What you say when....
By nirvik12345
@nirvik12345 (66)
November 18, 2010 6:46am CST
You have a steady with your girlfriend. Suddenly, one day she told you she love another boy. She has a feelings about him. And whole life she loves him. But she must marry with you, because she promised you that she never leave you alone. Then what you say....
6 responses
@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 10
Hi Nirvik
Oops, this ll be just a bullsh*t for me, and I ll never see to her again. This ll never happen in love because if some one loves a person, s/he would like to remain with that person and ll never think of marriage with other person, if s/he does this then it is just for his/her satisfaction.
But for me, if my girl friend tells me like this, I ll never see to her again and ll leave her but I know her, she ll never love any one, I know my self too and how much I love her but she is loving me more than I am...:)
Have a nice day...:)
Oops, this ll be just a bullsh*t for me, and I ll never see to her again. This ll never happen in love because if some one loves a person, s/he would like to remain with that person and ll never think of marriage with other person, if s/he does this then it is just for his/her satisfaction.
But for me, if my girl friend tells me like this, I ll never see to her again and ll leave her but I know her, she ll never love any one, I know my self too and how much I love her but she is loving me more than I am...:)
Have a nice day...:)@nirvik12345 (66)
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19 Nov 10
Saqi, that is not related her satisfaction. That is relater her parents and family members. If they don't accept this, she don't know what she do. That's why she try to live with her best friend come ex boyfriend.
@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
20 Nov 10
Hi Nirvik
You did not explained the conditions, you only told that she is leaving, But I ll still say it is her life and let her decide what she want to do, because she has to live and this is her right
Any how, take care and good luck for her...:)
Have a nice day...:)
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
This is a real tough situation to be put at. You should let her go then. There is no way of getting a great married life if you do not love each other. You will just let her be imprisoned with your presence if you still continued marrying her.
But before you let her go, you MUST prove your love to her first. Do all the efforts for her to love you before tying the knot. But if all these are useless then you should not do injustice to yourself and let yourself suffer. You deserve someone better who is waiting for your love out there.
@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 10
Hi Dear
I agree with this part just to let her go but I dont agree with this part to prove your love to her first, If she is already telling you that she is loving someone else then what is the point of prove, you want her to love you by force if she already have someone else in the heart and BTW what you want from her to leave her love for you.
From by force I mean to let her to choose which one is better and when their is option of better or good or best in choosing love then I dont call it love, it is just a matter of selection and opportunity, So if she already have love and made some promises with you, then let her go, this may be your destination.
But if she was already in love and now she has broken then you can go to her and can show your love to her but if she is already in love then why you want the other guy to suffer just because of your love and this ll be just selfishness...:)
Have a nice day...:)
@nirvik12345 (66)
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19 Nov 10
You both are right, now i can't understand anythings. I think just wait and watch is the best policy. And give more concentrate in my study. Lets see, what is waiting for me.
@thuynhu (661)
• United States
18 Nov 10
That just sounds so terrible. I don't know how long you must have been with the girl but I couldn't marry someone who I knew doesn't love me. I would have to let her go, it just wouldn't be right. As much as I may love this person and would want to be with them, if I know they would be happier with someone else I'd have to say, go and be with the one you love.
@nirvik12345 (66)
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19 Nov 10
I also told her, go and live with your love. And enjoy the every second of life with him. But she told me, our parents and relatives also know about our relationship. What they about me. So, i can't do this.
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 10
I don't marry with someone who doesn't love me.
To marry and live with someone who don't love you will have a very hard time later.
Why don't we make a decision now so that any one of us will not be regret later.
For sure, it is very difficult for me to make up my mind at the moment. She is still the most wonderful girl in my life.
I know not everyone is brave to accept the decision.
But just be conscious, a short pain is better than a long pain. She will be nothing worth for me to keep once I go with another girl.
ha! ha! ha! There is no assurance of what I said when I am really in that situation.
I am still a human-being.
@nirvik12345 (66)
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19 Nov 10
That's right. We suggest some one for relationship problem. But when we fall this situation then we don't know what's right and what's wrong. We are also a human beings.
We can't satay with that person, who don't love me, but we don't want to see that she fall in deep problem. Because we love our partner.
@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
18 Nov 10
I would tell her that if she doesn't love me anymore than we must not get married. I would not want to be married to someone who doesn't love me. But if she still loved me, then maybe this love for another is a passing infatuation, and we could work things out.
@nirvik12345 (66)
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19 Nov 10
You are right. When i told her, is it infatuation or love with him? If you really love him, then you can go.. She told me, "You are my best friend. That's why i also need you".
If we are just related to friendship, then i can't forget her. It's more painful to me.
@mollu2508 (47)
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19 Nov 10
Yes, buddy this is one of the difficult situation i can say. its very pain full also, after marry also a thinking i.e. a person lives with you but her all feelings is for somebody else, she is just committing the physical needs, will disturb you every moment like a pin in your shoe.
but over all the truth is time changes all the things, moves the situation up to downwards, so you can wait for the time by pursuing the friendship only which will be a difficult one, rather i want to mean give another chance to think....
other wise let her free from all the relation, try to forget, & never contact with her directly, but you should wait for the time silently...
@nirvik12345 (66)
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19 Nov 10
I don't think that's a good idea. Because, our relationship is already accepted from our family. In this time, if i never contact her, then there is a chance my parents can contact her. And if the truth is discover, then she will must be upset and fall in a deep problem. I don't want that. She has a fear, if her parents and family members, think some thing wrong about her. Now here is a question arise, How i protect her to falling this problem and also help me to keep save distance from her.
