I am tired up with these questions of people!!!!!!!!!

hi Sreekala, It seems that you are getting bore from your surrounding or work environment or whatever you just enjoy life 2 or 3 days. go to movie eats some snacks laugh with your old friends and then my friend when you get back to your work you will not feel it boring. have a good day

What gets me riled up are requests for diets to gain weight. Surely by now the question has been answered thousand fold. Eat more, move less. All can be summed up in that manner. Can we please move on?

lol..I've learnt to ignore it. It would upset me a lot when I was growing up. When we moved to India, it was hard for me to adjust to the new lifestyle and the pressures of the academic system here. I didn't like taking lunch to school (I was used to coming back home to a hot lunch) and then travelling and walking with the school bag and all the associated problems. I was very skinny and I hated people passing comments on it. Now that I'm married with kids of my own and am 'normal', I still have people telling me the same thing. I just smile, ignore and not answer. What bugs me more is when they say that about my younger son.....but I ignore that too.

Hi Sree! Please do not lose your sleep on such questions, as you have mentioned. It is 'their' job to put forth such questions and you need to be very patient and calm in dealing with such persons, who deliberately poke in their nose in your private affairs (read health matters). Just ignore those 'nice' people who instead of showing concern for you, pull up your legs. I am pretty sure that you are wise enough to understand who is your genuine well wisher and who is asking the questions to 'disturb' or 'irritate you'. Start bothering about such people, who unnecessarily give unsolicited advice/remarks. Have a great day!

Hi Sree sad to know about your low BP, my both daughter in laws have it, nothing to be worried, many women have, well when asks me about my poor look, diseases i don't mind if he/she is my friend or relation like you, it is due to the hidden care.. But if any x y z asks i don't like, the other day i was on the street walking slowly due to burning sensation in soles of feet, one guy laughed at me, said if you can't walk properly, why you come out on the streets!!!! I was annoyed, i called him near and slapped on his face.. Thank you so much for sharing. Professor. . Cheers have a lucky day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.

Hi sreekala, I face the same thing that you face almost everyday! Its just that you have no time to rest and you keep working all day for your organisation and family with kids, i understand what it takes. But,people who see you once in a while will certainly feel bad about you being skinny! They are just caring about you and ask you these questions. But, watch out for few people who think the other way round. Few people ask such questions to just make an attempt to tease you or have fun having nasty comments like. I suggest you to ignore such people completely! Or few will be wanting to feast on if you have any problems just in case. They are just jealous about you! As far as you feel happy about yourself, I don;t think these things will matter. So cheers! Happy Mylotting! Have a great day ahead! :)

Hi Sree, I think people who like asking such type of questions are tend to be innocent and lack of knowledge. It's quite insulting as well to ask question without consideration of others feeling. They never realize that the rush of busy modern life would bring pressure and tension to us. How could one who has no time to take care of herself would look chubby. One wouldn't have a well-shape body if lacking of proper rest. As what I know a working mom who have to juggle both her job and children could hardly put on weight. It's weird that my skinny husband who has extremely good appetite still looks skinny though he takes more quantity of food than others in the family. He is healthy except his blood pressure tends to be a bit higher. Some people like to ask the similar questions mentioned above as well whenever encountering them. The same persons don't feel bored to ask the same question repeatedly...ai... (sigh) A few of his distant relatives even beefed about me for I never take good care of him. Seems like I'm not a responsible and considerate wife Of course I feel tired with such silly questions which are really discourteous, never show genuine consideration at all, but seem like having suspicion that he might have certain ulterior disease Most of our female friends envy him never gain weight although he takes lots of foods. This always happens when having wedding dinner. It's most enjoyable to take delicious food heartily! I don't mind my husband looks skinny, as long as he is healthy. I believe your loved one has the same view as well. In my heart you look fit and slim but not skinny Take care and have a nice day!

Hi Sreekala, I can understand that but they might just trying to be polite to you. Sometimes I also wonder why people ask question that they already knew the answer. For example, when you are busy washing your car, a neighbor asks you, "Busy washing your car?" Hey, she can see that and why did she ask at the first place? So, I get used to it though sometimes I feel funny to hear that kind of questions.

Dear friend, To some people some questions are to answered and some are not to be answered. Each individual behavior and outlook on other changes and it projects on their questions like this. It is better to find suitable answers according to the individuals and relationship we have with them. If a friend of me asks such question I would be feel free to give a suitable answer like this is my style... I eat this much as my stomach allows only that much, I on a diet control so on. If elders asks me I would give a smile... I feel myself not to get it into my mind for a long time scarping myself hurting myself.

Sreekala what our friends might say to us is one thing as we hear it knowing they love and care about us, but a casual acquaintence or worse aq complete stranger should not overstep the bounds of deceny 'to ask us personal questions like that. they ar not aking out of kindness but of of d amnable nosyness, and therein lies the difference. I know when my close friend cautions me about my weight she is doing this out of love. but a stranger tells me dont uou kmow its unhealthy to be overweight? I get angry as no its none of her business at all.I really get teed off when they start do you know you are fat? LOOK LADY I HAVE EYES, I HAVE A SCALE. i AM U NDER A DOCTOR'S CARE.Why do strangers do these kind of things they would not like it if I w ere to s ay did you know you are just too skinny,

Well dear, those kind of comments are most likely driven out of concern especially if they came from friends. Now people who does not have concern or has nothing to do with you will of course not mind your looks at all. As for me, I like to hear comments about how I look to people around me. I like that because it gives me an idea of who healthy or unhealthy my looks have been. If the comments have been negative then I take them as cue to start improving my appearance. On the other hand, if the comments have been positive, then I am all the more encouraged to keep up.

Hiya Sree, I can get to be quite slim and I don´t much care for it. At the moment I am just right but I don´t want to tip the scales. When you are a bit underweight People can be rude and say things like that. Mainly before and my Children were very small I was underweight a bit anyway and I had to put up with a few of those remarks. As for the other kind of questions well it depends how much of a mood I am in to help them out. I usually take the discussion from a bit of a different angle and see if they can challenge it and start to respond with longer and more likeable conversations.

I personally don't mind because if they put them in the right section they have a right to ask that. Now if you want to answer it is completely up to you and you shouldn't really be bothered by it. I mean if I see a topic that i don't want to respond to or particularly don't like I just skip over it. I hope things get better for you at home though and that you can find some peace and not be so stressed because you need to stop and enjoy life a bit too not just stress and work.

I dont like answering " when are you getting married?" ask me first if I have a boyfriend will you? "why are you getting fat?"- Because I am eating a lot! There are lots and lots of food at my house! unlike in your house... that's why you looked so under nourished! " when are you going to have a bf?" duh... like when a guy and I falls in love, I think,... what do you think? " why dont you have a bf yet?"- because the guys I meet does not meet up with my standards! " You might want to lower down your standards for you to have a bf"- No I wont! or so, your bf/ gf lowered theirs for you?

Hello sree I never thought about that not until you said today. That's why maybe your avatar is a secretary bird..(sure you are familiar with it)because secretary bird is a sexy one..maybe some of your friends don't know the other term of skinny..it is "sexy", "slim" model-like figure.. Seriously on my point of view that is really very irritating,so boring and deafening. Well, ride on them whatever they said you think destructive adjectives you hear from them to you. I guess this boring kind of people have nothing else to say... Keep calm...stay cool...Have a nice day ahead... Mobhomeir here..

There's nothing really that you can do except ignore the discussions you are bored with, or ones that you don't like and dont' want to respond to. There are a lot of types of discussions that I avoid here on MyLot - which get irritating (like ones, for example, like "What's your favorite color?". I don't have that much wrong with me, although I do like discussing weight loss and fitness on MyLot, just because it's been on my mind a lot lately!

hello sister Oh,sorry to hear that. I do understand how you feel,when people keep asking and commenting with things that they've seen yet they never knew the real reason. I am also being asked for my weight loss,which is really choice because i don't want to become fat (i am not used to being chubby...i want to be the same sexy as i am when i am still young..hahaha) I want to maintain my body size,because i feel beautiful being fit (so i hate when people is asking me why i am losing weight,it's not their business okay) Well, my dear sis,just ignore them,they can't even help you with your situation. Let them think what they want to think and say what's on their mind,they will get tired of it soon. But,i hope you are doing good always. Have a great weekend dear