Giving up or not??

When it seems that everything out of my mouth is ignored or leads to a fight, especially when the person eventually realizes or is told by an outside source that what I said was right but still refuses to listen to a word that I have said, then I do admit that I feel like giving up. I am sorry that this is happening to you as well, Saphy.

Saphy sweetie, I fought for long and I am continuing to fight. There is no cure for my fighting nature. In any event a change in reputation would hardly find me anything at this stage. :) So now, I can afford to be BADDDDDDD. :) Nowadays, I just cut the person off my list of friends if he or she hurts me. :) ESPECIALLY if he or she has been told what hurts, and still he tries to joke about it. I do hit back - below belt - to make the person realize how it would hurt him. The last person who left my list of friends is a myLotter. He is the one and only myLotter who has been deleted from my list of friends.

and you life is there... Am i right saphie? Have a nice day.

Saphrina.. I have limits too. I would not want to reach to the point, where i would think of giving it up. I would get irritated, angry, whatever. But in the end i am the one who has to make up things back to normal again. I don't want to keep doing that. So i try not to bother at times, i don't want it to keep eating my head. I would rather play video games! Yay.

Hi Saphrina, This post reminded me of a story that my late Grandfather used to tell me when I was down. The moral was - We cannot win all times and so we should wait for the right moment to fight back to win. Somewhere this has been embedded in my now. I know I am losing and am not in a mood to fight back or continue the argument. So I take a break from this and let the things happen as I am not prepared or any other reason - I cannot win. But I keep searching for the factor which would help me win and once I have it I revert back giving it one more shot. 80% chances of winning this time and if I lose again... retry. But as I saw on the advert for a Battery - "Never Give Up". Cheers, theSids.

saphy I have literally been through so much and learned this year that I cannot win the war. I may win battles but wars are something that I simply am prone to continue to deal with. I have given up subconsciously many times in my life and although I say I am a fighter it is a constant battle for me quietly. I have been knocked down for the first time in my life. See I have always been pushed and almost dropped to my knees, but year however, I have been completely knocked down and no matter what I do I simply can't get up. I have great hopes but have to admit that I do have my moments wheres as I am not sure I have it in me left to keep fighting. So I am trying simply to take one day at a times and see where it takes me.

I do not like giving up and it took me 21 Years to give up on a Marriage that only I was trying to make work I suppose it also took me 21 years to get the Courage to end it But normally no I will not give up

Hi Saphy, I won't give up so easily. But it depends on the person how she/he close to me.

Yeah, friend, you are right,we have to face such situations in life. And i believe,nothing is impossible hard work make everything possible. Good Luck. Good Day Friend.

Hi saphrina, Yes dear all these will be there in our routine life. But you know we have to move on. I rarely argue I didn't like to fight but i will get angry for some sort of things which i didn't like whoever may be i will ask them, later i feel why i asked who am i. Of course up and downs are there for everyone's life. All the time and all the days are not alike and also not ours, so we have to accept as it comes. Above all i believe god so i believe god will not make me down. I also pray god for my family members, friends and other known people to have a good and happy life. Hope god will hear to my prayers. Begging i do to pardon me when my husband will get angry on me, but it makes a good and romantic day too. Begging for such things will make our relationship stronger and happy right ! and i wouldn't feel bad to asking for pardon for my mistakes. Have a good day.

I would not say that I am at the giving up point at the moment, but I do wonder why it is that insignificant job's worths find it necessary to continually place obstacles in my way. Why it is that banks deliberately process things a little early, incur you charges, and then tell you that you should manage your affairs better: I would rather manage without them. They would then be unemployed and I would be free to manage my resources!

I never get tired of fighting with my husband because I always like the making up part. Whenever we make up, we feel more love for each other. However, it also depends on what the cause of fighting is. Maybe if he were cheating on me, I would never give him another chance. That's me, stubborn as always!

hi Saphrina! for one, i dont get tired of arguing especially if i know im really making sense more than the other's argument does. but if i notice that my arguing doesnt at all makes sense to this person im arguing with, then i wouldnt waste my time explaining my point anymore BUT i wouldnt give in. im not giving up on my ideas unless he was able to justify his own. i really have too much of a tantrum (for my age,lol)so it takes a lot for someone to convince me to give up. i get more upset (and wilder,lol) if i dont get what i want (which i think are fair and justified)so the more that i will be arguing about it. the ONLY thing that will make me give up is time. id just do my own and leave that person with his views, no need for arguing if nothing comes out of it.

Life is full of ups and downs. For me, the only time to give up is when one loses breath. Because there no more chance for that, but as long as one lives, there will always be hope no matter what circumstances we are going through.So don't give up. It will always be a no no on giving up. I believe all of us are here for a purpose. Have a nice day.

Hi, saphy. We have different views in love and how we should handle it but I hope somehow in a way, these words will help you clear some hurts in your heart. I miss you my friend. And I wish everything is well for you. Here goes: If you love someone, ask them for nothing. Don’t hold them back from their destiny. Don’t keep them from going off in search of their own answers. Don’t ask them for commitment. You will know commitment is real when it is something given willingly and not as something obligatory. Don’t ask them for promises. If you are patient, if you have faith, you will know in your heart when the right time for promises has come. And when that time arrives, then you will see that you have both lost nothing by setting each other free, and have instead gained a richer, fuller life, a wealth of experiences, and a stronger certainty of your desires. But should they not return to you, then life hasn’t cheated you because no promises were broken. Your bitterness will not last long, and you will feel thankful and blessed that at the very least, this beautiful soul has colored your life, that knowing them has already made life infinitely more meaningful. By setting a person free, you run a risk of them not returning. But always remember that you found them beautiful precisely because they were free. People are like sunlight. You can feel their warmth, and their glow, but you can’t hold them in your hand and keep them with you forever. People CHOOSE to stay. But a choice is made more meaningful when it is made despite so many other options. Love has no restrictions and it is through mistakes that sometimes we see the right answer. Because if you love someone, you ask them for nothing and they will come back to you. I know it's a little hard to take since we have different cases in our love stories. but it helped me a little and i am hopeful that it can be of help to you, too.

Saphrina- I don't look it as "quitting" or "giving up", I view it as being a rational human being who knows that one often simply needs to walk away. There are people in this world who simply want to be mean, that's their MO. There is nothing we can do to change their patterns of behavior, make them a nicer person, or even make them happy. It's best to simply let those ones go on their way and continue on your own path of positive energies. Now, my spare time what little I have is devoted solely to me. It is the time I spend journaling, meditation, reading, and doing those things that I enjoy doing. I try not to "give" my time to anyone who simply wants to be contrary, start a fight, of wallow in self pity. Namaste-Anora

Hi, Saphy.:) Looks like this is for me. hahaha... But, of course, you are talking to everybody here and not just referring to me.:) Well, dear, you almost are aware of my situation. And based on what I have experienced ,it took me 5 long years to say that I have enough. Though, those years were too painful to bear, but, I tried to hold on, hoped and prayed one day it will change for the better and that I will be happy, too... But, it seems , things will not change soon. I started losing faith to everything I have believe in, not even self respect and dignity was left in me. And, the only assurance that I still do exist is that I am breathing. That's all that is left... And a drop of desire to make a change... Ah, dear, when you experienced too many unpleasant things in just a short span of time, you'll soon let go.Yes, dear, letting go but not giving up. :) Are you thinking of giving up, dear Tata? I hope and pray that you are doin the wise thing (if ever).

The fighting is what it is about. It is indicative of the difference of views and opinions in a relationship between two people. You have to work at finding the common ground seek out professional alternatives. Maybe in some self help relationship books. You would be surprised to see how some of the ideas may help. We can resolve conflict through willing compromise but its not easy. Best wishes keep me posted.