Problem with parents meddling with love relationships

Don't be sad dear. And don't think that marriage is the solution. One thing I could say is, you have the same prob with my elder sis before, she thought marriage is the answer, she married at a young age of 23 to a man who doesn't have a stable job, they both promised to work and try to sustain their living, yet after marriage she got pregnant, and the guy still doesn't have a job. But the baby's already there, they have to feed her, so my sis looked for a job and make a living, but they're really having difficulties now to sustain the family. So, don't just think of marriage because of your problem. Focus on the good things about your life my friend. Don't always ask your self "what's wrong with me?" instead ask your self always and more often "what's good about and with me" recognize every blessing, sustain your relationship with your boyfriend as you love each other, and don't rush, God has a purpose, everything happens for a reason, just pray that your parent maybe awakened to the reality that you are mature enough to make decisions for yourself. God bless you, your family and your relationship! :D have a happy life!

Sadly, I'm the eldest so this is really something new to them..and i guess that having decision for myself will never happen unless i get married and leave home.. I feel so sad..that can't be happy with my life cause my parents keeps on interfering..I'm even crying at the moment..so hard ;(

thanks for cheering me up..I won't really get married early..and no worries cause my bf is financially stable cause he got businesses of his own..and he came from a well off family, having their own company..but its not my worry..my parents are well off too..so there's no problem with financial and all..the prob is i don't feel that our relationship will grow if we keep on sticking to the same routine..cause we can't even go out of town..i know you understand me..what should i tell my bf if the time came that he feels bored with the relationship cause we cant have those new special moments together..he's an outgoing person and is well traveled.;(

Try telling them that you understand their concerns and know that they love you but reassure them that they raised you right and they have no reason to worry if you went out. Not sure if that would help or not. I really think the only way to change the situation is to be out on your own. good luck!

let's see..I should prove to them that there's nothing to worry about..its tough but I'm sure my dad can understand..unlike my mom..;[ thanks..

I'm glad that you are one of those open minded parents around.. It's just sad that your parents doesn't trust you, truly that our ways are different but it somehow doesn't apply to the modern world..my parents are conservative and traditional..it's hard to cope up with such attitudes cause they tend to be close minded. My friends' parents allow them to go anywhere they want since their parents are open to these kind of things..I'm old enough to make my own decisions and take care of myself.. I don't even have to wait for their decision if its a no or yes. I already told them what I should do but still they act as if I'm still a teenager that every time I'll do something, I have to ask for their permission. I hope I could get my own place soon. That's the only way that they won't be able to meddle with my whereabouts. But for now, I should think of ways on how to convince them..thanks sid..if you have enough advices to give, please do. It would be helpful.

I haven't told them that my bf and i might break up in the future cause of what they're doing..true..they won't let me breathe..and it's like i can do anything unless i get married..and I'm not ready for that..i just want to enjoy life...I feel so sad that they won't even think of my happiness..

I would tell them exactly that last line. It will hit hard.

I hope they will..but i doubt cause they're hard as rock. :(

Thanks..and i totally agree with you.. I know that my parents are just thinking whats best for me but they haven't thought what the effect would be..:[ I wish I could convince them that its time to let me go..they just have to be there to guide and help but not interfere.

thanks..i tried with mom..but she's tough..true that I should make a promise..:(

yes. I already graduated college...:[

thanks..yes, it is hard cause i still live with them..;( before they always tell me that I should have a special someone so that I won't be like my auntie who became and old maiden and she is very lonely now..If my parents will do this to me..I would be the same old maiden as my auntie..They became so overprotective when my bf came along..:(