my boy friend have betrayed me,what should I do?

Well I think that he doeskin deserve you. You gotta understand that there are alot of other deserving people in this world and that no one should ever have to put up with anything like that. Keep your head up.

You don't have to be sad for things like that. I know it's hard on your part, but the previous posts can all be helpful for your situation. You got to talk to that guy, ask him if that's true. If it is, then you'd better let him choose between you and tthe other girl. They say, If a person is really yours, they would return to you, if not, they have never been yours at the first place. Anyway, I know it's gonna be hard, but remember there are guys who deserve your love BETTER. Eventually, the pain will be your companion for the time being, but it will past and you'll LEARN from it. Keep looking on the bright side, don't imprison yourself on the negative side. By the way, if he apologize, try to know first if he's sincere... Otherwise, you'll hurt yourself over and over. Try to use more of your mind than your heart. If you think he IS sincere, then you'd better give him another chance, everybody deserves it. Goodluck!

kill your boyfriend as quickly as ninja, sis..

leave him move on concentrate on making your life better be happy with yourself and then after you've done all that find someone else

Hi! You got a sad story... the bad side is he already has a new gf and did not tell you... the good side however is that he did not tell you because he did not want to hurt you. What should you do? I think you should talk to him heart to heart and ask him about this. Ask him what he really feels about you and what he really feels for the other girl. That might just be some sort of letter from someone who just want to hurt you... or someone who is really the new gf of your bf and wants to get you out of their lives... Anyways, talk to him. Ask him and accept what he will say. We cannot make people stay if they do not want to. If they want to go, let them go. It's better to let go than to hold on something and just continue to hurt yourself. It's really hard to be in a situation like you but we have to accept the truth... You'll find a better man.. :|

that is so sad what is happening to you.don't be so quick to break up talk to him maybe he has something going on and doesn't know how to tell you.Or maybe he needs some time to sort thing out.You have to decide is he worth waiting for?

Hi I am so sorry that you are sad. But you should take your time.Are you abosolutely convinced that the message is truth? If not it can be also joke from anybody who has contact at you. I think you should talk to your boyfriend face to face. I think its good that you didnt tell you because he didnt want to hurt you but the fact that he found new girlfriend is sad and its proove that you maybe didnt love you so much. You should not be sad because I hope you are amazing girl and you will find your real love soon. You should enjoy the life and be happy. I wish you all the best.

There's no doubt about it. It hurts to be betrayed by the one you love. Where did the commitment go and do you want it back? Forgiveness and trust will be issues to deal with as well. You have to think about your relationship and if you still see a future with the one who betrayed you. sometimes it can be repaired. Other times it is already lost to us.

I will say.. just BREAK UP. Well, you cannot do anything about this. I'd been betrayed by my boyfriend few years ago, and now he married that third party. Fyi, he married her, just about months after we broke up, and.. he soon got a son after his marriage. There is no use to keep someone that don't keep our trust that we had given to him. Go on. There are still a lot of guys that deserve your love and trust that even can love you more than you love him. ^^ Good luck..

Hi xiaoanorincess, yes it is much painful. My friend has a boy friend through online, may be 6 months over now. Now that guy become some what different, going with other girl friends, after coming to know about it she cried a lot because she thought her friendship will break here after. But now she consoled herself and made up her mind to be strong enough because she also want to be away from that guy, why means if her friendship becomes much closer with him then later betrayed is very very painful because his nature is like that always feel to have new friendship or new girl friend, this tendency gives little annoy. Let them live their on own. We can't make anyone force to make friendship is it not. We just can pray god to give them what ever they ask or need and they should be happy forever. Is it. In that way we get some happiness. Let them live upto their wish. If she/he are happy we also happy. Have a nice day.

Since he just not love you anymore, then let him go. Yes, it is painful but it is better than to keep him when his heart isn't with you. Keep yourself busy with work so that you won't time of him that frequently. With time, all wounds will be heal.

maybe thats not true. if that girl sent you a message saying that you should talk with your bf and ask him if is really true that he has other gf. bcs maybe that girl lied. why was her sending you message saying that and not your bf telling you? talk with him. you need to know what happened really. bcs maybe that girl is lying. just go and talk with him first and if he really cheated you then leave him.

Hello there! I will not tell you to do this and do that because you do have your own mind and heart to know what you should you really do. Before you come up being paranoid about this. All you have to do is talk to your boyfriend first. Confront him with that thing you know. Please just calm yourself down while talking to him because we would not want your bf to think that you are so into him that you cannot live without him. Just tell him it is ok to be honest with you. Please also take note if your bf is telling you the truth if he tells you that he doesn't have other gf beside you. I hope you will be able to be ready for all that will happen later on. Have a great week ahead of you.

ive sent messages like that when i was a teenager. it doesnt mean your boyfriend feels that way. the girl just might be trying to mess with you. i did it and im sure people still do it now. talk to your boyfriend. ask him about the message. the only way your going to know the truth is if you talk to your boyfriend and he tells you how he feels. dont listen to anyone else.

It never fails to sadden me whenever I hear story of infidelity. I believe you should break up with him. He doesn't deserve your love and someone better will come along. He didn't want to hurt you that's why he kept his new relationship a secret? But he already hurt you by just being unfaithful. He is nothing but a coward.

I think you must accept what the reality is and leave him be, it seems he is not interested in you, but i dont thinking breaking your friendship is a good idea you must continue your friendship as it is, friendship is better than love since it cant be broken that easily as love can sometimes be temporary, if he says so there is no reason to go on further in love, i hope you both are still friends.

Thats really bad, i think you should asked him out what the problem or he was just testing your nerves you should be take every step intelligently before getting into some kind of decision. Wishing a good luck to you.

Hi xiaoanorincess. I'm sorry to hear what happened. I think you should start with a serious conversation with your boyfriend. The message may not be true in the first place. We can't easily assume or judge certain events or situations or people. You must have known your boyfriend quite well, and if you really trust him then it's better to give him a chance to tell his side of the story and yours too. It doesn't mean though that you have to be fooled by him, just try to be wise and sensitive if he's somehow sincere with what's really up or if what he's saying is quite logical. If he tells you it isn't true, then I guess it's up to you to find it out and it's also up to him to prove his loyalty to you. Being in a relationship means working together hand in hand, both of you must do your own part. So if he's really seriously committed to you, I'm pretty sure he'd do everything to prove to you his love and loyalty especially after what happened. If the message is really true, then have the courage to let go and move on. I know it will be hard and painful but if he is betraying you, then there's no point of staying with him. You deserve better than that. He can't have two girls at once. Give yourself another chance to find someone more deserving than him, give yourself another chance to be truly loved in return. I think somehow, the thought of the message is right. We can't love two persons at the same time at the same weight. There will always be the one whom we love more. He will not be with somebody new if he truly loves the old one. So tell him that he should be honest rather than keeping what he really feels and keep on betraying you and his self. The truth may hurt skin-deep but if it will make you and him free, then he should tell it once and for all. No matter how painful it may be, we can all survive the heartbreaks, you can and will too. =)

Hello Friend, First of all I will say you not to have a bad impact on your boy friend, because you are not informed directly by him about his new affair. It may be possible that the new girl wants to separate you and your boy friend. Be conscious and please talk to him directly about the new affair. If he admits the new relation then let him to enjoy his life. Do not be crazy for a boy who can not express the feelings. It is very silly to say that "I can not talk to my girl friend as it will hurt her." Do you think there is something hurter than "making a new affair"? After all, relations made by force are not long lasting. So It is better to find a ideal matched partner who can trust and love you. Do not forget "Love is just a part of like not the heart of life". I think you are mature and can understand. Do not be sentiment. Think high. Live well. Be happy forever. For sometimes it will hurt you, but try to overcome from this. I have also the same experience in my life before 10 years. One of my friend told me that she is not loving you more. Then I directly meet her and came to know that our relationship will not last forever.So I have tried to forget my 7 year love and also succeed. Now I am so happy with my new love.

At first you should try to know is really your boyfriend betrayed with you?? or the third girl just try to break up your relation....if you can get any information about the third girl,please try to know more about her with the help of your friends...if possible talk with your boyfriend face to face..... i think may work.. am i right??