Is it the same with your Momma ?????
By sunnycool
@sunnycool (12714)
India
November 19, 2010 5:59am CST
When i was in my seventh grade ... i literally made my mind that i'm grown-up and i can visit places at my will with no fear of getting kidnapped lol! So one fine day i dared to visit my friend's home (YUP he partially invited me) who stays a bit far from my hood.
It became too late in the night when i reached my home and guess what my entire family were busy searching for me as if i'm lost or kinda kidnapped for a ransom haha.
... you must have seen my mom's face "She was terrified" and was crying for me.She came to me .... i was really SCARRRed coz my damn mind warned me to be prepared for a nice slap 
which never happened!
Only then my "dumbest" mathematical brain came to know as how much she loves me 
.From then onwards she started being extra careful when it comes to me. So we had a mutual agreement that i should let her know by all means if i get late or struck somewhere for distinct reasons!The agreemet is in good means till date lol.
Few years back she didn't want me to go for a bike which had the max. cc ... clever she wanted me to buy some stupid bike which doesn't even hit 30 or 40 kmph on a highway haha!
Less CC Bike === Less Danger was her equation which was in no means similar to that of mine!
Oh yeah she also tried to convince me to go for a Car 
.Riding a Bike is in no way equivalent to driving a car....right!
Dad,Sis and Me somehow managed to convince her and i bought an awesome bike ^_^
Coming to the current situation --- SHE DO NOT WANT ME TO VISIT ANY STATE IN MY COUNTRY LET ALONE "VISITING ANOTHER COUNTRY LOL".SHE ISN'T WILLING TO LET ME GO OF HER SIGHT BY ANY MEANS!
I never revealed this to my friends coz those kamina's might use this to pull my leg which can be embrassing at times!
I Laughed my a$$out in the recent times,when one of my friend revealed that its the same with his mom as well ! Was ROFL literally when a couple of my friends joined in saying that their mom's were reluctant when it comes to allowing them to pursue higher studies abroad which was the case with them!
Well as of me i want to visit only ONE place in this damn world .... certainly NOT to pursue my higher studies,NOT to earn big money,definitely not to show my skills ... but to get hold of something precious!
IS IT THE SAME WITH YOU ??? IF I'M NOT WRONG THERE ARE MANY FOLKS OF MY AGE IN HERE ... AT ONE TIME OR THE OTHER YOU MUST HAVE GONE THROUGH THIS!
DOES YOUR MOM ENCOURAGE YOU TO VISIT OTHER COUNTRIES OR SHE WANTS YOU TO STAY BACK FOR HER AS SHE LOVES YOU! OH YEAH DOES YOUR MOM THREATEN TO ACCOMPANY YOU TO THE COUNTRY YOU ABOUT TO VISIT LOL AS SHE CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT YOU?
BTW I'M TRYING TO CONVINCE MY MOM THOUGH AS SHE SEEMS TO BE QUIET FIRM AS OF NOW :(
which never happened!
Only then my "dumbest" mathematical brain came to know as how much she loves me .From then onwards she started being extra careful when it comes to me. So we had a mutual agreement that i should let her know by all means if i get late or struck somewhere for distinct reasons!The agreemet is in good means till date lol.
Few years back she didn't want me to go for a bike which had the max. cc ... clever she wanted me to buy some stupid bike which doesn't even hit 30 or 40 kmph on a highway haha!
Less CC Bike === Less Danger was her equation which was in no means similar to that of mine!
Oh yeah she also tried to convince me to go for a Car .Riding a Bike is in no way equivalent to driving a car....right!
Dad,Sis and Me somehow managed to convince her and i bought an awesome bike ^_^
Coming to the current situation --- SHE DO NOT WANT ME TO VISIT ANY STATE IN MY COUNTRY LET ALONE "VISITING ANOTHER COUNTRY LOL".SHE ISN'T WILLING TO LET ME GO OF HER SIGHT BY ANY MEANS!
I never revealed this to my friends coz those kamina's might use this to pull my leg which can be embrassing at times!
I Laughed my a$$out in the recent times,when one of my friend revealed that its the same with his mom as well ! Was ROFL literally when a couple of my friends joined in saying that their mom's were reluctant when it comes to allowing them to pursue higher studies abroad which was the case with them!
Well as of me i want to visit only ONE place in this damn world .... certainly NOT to pursue my higher studies,NOT to earn big money,definitely not to show my skills ... but to get hold of something precious!
IS IT THE SAME WITH YOU ??? IF I'M NOT WRONG THERE ARE MANY FOLKS OF MY AGE IN HERE ... AT ONE TIME OR THE OTHER YOU MUST HAVE GONE THROUGH THIS!
DOES YOUR MOM ENCOURAGE YOU TO VISIT OTHER COUNTRIES OR SHE WANTS YOU TO STAY BACK FOR HER AS SHE LOVES YOU! OH YEAH DOES YOUR MOM THREATEN TO ACCOMPANY YOU TO THE COUNTRY YOU ABOUT TO VISIT LOL AS SHE CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT YOU?
BTW I'M TRYING TO CONVINCE MY MOM THOUGH AS SHE SEEMS TO BE QUIET FIRM AS OF NOW :(2 people like this
20 responses
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
19 Nov 10
Hiya sunny,
Yes she worries about you and rightly so but letting you go will only take you back to her time and time again.
She won´t be ready to accept that you can travel to other Countries I suppose but I understand her fears.
However she should let you go and discover what is out there. So then you can go back and tell her all about it.
My Mom never let me go anywhere either I had to break free when I was 21 in a way I did not want to do but I had to do it.
Later on I have realized how she felt but if I had not come here I would never have known if it was going to be a mistake or not.
If I was your Mom I would let you go to other Countries within reason. You need to have those kinds of experiences to grow and to benefit your own future Children too.
Hope you can convince your Mom good luck.
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@sunnycool (12714)
• India
19 Nov 10
I have got no problem travelling to new places and my mom is quiet aware of this but she doesn't want to take any chances ... gotta convince her in the right way and i'm damn sure she would let me go with a smile! convincing her is the real tough job in here which should be easier with the help of my dad and sis!
Good to see in my post .great day and thanks you for the wishes!
.great day and thanks you for the wishes!@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
19 Nov 10
Hiya sunny,
Okay and just hang on in there and take it easy time will come for you to be able to go everywhere you want.
Your Mom is a great Mom though because she worries because she cares so much that´s all.
She will see your side of things soon with a little bit of help from your Dad and Sis as you say.
Where do you want to travel to all over the Country or outside as well?
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
20 Nov 10
If it were about travelling to other states in my country(which isn't case) then she wouldn't be so firm atleast it shouldn't be so hard to convince her!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
19 Nov 10
Sorry for my late response but I am in TN having the time of my life. Anyways just wanted to add that no matter how old you get we mommy's will always worry. As we can stop to think that we have to at some point cut the umbilical cord and we simply do not want to.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
20 Nov 10
"No matter how old you get we mommy's will always worry"
I was a little late to know that ... As a kid i always thought she doesn't want me to enjoy with my friends ... stupid me never knew she was really concerned over my well-being!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
20 Nov 10
Completely understandable, and as mothers we know that deep in our hearts. 
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Nov 10
My mom didn't have any problem with me traveling anywhere once I was grown up.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Nov 10
Grown up - I went to Germany when I was 20. Does that count?
Me and Alice are going to be traveling partners, not sparring partners!!!
...as different countries have their own take on it!
@savypat (20216)
• United States
19 Nov 10
You have no idea how lucky you are to have a Mom who cares. So many of us are turned loose on life with no safety net. A Mother's concern can at least let you stop and evaluate your actions before you get into real trouble. Your karma has given you a mother's love and concern so please give it value.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
19 Nov 10
I love her too and there is no way i can offend her that is why i want to convince than to go against her which would never happen in my life time! May be i fail to show some love on her but she does show it 24x7!
@vandana7 (100302)
• India
19 Nov 10
Lost mine when I was very young. Wish I'd known how they are...and whether I would feel the same way as you.
I traveled across the state - alone - for the first - in eighth grade - from Mumbai to Godhra. No big deal. Dad's friend made me sit in the train. And Dad came to pick me at Godhra. Since then have been always traveling alone. :)
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
19 Nov 10
I'm too small to talk few words about your loss of your mom in such a young age!
And you're too old to listen to me lol!
You should be really happy to have blessed with a nice dad
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
20 Nov 10
You must have got some sweet memories about your times with your mom which can make you feel better
@SViswan (12051)
• India
20 Jan 11
lol..my mom's been the same...though not my dad. But being girl, I understand what my mom said though I might not agree. Now I'm a mother myself and I am frightened for my son. But I remind myself of how I was when I was his age....and I warn him of things and give him instructions before letting him do what he wants to.
Being responsible is a good trait and something a mother tries to do. I think more moms worry about the kids who are not responsible to let them know where they are....or they know their kids are impulsive.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
21 Nov 10
I was in your mom position before. It wasnt nice. The way things are in the world today people should always let somebody know where they are going to be at all times. Its a dangerous world out there. People killing others for no reason what so ever sometimes. I still worry about my kids and they are grown with kids of their own. I worry about the grandkids too.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
27 Nov 10
oh no... she lodged a complaint with the cops --- and prime suspect is Ifa 
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
19 Nov 10
When I was 12 and sibling was 14 we visited my parent's country by ourselves. Now that I think back at it, I think it's pretty crazy to let your kids go on a plane all by themselves. But my parents also let me marry easily when I was 19 also. So, I don't know if my parents worry or love me. 
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
27 Nov 10
That should have been such an awesome experience for you guyz ... if your parents still call you back and show some interest about your whereabouts then they do love you for sure
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
Well, that great for you because you can go anywhere you want. Don't fear to visit place whom you want. don't think about kidnapping or anything happen to you. We can't avoid things even if we are in our own country or place we can experience it...
Well, my mom not like. Because in the first place we don't have money to go anywhere...hehe
@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
21 Nov 10
Not me. My parents have always been pushing me away, my entire life they have been pushing me away from them. When I was 17 my dad kicked me out. Since I was under 18 my aunt and uncle took me in until I joined the Air Force. I was in there for 2 years before heading home. I lived with my parents again for 2 years. During this time they treated me like scum, but thought that since I was living under their roof this behavior was okay and I should appreciate it. I got out of there finally. I lived for 6 or 7 years on my own before I lost my home, I end up living with my mom for a year and she abused me this time too. In fact she just kicked me out the other day. I'm hopping around from motel to motel every night trying to get into some housing for those that are broke. Lol No, my mom is not overly concerned about me. She hasn't even tried to call or text me to make sure that I'm still alive.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
19 Nov 10
I don't know how old you are right now. I also don't know your culture. But I would definitely stop talking about travel with my mother if I were you. Just like I stopped talking to my mom about what I do well and where I wanted to take it after school. I was to stay under her roof for the rest of my life. That didn't happen. But I don't discuss my goals with people who wouldn't support my ability to get there. This is life! Mom won't be there for the rest of your life, whether she likes it or not!
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
20 Nov 10
I never said that she tried to halt or stop me from achieving my goals! I'm one of those guyz who believe that one should have their parents blessings before opting for something!
"Mom won't be there for the rest of your life, whether she likes it or not!" --- what if she had such opinion when you were an infant?
@akp100 (13640)
• India
19 Nov 10
Sunny I thought you don't have time
but you write quite big discussion their..
I guess it is common.. As my mom never allow me to go for other country.. ( no chance ) .. Currently i am staying in different city because of my work .. But my mom always told me to rent flat so she can stay with me..
but you write quite big discussion their..
I guess it is common.. As my mom never allow me to go for other country.. ( no chance ) .. Currently i am staying in different city because of my work .. But my mom always told me to rent flat so she can stay with me..@sunnycool (12714)
• India
20 Nov 10
Kinda used to write loooooong responses these days .... all credits go to *****
LoL if i'm not wrong most of indian mom's aren't willing to send their children!
"my mom always told me to rent flat so she can stay with me"
Waaaahhhh even my mom threatens me to pack her luggauge and accompany me if i pay a deaf ear to her when it comes to travelling to other places!
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
20 Nov 10
This tends to be the norm among moms everywhere but at varying degrees. My mother is like that in several ways. She want just cant wee her her kids taking up certain jobs. For the safe jobs lie in teaching, nursing and some business fields. To say we want to become a pilot, soldier or policeman/woman would cause her to worry. Even if she says nothing it can be seen on her face.
For the two times she traveled overseas we literally had to force her to go. Now I doubt she has that hangup anymore so her next trip should not be such a fight.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
i hope you would stop making it sound as if your mom's concern is a bad thing. i was in a similar situation with you when i was in high school and even college. it is normal for moms to feel overly protective. i do not understand her back then but when i became a mom myself, i felt what she felt and i felt bad that i did not understand her before. But now that i am a mother myself, i get protective too, even though my kids are still young, 6 is the eldest, i always feel like a mother cub protecting young cubs from danger... its like we do not want our kids to be hurt, even a small wound will hurt us like hell. You see, it is never and had never been easy to bring you guys for 9 months, caring for you for those years and you end up hurt or wounded..it is normal for mothers to feel that way, at times we do not want our kids to be out of the comfort zones for reasons we do not want you hurt.
maybe it is now time for you to talk to your mom about it, if it really bothers you a lot, tell her you are grown up and that you can take care of yourself but reassure her that you wont be careless.. understand her and soon she will also understand where you are coming from. 
@craigy123456789 (1759)
•
20 Nov 10
I guess that when we are children we don't always think the logical way. It is good that your family cared so much and this shows. Obviously with the life we live in anything really could happen and it is a scary world. I guess this is why we ashould always let people know where we are and to make sure hat they have a phone with them if there is ever any kind of problem. I am sure that many things were going through your families mind, not a good position to put them in. I guess seeing that also then teaches you that when you eventually become a parent you make sure that you know where your child is at all times, it is better to be safe than to be sorry.
@pokumon (644)
• United States
20 Nov 10
My mom too is very overprotective. She wants to know who I'm going out with, meet them, and get their cell phone numbers. I think having 5 kids kind of wore her down a little by the time she reached her youngest me, but she does hold a double standard for the 2 girls. She's so afraid we are going to get kidnapped or raped. My sister helped convince my mom to let me go to California for school (from Illinois). I guess it helped that I got into one of the best schools in the country (Caltech). I'm the only one she allowed to go out of state. Everyone else stayed in Illinois, but my sister did move to Boston and my brother to Michigan.
@fl0rencia (414)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
For every person, I think this is normal. Specially when the child is a teenager. Moms are just too afraid of their babies to let go. My mom was also like that to me. We argue sometimes because she won't allow me to go to a friend even if it's just a block away. I think they also become paranoid sometimes. Hahaha. I don't know but it would pass then. Right now my mom doesn't stop from going anywhere, maybe because I'm old enough and she had trusted me much.
