Love is a decision not a feeling?

Yes, i agree. It is a decision. Well, feelings are involved when you love someone but it involves decision when times are tough, to be committed to someone you love requires a decision. To work things out requires a decision. I think love includes both feelings and decision. Without feelings, it will be too robotic too. We humans need to have emotions but to totally to love without decision is foolish.

Love for me, is a feeling then solidify by a decision. WE have to feel love at first before we can choose whether to pursue to love and being loved. When we don't know how it feels to be love then, there is nothing to decide. BEsides, love is the great force that we wanted to be loved back. But being able to sustain such love one has to decide. Since love is a feeling, it could also be fleeting or temporary. It is all up to us how to keep the flame of love burning inside us by making a decision to work hard on it, to make it work and last longer if not forever.:)

I agree. It is a decision. Actually, feelings are decisions. Though most of the time they are involuntary, meaning, our brain automatically induces the "feeling". You could easily love someone just by deciding that I love this person. That's why a love for a person grows day by day. It's a constant learning experience that you choose to experience, until there comes a point in time that it becomes automatic. (That's how intelligent our brains are)

Love's maybe formed from first time attraction, simple affection, but is strengthened, nurtured and sustained by a decision. Feelings couldn't suffice to sustain LOVE or a romantic relationship, because it's mainly a matter of decision and not just emotion. It has a feeling but it transcends the feelings or emotions, it goes beyond what the heart felt, it includes and requires decision. God bless you!:D

Love, you feel it first before you decide. When you decide first, before you love...that is something not true. It is forced, it wont last.

I also believe that it is both. It is a feeling first, but then you have the decision on whether or not you want to continue persuing that feeling. Although, once you have decided to love someone it is very hard to change your mind and decide not to love him or her anymore and once again becomes a feeling.

I think you are right, it is a decision and not a feeling. We can feel a lot of different ways because our feelings change so often. If we followed our feelings all the time we would be very fickle in our words and actions. Some married people say they "fell" out of love with their spouse. But you have to decide you are going to love a person through everything. One can't rely solely on feelings.

i think both. it is how the brain perceives it that makes it a feeling.

I agree. No matter how much we love someone if we choose not to love that person, we can. Love is not just feelings. When you get married, love is being set aside for obligations and responsibilities rush in. No matter how much love you have for each other, you have to face so many priorities that need more attention. Oftentimes, couples some to a point that they no longer feel love but still keep the relationship for they believe it is the life that they have chosen and they must only enhance it in any way they can.