We have to sell our house.
By Nickfyoung
@Nickfyoung (323)
Australia
November 22, 2010 6:49pm CST
It is always sad when one has to make a major change in life. You have to then re-focus your dreams and make them line up with your new direction.
We have been building a house in Davao for a few years now bit by bit and focusing all our dreams around it ready for retirement. Now my wife's eldest son wants us closer to him so he can look after us when we get old and decrepit, forbid the thought.
His wishes are admirable and I applaud him for that. He has included me in his plans for his Mum's old age which is wonderful because the best I could hope for here would to be locked away in some awful retirement home, forbid that thought too.
So, back to our changed plans and the sale of our half finished house. If we can get it sold we will buy a lot next door to the son or close by and build something there. He will be happy then and we will be happy.
What do you think. Are the people in the Philippines wonderful or what.
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10 responses
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
I have a better idea. Why don't you finish the house and just put it up for rent. That way you have a steady income, and you could help your son by shouldering some of the expenses for your living. Like, the water bill, electricity bill, food on the table?
I agree though, people in the Philippines are wonderful! We are so family oriented that it hurts to see our retired parents in a nursing home
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Right, provides additional income to be spent during retirement.
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
11 May 11
hello nick,
when one enters one family (like you being in their family) - in the philippines, you become one of them and they take care of family, especially the elders. 
ordinary siblings who work will never think of putting their elders in homes away from them. they will care for them even when they are so old and forgetful.
so lucky you are in a filipino family. so what do you think? are the people in the philippines wonderful? i know you have an answer to that. 
ann
ordinary siblings who work will never think of putting their elders in homes away from them. they will care for them even when they are so old and forgetful.
so lucky you are in a filipino family. so what do you think? are the people in the philippines wonderful? i know you have an answer to that.
ann
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
23 Nov 10
Hi Nick. That is great to hear that you are close as a family. I personally could not think of anything worse than living next to my in laws or even my parents and I know my wife feels the same way. That is part of the reason why we moved interstate! 
But I would love my kids to want to stay close to me, which is why I am trying to form a closer bond with them than I have with my parents. I hope that as adults we can have the same close relationship that it seems you have.
But I would love my kids to want to stay close to me, which is why I am trying to form a closer bond with them than I have with my parents. I hope that as adults we can have the same close relationship that it seems you have. 
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
Hello Nick,
Personally, I strongly agree with the first responder. why sell that when you can lease or use it to rent those people who want to have a space for their business..
Regarding to you're story, It's nice that Filipinos still has this trait. I remember taking care of my Grand Pa when i was in grade 5. he should have lived longer if he wasn't a hard time smoker
but every all saints day. i make to appoint that he has a clean tomb.
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Regarding to you're story, It's nice that Filipinos still has this trait. I remember taking care of my Grand Pa when i was in grade 5. he should have lived longer if he wasn't a hard time smoker but every all saints day. i make to appoint that he has a clean tomb. 
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Of course people in the Philippines are wonderful because I am a citizen there and we value and care for our older parents no matter what happen. You can rest be assured that you will not lived in a retirement home alone. When people get old they should stay as closes as possible with their children because it's the family that will always be there to help all the time.
The house is not finished yet maybe you can sold it but complete it first because no one would buy a house that is half finished. I think your wife's son is a good person and you will be taken care of the best way possible.
@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Ahh, that's one of our better traits as Filipinos. We take care of our family, no matter how old they are. Retirement home is not a popular choice here - only those who have no family are taken there. We consider it our obligation, which we are more than happy to do, to take care of our parents once they grow old. After all, they took care of us when we were young. Your story of your stepson wanting to take care of your wife is pretty common here. What is uncommon, and will surely be the talk of the town, is when a son/daughter refuses to support or help his/her parents. We consider it scandalous when a person has means and refuses to give money to their parents. We respect our elders and we show it to them until the day they die.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Yes, we do like to take care of our elders when they grow old. Part of our culture, I guess. That is why the country is being marketed as a retirement haven. In fact, most Filipinos go abroad to work as caregivers, and most of them work at homes for the elderly. I'm glad you found your home in here and enjoy your retirement here. I'm betting her grandkids (if any) treat you as their own grandpop.
