my mom share info about my personal life with her friend

Well young man and i guess thats what you are from the post, you will learn that ladies do gossip and tell their girlfriends many things. Also more to the point why were you even listening to your mothers conversation? surely thats private too!

Well normally I would suggest that you talk to your mom about it, but since you already have and that`s not getting you anywhere, I think this might be the time for drastic measures. Now be prepared that if you listen to me and follow my advice, your mom might not be too happy about it, but I can say that she will think twice about doing it again. now you mentioned that there were a few times when you have walked by and heard her talking about you on the phone, so here is what I would do. The next time that she is on the phone talking about you, pick up the other line, and instead of telling your mom that you don`t want her talking about you, try telling her friend. Also you might want to mention that because you don`t want her talking about your private matters, you are willing to take the next step and do something that she does not want you to do. This will let her know that since she is not respecting you, you shouldn't have to respect her or her wishes. Respect is a mutual thing and if it is bothering you that much, you need to do something about it. Personally I would have a sit down conversation with my mother and let her know that if things don't change, she is going to risk hurting the relationship between us. I hope that your mom doesn't do it again and that things go better from now on. Good luck and happy mylotting.

Hi Kingparker, I have been guilty of doing that with my kids at times and they put me right in my place. It's not that I've meant to disrepect their privacy and I don't and never did talk to just anyone. I've got a couple of friends that are close like family. If they ask how my girls are doing or if they are still seeing someone then in answering I've mentioned a break-up or a problem they are going through. I am though careful not to go into deep details as I know it bothers them. If you've talked to your mother about this and she still persists then I really don't know what more you can do. You really can't control what she talks about with her friends.

Okay, that's why I don't tell anything about my past or secrets to other people at all because I'm afraid that might happen too. It's okay if my mother would talk about my attitude and stuff, as long as I don't overhear her. I actually caught my mom talking to my brother once about me, and it was all bad stuff. I didn't react at all, until after we went from the party. My bro and I have shared room before, that's why I heard my mother talking when I was asleep. It's fine for me if I wont hear it though.

This also happened to me when I was MUCH younger. when i was in elementary I told my mom that I had a crush on a boy in my class, she babbled to EVERYBODY; my family, her friends, and even my siblings' friends! Almost 2 decades after, my cousins still tease me about the boy whom I can barely remember...From then on, I never shared anything of value with them.

your right it is a little house privacy violation,tell your mother once again that she should not be doing this, also when her friend comes over sit and watch over them but pretend to be busy with your mobile or something then if your mother gets close to the topic give her a stern eye look, that will slowly move her away from the topic

Hi, It can be irritating when I heard someone is gossiping about my personal life. I don't like people to interrupt on my personal issue, unless I myself told them and need their advices. Even with my family members, I do have close relationship with them. but gossiping behind them is not really good and I prefer not to bother other people's business. Since she is your mother, you can always advise her not to tell about your personal life to her friends. She has to respect you. Of course, you can't force her to shut up too since it is her mouth,but then you still have the right to advise her not to do it again.

May be she is not doing this just to tell the story but because of some or the other discussion the matter came in and she discussed it with the friends. If you have already told your mom about your objection on the same, she should respect that, you can talk to her an dtell the points as to why you feel that all these should not be discussed with other peoples. Thank You for sharing.

You know, if you mom is worried about you, she probably will confide in her friends also. I am sure your mom did not intend to hurt or upset you in treating your situations like idle gossip but if you insist she keeps your business private then she may just understand.

I think as parents it is not that we want to gossip, but rather talk to someone adult like to be able to express our feelings. This happen to me a while ago and my son was upset as well. So I try really hard not to do it again. If I ever feel the need to have to say something I will not do it during the presence of my son and really it is not right as I do understand that if the shoe were on the other foot, I too would be upset to hear someone is spreading my business.

OMG! We have the same story. My mom would always tell her friends about what is happening with my life. Of course every parent is proud of her children and will really tell the whole world the achievements that we have. But then she will tell her friends how I resigned to my job and tell every details of it. she will even tell that I am doing nothing as of the moment and that I am so idle. Duhh?? I am the one providing food and pays all the bills in the house! But I do understand her. I still love her because she is my mom. I just blurted it out here and I saw your post.