Depressed
By applejoy
@applejoy (145)
Philippines
November 23, 2010 6:44am CST
I'm totally depressed at the moment and i know I'm the only person who can help myself aside from other people's advices...how can i go away with such depression..how can i divert my mind..I'm so down, and suddenly just cry whenever i remember how sad I am..
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6 responses
@formidexo (1351)
• Canada
24 Nov 10
I find that sometimes shifting focus or thinking the opposite helps. Are there things going right in your life? Then try to focus on these instead of what is causing the problem. What is causing you to be depressed is not all of your life but only a small part. Try to shrink that part of your life until it becomes insignificant. Also try to increase your focus of attention on things that make you happy.
You state that your parents are causing your depression. Change the way you look at your parents from negative to positive. Think of all the benefits you have because you have parents. Do they feed you? Do they house you? Do they provide clothing? Are they really that bad? Where would you be without them?
These things are not easy to do. They require some work. You know you need to help yourself already, so why not start!
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@applejoy (145)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
I already know what are the good things my parents are doing for me..but sometimes it's very hard to the point that they are controlling..I'm trying to help myself by diverting my thinking to other things but after doing other things, there would always be times that you will realize there's still something you haven't solve yet or face yet..diverting my focus can help but it won't solve my problem.. unless i confront my parents..which i did to my mom but the sad part is..she's close minded and told me that i can do what i want bur starting now she don't care anymore about me..she's so mad..i just need her support and trust..but she wants to make things more difficult.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Feeling sorry for yourself won't help you in the end. Begin to thank yourself for feeling depressed and move on. Say to yourself that it had made its time and now it has to go away forever.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Ok. Let's fastforward to the time when you're already feeling better. Won't you regret the time lost for being depressed?
@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
25 Nov 10
Hi, applejoy 
Welcome to myLot!
I hope you feel a little better today. Maybe you could benefit from reading the discussion we had some time ago. Here is the link in case you have missed it:
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2413087.aspx
There are many here with a great sense of humor and lots of discussion about how to cope with depression, so why not make a search and you may find great ideas.
I felt depressed last week and went to see some old discussions of a friend and it made me feel much happier.
Why not make a list of something good you can do for someone who may need help. It works like a miracle, especially when you start doing the things on your list.
I hope this helps you 
Welcome to myLot!
I hope you feel a little better today. Maybe you could benefit from reading the discussion we had some time ago. Here is the link in case you have missed it:
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2413087.aspx
There are many here with a great sense of humor and lots of discussion about how to cope with depression, so why not make a search and you may find great ideas.
I felt depressed last week and went to see some old discussions of a friend and it made me feel much happier.
Why not make a list of something good you can do for someone who may need help. It works like a miracle, especially when you start doing the things on your list.
I hope this helps you @buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
27 Nov 10
That is wonderful, you are already doing something positive.
I hope you can get some good fruits and nutritious food, the more natural, the better.
Don´t forget to eat fish, as it has Omega3, that our brain needs. I am taking cold pressed oils, one is salmon oil from gnld.com, and it has a positive effect on my mood. Nuts are also good, if they are not heated.
I hope you get well and happy soon
I hope you can get some good fruits and nutritious food, the more natural, the better.
Don´t forget to eat fish, as it has Omega3, that our brain needs. I am taking cold pressed oils, one is salmon oil from gnld.com, and it has a positive effect on my mood. Nuts are also good, if they are not heated.
I hope you get well and happy soon @applejoy (145)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Thanks for your advise..I'm actually trying to do stuffs to lessen this depression.. I'm working first on my appetite..i need gain some weight cause i lost a lot of weight..:[ I'm doing things slowly..step by step..until I can recover..thanks again..
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@formidexo (1351)
• Canada
24 Nov 10
I find that sometimes shifting focus or thinking the opposite helps. Are there things going right in your life? Then try to focus on these instead of what is causing the problem. What is causing you to be depressed is not all of your life but only a small part. Try to shrink that part of your life until it becomes insignificant.
@realaccess (31)
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23 Nov 10
Hi applejoy, sharing your current state is a great first step to finding the solution - well done! Only you know what it is that is making you sad. My question is whether you can do something about whatever it is, including talking it through (a problem shared)? The other thing is that negative thoughts attract more negative thoughts. Your thoughts are not aligned with your natural emotional state (your soul or heart's desire). So where to start? Well, I would suggest that you focus on some positive affirmations like "I AM worthy", "I AM happy", "I AM positive or I AM so happy and so grateful now that I feel positive". I do really hope this helps as a useful next step.
You might also want to think about stilling your mind through meditation.
http://www.real-innerpeace.com/meditation.aspx
@applejoy (145)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
the hardest part is not when you don't understand people, but rather when you can't understand yourself.. my problem is about my parents who keeps on meddling with my life..if you could check out some of my discussions started...those questions i asked there is connected directly to this depression I have.. i feel so sad..that i can't do anything..i want to be free..free from them..i can't even look at myself in the mirror cause all i can see is a person who is already matured but can't stand on her own feet.. like now while writing this I'm already breaking down...crying..please help me anyone.. i feel so sad..;(
@realaccess (31)
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23 Nov 10
I know that is difficult but what is there to understand? You are a free spirit that belongs to our Universe. Free that is to choose and be guided by your thoughts. Whether you think you can move on or you can't, you're right. I know it's not easy but you are what you are thinking. Don't be sad. You can stand on your own two feet. I know that you can and I believe in you. Do me afavour and right down some positive goals - things that feel are right for you and that you would really like to do. Go on. Please let me know how you get on. Take care.
@applejoy (145)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
thank you so much..i guess my first step of getting out of this loneliness is sharing it to people and listening to their advices..things that I already know and that I just need to hear it from other people..you're right I should start writing down positive goals that will make me motivated to do positive things..and help me vanish this depression on me..I don't know where to start thou cause i feel like I'm at the middle of nowhere..
