Regretting does not solve anything in life....
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
India
November 18, 2010 11:51am CST
Do you think regretting something can bring that something back together again?
It doesn't right? Then why do people regret most of the times. I see most of them thinking that maybe they should have done that then their life would have been different. Why do they do so? They are living in the present and not in the past right?
People regret things because maybe they have made some mistakes i guess. I always live in the present thinking of what to do now and how to enjoy myself to the full extent!
What about you? Have you regretted anything so far which you have done? If it's personal then never mind.
Cheers!
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13 responses
@ganeshprabhuk (1722)
• India
19 Nov 10
I have regretted for few things in the past. But past is past. You cannot change things happened in the past. Always think of the present and how you can make it for future. At some point of time, we think of the past and regret for mistakes done. In a way good to remember past so that same mistake cannot be continued.
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@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
19 Nov 10
I agree with you that regret doesn't help solve anything, but on the other hand, it's quite normal for people to feel upset about or even cry over something they missed or they did wrong in the past. Personally, I think regret has its advantages. It helps to remind people to avoid making the same mistakes in the future. It's as if there is an alarm resounding in people's ears.
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@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
18 Nov 10
Only thing regretting does is that it deters you from committing the same mistake again. To err is human, therefore, our judgment can always go wrong and we are bound to commit mistakes. As long as one has a conscience he would continue to regret. Inability to regret denotes lack of conscience.
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@saimrajput (426)
• Pakistan
18 Nov 10
i dont regret after what i have done it is right and may be it is wrong becoz wat i have done i cant change it after i have done it. see forward and enjoy the life any more, and be tension free, and all will be well.wat you say about it?
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@oprofitis (34)
• Greece
18 Nov 10
If didn't regret the mistakes we have made, then we wouldn't learn from them. It's the way life tells us to continue. For example, I was in love with a girl in high school, but had never the guts to tell her. The ways I was expressing myself were simply wrong... But now that I remember what I did, I will hopefully not make the same mistakes again. It's true, you shoudn't regret things and situations that cannot change, but a little regret is helpful.
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@realaccess (31)
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18 Nov 10
We live in an abundant world full of infinite possibilities - I too live in the Now. Eghart Tolle's The Power of Now is a recommended read. I have no regrets as I live in the present and don't look back (well, very often). The key for me also lies in THe Secret by Rhonda Byrne. It's all about the Law of Attraction. You can read more about some of what helps me live without regrets at www.real-innerpeace.com.
@JudgeIronFist (2472)
• Singapore
19 Nov 10
Last time when I did something wrong, I would regret and promise myself never to do it again, but I still did it. Now I've decided to repent and try not to repeat the same mistakes again. You're right. Regretting doesn't solve anything. For all the tears that flow down your cheeks, nothing will ever change. Repent is better than regretting because regretting will only tune your mind back to the past and you'll instead be looking backward, not forward. We must all look forward for things to change for the better. Good luck!
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
Regret is something that we couldn't help feeling when we are proven that we have made the wrong decisions in our lives. We feel sad about letting a good opportunity slip away or lost an important person because of our actions...
But, we shouldn't wallow in regrets. Feel bad about the wrong things that you did today but tomorrow you should move on. It is enough that we recognized our failure and we realized what we have lost and missed out, but life has to go on.
Have a great day, Raviteja.:)
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
19 Nov 10
Hey i remember you!
Yup moving on is step. By the way have you ever regretted before?
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
And i remember you, too.
Of course, dear. I screwed up a lot in the past because of wrong decisions. And believe me, I regret them all but what we do? We only are humans. So, I learned from those and moved on.:)
Of course, dear. I screwed up a lot in the past because of wrong decisions. And believe me, I regret them all but what we do? We only are humans. So, I learned from those and moved on.:)@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
19 Nov 10
TO be honest i think i liked your old picture of a girl with a hate better!
Glad to see you have moved on
@hushi22 (4928)
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18 Nov 10
i agree to that. but somehow regretting helps us in pouring out emotions and also realizing our mistakes. it makes us aware of what to do next to get better.
i have somehow regretted to enrolled late in my SpEd class because i might be the reason for me to go later in London.
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
19 Nov 10
Well it seems you would go there soon. By the way how is your boyfriend?
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
You really cannot avoid regretting something you have done before in your life but do not dwell much on it because it will just ruin your focus to something you are doing more important in your life. It is ok to think about it but not that often. thinking about it will make you learn the things you have done worng before and it will be a good lesson to you not to do the same thing again.
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@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
19 Nov 10
We need to have regrets in order to learn before we can move on. IF we have no regrets in life, it means that we are doing the wrong things even if we know it's wrong to do so. Everybody makes mistakes in life, and there's a stage in life which we are ignorant. Didn't u ever regret over a small mistake or your exam results? Those are lessons learnt in our life too.
@tedeng06 (60)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
Well you can always start at the most hardest part forgiving yourself. And after that reflect all your mistakes that you did and try to analyze what lesson you've learned and always bare in mind that you will never do those mistakes again. Yup we all have our own faults for we are only a human being we commit mistakes every now and then but the most important thing is we learn from them and we learn to accept that the past cannot be changed no matter how much we regret for it. We must live our days one at a time for no one would want to die in regrets. Every one desires peace of mind.
@closetgaara (128)
• United States
19 Nov 10
Regret is something that everyone experiences, and is often unavoidable after doing something we wish we hadn't. There's nothing inherently wrong with regret - it can actually be beneficial to be able to look back and build from the regretful experiences so that one won't go through them again. However, the problem starts when people dwell on the regrets and can't move on. It's a good thing to live in the present and be positive. I try to do this as well, but I do have regrets. This is normal, and healthy as long as I don't focus on what's in the past and can't move on. Balance of the two is just fine, I think.
