That little filter in our minds.
By megamatt
@megamatt (14292)
United States
November 18, 2010 11:59am CST
There does often at times seem to be a little filter in our minds that prevents us from saying thing out loud that we are thinking that would probably get us in trouble. Of course a lot of people do engage their mouths before they really think things through and regret it later. I think that a bit of thought does save us from saying something that we regret, even though the filter can be really defective in the heat of the moment.
7 responses
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
25 Oct 11
I think that filter is more about 'looking for the right place to say the thing' then 'deciding that the thing is wrong.'
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@ankit_620 (496)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hey what your are saying is really thoughtful megamatt.We often come into or get stuck into situations or when we are just messing around with are friends, there are times when something things and quite crazy and weird but it does not come out aloud may thats the filter which stops it from coming out aloud.Without this filter our life would have been a big mess.
@ankit_620 (496)
• India
19 Nov 10
You know if i start voicing all my thoughts then i will here anymore and by 'here' i mean this plane because they are a lot of egoistic,angry and frustrated people in this world, if you know what i mean.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Nov 10
I think that only a small fraction of what we think is really something that we should be saying a lot of the time. I mean, we have to have countless things that we are thinking. But we don't voice everything that we are thinking because of that filter in our minds. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@Valenas (1507)
• United States
18 Nov 10
I like to think that it is simply that some people have different settings on their filter. Some may have a strong filter (they plan out what they say in their minds before speaking), and some may have turned their filter off (usually like a weird aunt that you only see at family events). I would like to think that my filter is really strong.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Nov 10
I would like to think that as well. I think I have a moderately strong filter. Maybe not perfect but good enough. Then there are people who have their filter completely turned off. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Nov 10
That is quite embarrassing when that does happen. I've done that a few times. I blurt things out and then when I realize it is something that I said out loud, I want to slap myself. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Nov 10
A good rule of thumb would be try to think how you might feel. Of course, most people really do not see themselves in the shoes of the other person. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
I'm so glad my filter works well. I hate saying things that hurt other people that I regret later on. Of course, it does not work 100%, but at least, I'm learning to manage my tongue.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Nov 10
I really do think it never works one hundred percent of the time. Under amounts of stress and getting pushed a little too much, there are choice comments that just slip out. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
It's a great help to think things through before saying it. It could save you big time and you won't even realize it. A simple compliment can mean a lot of things to the other person. It could mean something negative. And the other person can be your boss.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Nov 10
Indeed if you say the wrong thing to the wrong person, you're in trouble. If you say the wrong thing to a person who has power over you and can make your life miserable, then you are kind of up a creek without a paddle. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
