Following Advice Given
By tfblack
@tfblack (7)
United States
November 21, 2010 4:04pm CST
My Mom is a huge believer in Not giving advice. She says that she provides information or outlooks on both sides of an issue or question, but never suggests to the person what they should do. The reason is because if the suggestion didn't turn out well for the person, then they can't come back and blame you for bad advice. I've often noticed that when people do ask for advice, they usually end up doing exactly what they want anyway, so what was the point of asking.
Why is it that people ask for advice and then don't take it? If a friend asks you for advice, do you give it or just listen and hold their hand until they come to a decision?
2 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Nov 10
I find that most people come to me for advice. While there are a great many that will listen avidly and agree, then go off and do their own thing.
So I can only provide the advice, as to whether they take it or not, perhaps they have their reasons and need confirmation.
@maximumgravity1 (245)
• United States
21 Nov 10
I always give a disclaimer. I usually ask people if they REALLY want my advice, then tell them it is my opinion. In the end, whether they choose to listen or not is up to them. Even if I know the right answer, it is up to them to figure it out for themselves, because as you mentioned, they won't listen to me anyway.
The reason most people ask for advice but don't take it is I believe most people want affirmation of their opinion. They have likely already made a decision, or are leaning in a direction that they will likely choose. I believe the reason they ask for your advice is to see if they made the choice that the rest of the "crowd" would make or to see if they are justified in their actions.
