What ? No Relationship Status?
By eurekafemme
@eurekafemme (5877)
Philippines
November 21, 2010 12:15am CST
IN my FB account I did not specify any relationship status unlike others who put there either married,single, or it's complicated. Plus, i'm still using my maiden name.
One "friend" ask me why? I explained that using my maiden name will make my friends and old colleagues or classmates find me.
For the status,what is the difference if I put there married or single? Will it stop me from flirting with a possible fling? Or will it scare the hell out of guy to flirt with me if he saw that I am married? Some had specified they are married and yet openly flirted. So what is the use?
I clearly put their that I am interested in friendship and networking , both men and women. So, that's enough indication already what I am in FB for.
He asked, then, I wonder if I can get to know you closer? See....relationship status doesn't count.
Do you put your status in every social network you have?
Do you put your status in every social network you have?1 person likes this
9 responses
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
21 Nov 10
Hi sweetie.
I do and i ignore those who have something to say.
They can think what they want as well i honestly don't care what people say or think.
If they get gutsy i delete them as easy as that.
No one's issues can make me care or change my mind.
A few have learned that lesson the hard way.
Do as you like and think is best.
If they don't like it, TOUGH.
TATA.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
I think, you and my sister can be very good friends, if ever.:) You ,two, are both tough when it comes to your fb friends. It is so easy to delete or unfriend them.:)
Yes, it is your life and you can very well do what you want to do with it, say anything you want to say and you don't owe anyone an explanation for your actions or thoughts. Tough, indeed , you are Saphy.:)
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
Hahaha! You really sound like my sister, dear.:)
Leave it or take it. If yo can't stand her, by all means delete her and if you love her, you are very much welcome to her group. That's how she handles her fb friends.:)
You are a disciplinarian, Saphy. I just hope those who misbehave are given warnings , then probation before the ultimate penalty of being deleted from your list. I hope you are a bit lenient, dear.:)
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
21 Nov 10
Maybe he thinks you're not serious in the relationship because it wasn't worth it for you enough to state it in status, so now he's approaching you! haha.. I knew a girl who thought it was rude for not uploading a photo of your significant other. I think it's silly... these network things can get out of hand a lot.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
22 Nov 10
I'm sure that is your reason for not stating the status, and it's valid too.. other people are so narrow minded and they thing this is this because that is that.
Some people really have a lot of time on their hands.. or, even the busy people actually spare a lot of time for these network sites. It's scary. People are control and addicted.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
Well, maybe. Or maybe, the relationship is too worth it that you want to give it a little privacy.
Here's the thing. A woman added my husband to her FB friend. And when he saw he is married, he then started searching for his wife and found me and added me as well to her list.She did took all the efforts to check his profile painstakingly just to search for the link that will connect my husband to me which is out of his 300+ friends, she can only find one and that is our daughter. It was pretty strange!!! and eery....
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
I do in all social networking site because I just feel like doing it not to offend my husband who's on the same social networking site with me. Plus, I don't want to start up any issues with his family and my family who are pretty conservative when it comes to these things.
But, I totally agree with you that no matter what relationship status we put in there it doesn't stop us or somebody else from flirting with other people. It's just how we handle those men flirting with us and if we allow them to. Self-respect is more important than the relationship status you put in your FB account.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
That is so true, Toni. :)
My husband and I used to be friends in FB but I deleted him as friend there because I do not want to know anything about the things he is posting . Moreover, I'd rather keep my private life private.
Status is nothing, it is the self respect, character and discipline that's count. No need to broadcast everything unless it is called for.:)
@donnaphipps (145)
• United States
21 Nov 10
i have a facebook account but i dont get on it much. yes, i am married but i dont see the point of the status. with my myspace i do have on there that i am married but that doesnt stop people from flirting with me sometimes. i just simply message them and let them know i am married and that i am not interested in that kind of things. only friends. whether you put your status or not, it wont stop people from flirting if they really want to. so i say it shouldnt matter.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
You see, we both agree on this one.:)
Sometimes, it is also a way to protect the privacy of the relationship for possible nuisance people. See my comment to response #10 to know what I mean. People are sometimes freaking weird. Better to keep some stuff secrets for your own benefits or could be safety.:)
@KSmith526 (58)
• United States
22 Nov 10
I only have a Facebook account and I put married because I don’t use my maiden name anymore from when I was in high school. The picture on my account is also of my husband and I. If you're married, then it's hard to deny it once your last name is changed.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
That is seems to be the logical thing to do when you are married and would want everybody in your circle knows about it. It make sense to those whom you are personally acquainted with but for those you just met especially virtually they would think otherwise unless you've put it there.:)
I have no picture of my husband in any of my albums. This way, his identity is left hidden and unknown except for our mutual friends and relatives.:)
@cmg6600 (13)
• India
21 Nov 10
I think your relationship counts in FB. A person may be a boy or a girl, will be more interested in the people who have a status 'single' in most of the cases. This will give them a license to have a better friendship and may lead to flirting too.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
This may be true for those who are single and are looking for a possible love partner. They feel more encourage to befriend someone who is 'single'. But for those who are clearly for friendship and networking, it really doesn't matter because these people do not expect to find a fling (though it is still possible in the long run).
If it is platonic relationship you are just after , whatever your relationship status doesn't create that much impact to any users of that site whom you came across with...:)
Thank you, Cmg ,for your thoughts.;)
@SViswan (12051)
• India
20 Jan 11
I put my relationship status...but that is purely out of habit. Despite that I've had people trying to flirt..so it's not of any use...as you rightly point out.
I still use my maiden name everywhere...so that remains the same on FB too. If ever I choose to change my surname, I will add my husband's name and not cut off my surname to accommodate his.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
23 Nov 10
Hi!
You have very valid points to make and I more or less agree with you. Status hardly matters. On FB if you get closer or are closer to someone, s/he will come to know whether you are married or not. If you keep something hidden or invisible from others (e.g. your status etc.) it gives a chance to others to make wild guess about you.
@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
You got a point there. I have always put my status being "in a relationship". I have broke up with my bf 2 years ago and had forgotten to get it updated but it didn't seem to matter. I guess it matters most to partners but it does not affect how other people in the network address you or regard you. When they are interested on you, the heck with the status. It serves no purpose at all. I know a couple who broke only because of the status thing. My friend view her boyfriends' status a month ago. She was surprised that he has indicated "single" instead of "in a relationship". She didn't say anything about it and also changed her status. Upon doing so, her boyfriend discovered what she did and he palinly told her that he can not trust her anymore because she has changed her status and she might be searching another guy. Instantly, they broke up. It was just because of their status in a social network. Tsk! Tsk! 
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
Hahaha! I couldn't help laughing upon reading your response, Starlight_Starbright.:)
What a silly thing for lovers to judge their relationship based on that alone. It doesn't make sense at all...
To play safe, better not to indicate any so you don't have to bother updating it if it needs to.:)
Poor couple... I hope they will realize soon how silly they are...
