Do you expect your lover to love you the same way?

I guess I am or was a martyr briefly. I loved me ex , or I Thought I did , but he didn't love me back. He disappeared and I was heartbroken.Luckily I met my guy. He fell for me Way before I fell for him. He was the one with the unconditional love and the patience to wait for me to realize I loved him! I Did take it slow , it took some time for me to trust that he loved me . But when I finally said I Love you to him it was real and unconditional! If I truly love someone it is unconditional . All I want is his happiness , period! With or without me.

We all show love for each other in different ways. We should not expect everyone to show their love in the same ways that we do. We are all unique individuals with our own ways of expression. All we should expect from a lover is for them to love us. the way that they choose to show it should be up to them and not to us. the choice is theirs alone.

I would hope that the person I love would love me in the same way but don't exspect it as I have a big heart and alot of love to give.I am lucky that I have an excellent person in my life we do everything together and get along great.

I think that because most of live inside our own heads for the most part that this could be true. It is only when we communicate with the other person and get to know what they are feeling that we really see their side and how different their feelings may be from yours and vice versa.

for me i don't expect that much, but i'll be a responsible guy to love her, but practically its should be a fair affair for lovers to expect that kind of love for their partners

The most basic rule in love is ... to love. Love does not require the expense and do not account for anything. Do not you love a person that is in one way or another, one that you love and love for both. If you start looking for reasons to love love is already lost, and not because you did not find reasons to love her, you will surely find .... but just as many will find no one to love. In addition, as long as love's charm is natural, and a race like that gives me more than it seems farfetched. In love what is offered must be totally free, without any claim to receive something in return ... And if that means that in some cases only one person loves, we must know one thing, namely that no one promised us that this life is perfect and beautiful .... If so, there would be no wars, there would be violence, there would be no tears and everyone would love as much .... But unfortunately we live in a world that is not perfect .... But the greatest gift we have in this life ..... love it And in my opinion the most elementary rule in love is not to be loved but to love much and unconditionally .... So I see love, but it would be wrong ... each day passes ... a true test of love ... .. that is not conditioned by anything, especially in quantity .... And anyway, if we give everything in love ... when we do ... in another life? ... for those who keep the rest? ... for when ?....

Its not like I expect him to feel exactly the same as I do. Its just I would like it to be on the same level. We've been together for almost 7 years. I know he loves me thats not the issue. I just wish he would show it more. During arguments I have commented on the fact that I thought I loved him more than he loved me. I told him that its clear to see that I put way more into this relationship than he does. Of course, no comment. Women are nurturers by nature. We tend to wear our hearts on our sleeves. Of course men have to be tough, hard and masculine. In this day and age thats not always a good thing for them. They lose out on a lot of good prospects because women are realizing that there are plenty of fish in the sea. If you dont love me the way I need to be loved, I'll move on and find a man who does. I believe in my current relationship you could call me a martyr. Wow I never really looked at it like that. Thanks for opening my eyes. Happy MyLotting dl

aaronfyzeon why must you settle for l oving one who might not love you , thats foolish, as you will just get hurt and unconditonal love does not mean what you said, it is loving each other the way we are without e expecting each other to change a thing about your selves.No I was never a martyr for anyone as my husband loved me just as much as I loved him. I wo uld never settle to marry someone who did no feel the same way I felt as that is just not fair to either person.

Hi. Love is not able to transformed in real words...but It is kinda an action in couples. Of course, I hope my life partner will love me with his true heart as I am doing so.I love him very much and try to be a good wife for him. I don't expect him to love me in the same way like what I am doing. But as long as he trust and respect me,then it should be fine. We are two different person and we have our own thinking and way to do things,so it is impossible to get him change totally just to suit on my own way. I have to pay him a respect too and give him a privacy in his life.

Hi aaron fyzeon: First of love, we can't be tottally sure that someone really love us. We need to trust in him/her and second, we have to understand also that people love in different ways. I wouldn't expect that the person I love will love me the same way but I want that she loves me and shows me her love. Even if I can't be sure about this I hope i would chose the best for me. Thanks for asking us this question. Have a nice day. ALVARO

No I don't expect much anymore. There are some things I just couldn't change anout him and when I try, I'm the one who ends up getting hurt, so I just leave it as it is. he loves me yes, but not in the way that I want it. It's a good thing though, especially when he does something that surprises me, because I didn't expect it.

I guess that we all truly do feel differently, our feelings are different and we deal with things differently although sometimes we can be so similar in many things. I would love to feel true love and i would hope that the strong feelings that i have are also the same or very similar shared by my partner for me. Before we take the plunge of letting a person in and falling in love with them it is much easier to know that they feel a similar thing, that they too see a future ahead, if it is just one sided then you could have your heart broken early, or in time it may not be one sided. i wouldlike to know they feel as much for me as i do for them and then it is much easier to let them into our hearts hopeing that we don't have our heart broken.

I also expect my lover to love me at the same way. But i don't mean it, that she always stay with me, always spend time with me. But i expect she loves me, and only me. If i fall down in a problem, then she also stand for me. Other than this thing i nothing expect to her.

You can tell if the person will love the same way you did. You can't see it but you can feel it the way the person talks to you the way the person will find time just to be with you and the way the person will care for you. Unconditional love is the kind of love that will be given to the person despite of his/her imperfection. That's what they call unconditional love as the saying goes "Love is Blind."

Of course I love a person without expecting anything in return. Only a beautiful smile and of course few message from my lover which would feel me more happier which is more precious than their presence. Good to be in love and to be a unconditional lover always. Love is always unconditional. Dont expect anything from the person who you love a lot.

Of course I love a person without expecting anything in return. Only a beautiful smile and of course few message from my lover which would feel me more happier which is more precious than their presence. Good to be in love and to be a unconditional lover always. Love is always unconditional. Dont expect anything from the person who you love a lot.

A love relationship should be mutual and should not be one way. Never expect though that the degree of love would be the same. If you love your guy more than he loves you, then make an effort to let him love you more. It is still normal as long as the love do not fade away. It has to be a continuous process. Love may fade when it is taken for granted, so never allow it to happen. If the love is one way, I have to let it go of it. That will not be healthy for me and the relationship. It may be true that love can be developed, but if you have done everything and it went the way which you do not expect then give it up. Do not stay in a relationship that is full of pretention.

My hubby and I have been together for almost 15 years. 9 of those married. A lot of that time, we haven't always been on the same page at the same time. We love each other. But I don't think we have ever asked the question "do you love me the same?" That we love each other and are building a life together seems to be enough. Love the song though.

Yes, I expect but I cannot...

No i am not martyr for a person its unfair if my partner would return my love what the sense of staying in that relation grow up