If you know its not gonna work, Would you?

Not going to last , well maybe you think it and poof life passes with that person and you are perfectly fine . Still lets say they know its not going to last , holding your feeling is not the best thing you can do , my first girlfriend was like that but i'm not sorry for being with her , every experience in life that can give you joy must be taken , there are too much things to be sad about so even little not lasting love is good . And you can use the experience of your previous relationship to make the one with the ~~~ perfect lover of your life easier .

lol...your description fits my relationship situation now... often we heard that, like you said..if you love someone and want to be with that someone, wouldn't the happiness you enjoy with each other be worth going through the pain after?... well its not easy as it sound..when you have to choose within your family or you love one. and ya!!..both parties know that it would never gonna work but still working on it... we just leave this matter to God for the 'time' answer everything

I don't think anything is set in stone. There is no real way of knowing if a relationship is going to work out or not, all you can ever do is say you tried. There are plenty of people who enter a so-called "lost cause" relationship and spend the rest of their lives together while many go for the "sure thing" and break up no long thereafter. There are never any guarantees. However, if there is a deeply fundamental difference between two people, i don't really see there being a lot of reason for being in a relationship.

hello shattered! it has been said that even if you get hurt by loving someone, it would still be worth it knowing that the moments you shared with that someone would make you smile once in a while, in the future. Life is what we make it, therefore we could never be sure that a relationship will work or not. If you will not put your best effort into it, then surely it will not work. We reap what we sow. However, if for example you enter into a relationship with a married person, then you could tell that it's destine to put you in the losing end. On the other hand, knowing that life is mysterious, it would still not offer any assurance that you would not end up with such person. Love moves in mysterious ways. If you are truly meant for each other, no matter how difficult the circumstance are, how impossible is the situation, you would still find yourself with that particular someone, somehow, somewhere, someway.

I would totally take the chance to be with that person even if it wouldn't last. A moment of happiness for both of us would be enough rather than regret for not taking the opportunity. After reading some comments, i totally agree on some too. Also, the pain wouldn't hit you that hard since you already know what to expect.

i agree in trying. if both are in love why not try? we cant know for sure if something will work or not. so sure is better to try and see if works or not than to regret it later. when it comes to love we should always try anyway. even if goes wrong at least you can keep the sweet memories instead of just think in what could had happen if you decide not to try. also if is a true love we always have to try^^ bcs love is very powerful and people cant resist to it^^

There is always a right time for everything. A right time to love and a right time to let go. It's just fine to give it a try but know when to let go. It's not good to insist things that are really not meant to be. It may lead to regret and misery at the end.

Hello shattered! I believe in the saying that if you love someone, then set him free. If given a chance to be with that someone for even a short period of time, then I will grab it. I think the memories afterward would help me get through life after our relationship rather than live in the "what if" situation. Cheers!