Is having a child affects a couple's relationship?
By Azaerus
@Azaerus (820)
Philippines
November 22, 2010 1:33am CST
My girlfriend and I sometimes talk about marriage and then having a child after. Sometimes my girlfriend ask me what if she won't get pregnant, I always tell her that it's not that important whether she can bear a child or not because there are other options like adoption. What's important is that we still love each other and we trust each other enough to get through the problems that will come in our life as a couple.
One time, my girlfriends mom overheard us talking about this stuff and she told us some things that messed up my mind until now. She told us that sometimes when a couple is having a hard time having their own child, their relationship starts to break apart. She also told us that adoption is not always a good option. I'm afraid that if we can't bear our own child in the future, we might end up in separate ways.
Is having a child really affects the relationship of a couple? Because I really do believe that it's the most challenging part in a relationship and a couple should not part ways because of it, instead they should do their best to support and love each other more and they should also consider making some adjustments.
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8 responses
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
24 Nov 10
Having a child does affect a couple's relationship. it has to because you are not just a couple anymore. you are a family. There are going to be changes and they will affect how you are as a couple. This doesn't have to be a bad thing. Having a child with the one you love can be a very positive reward to your life. @Desiree1203 (75)
• China
23 Nov 10
Well, having a child really affects a couple's relationship either in a good way or in a bad way.
I think the main factor is how the couple deals with this. if they can stand the pressure.
@ganeshprabhuk (1722)
• India
23 Nov 10
Having a child is not important. Loving and caring for each other is more important. Adopting a kid would be a better suggestion so that you can take care of one child who is needy. I feel even God would be supporting you. It is a social cause adopting a child who will stay with you for life long. Love is main important and I feel child will not break this relation.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
For me yes it is really true because the child is the most priority of the woman than his husband then they feel not attended tha'ts why many are family is broke because of that matter.
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
If you love each other and are committed to keeping that love alive then child or no child you will stay together, my fiancée and I also talk about that. In the end children are not the basis of a successful relationship, they are the result of a successful relationship, but not the core of being in the relationship. Consult doctors, like we have and you'll be amazed of the new technology that could help you and your gf have a baby.
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
It depends on you bro. It depends on how badly you need a child? If you really love your wife it wouldn't really matter in your relationship. If you stick with your decision of loving your wife for the rest of your life, then it wouldn't bother you whether she could bear you a child or not.
I believe that a child could add happiness to your relationship but it's absence shouldn't discount both of your love for each other. Because loving is more than just emotions, generally and mainly about choices and decisions!
God bless you and your relationship brother!
@rayverkyle (18)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
Some studies show that child plays a vital role on the life of a married couple but some studies also show that, child may play a vital role but how the marriage works will depend on both couple. Why not try to look in the bright side of your future marriage that you will have a kid and your responsibility lies on guiding that child as he or she grows up. it's sweet to think, right? having your own family. Regardless, what the study results said, the success of your marriage depends on the two of you whether you have a child or not but the best gift that a couple could have is a child from their own flesh and blood.
