If you're not condemning him, then you're taking his side.

I agree, being neutral is sometimes the best way to approach a problem especially when it comes to friends and/or family. My friends actually know that i hate bashing people, especially friends so they know better than to expect me to take their side in that matter. They also know that I do not take sides, but I do give opinions on both sides. It has been in my nature to see both sides of the coin, so I rarely take sides. however, this attitude of mine makes me the best mediator within my group because they know that I will not side with the other because I am closer to the other party.

Yes you're right. I usually don't take sides especially when two people close to me are in an argument and I don't know half the story and it happens to often that I get accused of taking sides it's annoying.

I bet They're just mad that's why They're saying that. There were times that i wanted to stay out of it. I prove it by shifting the conversation to another topic. If they get angry at me then they have a new enemy.

that's it! that is a nice post. i also have such annoyance with this people saying i have to take a side whenever there is a discussion, argument, or issue. sometimes it pays off to stay neutral.

Hi, megamatt! This situation happens a lot of times in political battles. Because the neutrals have the possibility of turning to the opposite side. So if the power is enough, usually neutrals are also suppressed. In a all-out war, it's comprehensible. But I don't think there are so many fights for survival, so I hate that kind of attitude too.

Most times to simply avoid situations I tend to ease out by making some excuse as either side will be offended if you participate even just by listening. If I am forced to listen to one side I always try and stop them half way and simply say I care about you both and will not take sides, you have to work this out amongst yourselves and leave me out. That is if I am valued as a friend will they understand and if they do not oh well there lost as I am one to not enjoy bashing from either side.

I hate this kind of thing as well. Not everything in life is black and white, and sometimes it's best to stay out of other people's drama. I've been in situations where a friend wants me to take their side over someone else, but it's often not that simple. I don't like being part of arguments either, and keeping your mouth shut can really be the best thing to do when the situation has nothing to do with you. Idon't like to inject myself into other people's issues.