue, will go on. But if someone exclusively asking for us, I think accept them, because, they must have seen or referred our profile and then only they must have lodged a request, and as that is the case, I think we can accept them.
However, this is not a high level subject to be debated and just our wish only. If someone asking for a friend request, just accept and go ahead, that is my policy. However, I like the way you said, all the female requests are entertained.
Thank you for your comments and please be around.
Regards,
Thank-s
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
Hi thanks! I don't have the reason to deny a friend request. This is not facebook so we all here wants to earn money. I understand that so I accept all request, you never know, this person might help you in the future.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
You are absolutely right. This is not facebook to deny anyone on anonymity. Whoever is making a request may be part of myLot community and they would be attracted by either by referring some of your posts or comments or by your avatar. Whatever it may be, whoever is asking for the request must have a prior reference with us? So, based on the previous experience, they may be making the request.
Based on these facts, I think we can accept the friend request, without considering any other facts.
Thank you for your comments.
Regards,
Thank-s
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
I always accept every friend request that I have. It is not a big deal though. It's just like if somebody in the real life would like to be your friend and you will be so choosy about accepting them as your friend it means you are being mean somehow. If I don't like the person, I still give him a chance to prove his or her worth.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
I appreciate your concerns. Whatever you make a comment, there is something to learn. Nice to talk to you and I appreciate your response in this matter. As you said, I can't be so choosy while accepting the friend request. If they wish to go ahead, they will participate. If they won’t they will remain as friends and at any point of time, we can delete the person from our list.
Regards,
Thank-s
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
well on me i always accept it cause i dont want my friends request being ignored so i dont do the same thing to others. for me more friends the merrier!!!=)
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
Yes, you are right. Friends here are the assets. Whenever I get a friend request, I feel proud of it. Because they like us in some manner either by our discussions or the way we responds. Whatever it may be, I enjoy getting new friends here. Only disappointing fact is that all are not active and may not be available regularly over here.
Thanks for your timely response.
Best regards,
Thank-s
@Ritmon (118)
•
18 Nov 10
if anyone send me friend request,my mind say request should be accept and also i do that..but after some weeks or months when i feel that he/she may be harmful to me then i want to more about he/she from here and there..if he/she really not comfortable with my feelings then i think i should avoid this friendship....
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
From my experience almost all are good with me, the friends I requested and those ask for friendship. As we all are discussing on certain topics and express our own view and comments on the topic, our friendship has not much importance here. We communicate and interact each other and some peoples photos are also accompanied.
In many cases, some flowers, mountains, and animals and donkeys are the representative identify of the friends. As this is the situation, we deal with them in such a way. However, they comes in line and says what they feel about the topic. We even looks for that much only.
However, having such a group of friends are good wherever it is.
Regards,
Thank-s
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
24 Nov 10
Dear friend,
I would accept all friendship, moreover I may just look into their profile, if I feel it is better, until now never rejected any friends request. Moreover I have accepted all friends request also like to be friendly with everyone.
@teamrose (1492)
• United States
18 Nov 10
I accept all friend request. Unfortunately, I seldom get them. I like to get new friends because they tend to start thought provoking conversations and keeps me from becoming bored on MyLot.
This was a great question and I hope it generates more friends for me.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
Even I used to accept all friend requests, regardless of who and from where they belongs. Only after accepting, I usually check their profile. I feel comfortable that someone ask for a friend request. I think you will get more requests and don’t get disappointed. Participate more and if you like someone in discussion, you can also ask for friend request. Thank you for an immediate response.
Regards,
Thank-s
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
I do the same. I used to request for friendship request and also accept all request also. Only issue now is that sometimes I may not able to participate all the discussions that our friends starting on. As may be busy with something else, the time that can be spend for myLot get minimized. Still, I try to be with myLot, as much as I can.
Thanks for an immediate response.
Best regards,
Thank-s
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear,
Thanks for your comments.
Even I accept all friend request. If someone wish to be a friend with us, always support and I think this can make a better relationship also.
I didn't understand what you mean by "i can only speak for myself".
What should I understand from the above words?
Regards,
Thank-s
@rovered777 (649)
• United States
19 Nov 10
My friends are just about everyone, but people who I avoid are distrustful, devilish or not human. These types of friends will do evil things, try to take advantage of me or MyLot and scam people there money and influence. Any friend that adds me will eventually be accepted if they meet small conditions, as I'm really good at forming friendships. For the writer of this discussion, I would definitely add you as my friend. Your are a good writer, and I would be honored to accept such a request.