Can you say no to an attractive person?
By bounce58
@bounce58 (17385)
Canada
November 23, 2010 4:25pm CST
A few days ago, I had to do some volunteer work at a church hall. It was a dinner type reception for new people in the community and I was assigned as a food server. My job was to ration the food so a lot more people can have the good the dishes.
I was doing fine rationing the food when a really attractive lady came up on the line. She was drop-dead-gorgeous! And she asked 2 servings of the ‘special’ chicken dish!
I couldn’t say no.
And a few minutes later, I found her on the line again asking for another serving. Again I couldn’t say no.
Arggh! What’s wrong with me?! I seem helpless when I’m around beautiful people. And I think that whatever they ask of me, I wouldn’t be able to say no.
How about you? Can you say no to someone attractive in front of you? How come most beautiful people have it so good? Are they privileged, and can get whatever they want?
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12 responses
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
24 Nov 10
Hi Bounce,
I actually have trouble saying no to anyone but I do. In a situation like what you describe, I don't think I'd have a problem in saying NO and especially when she came back through the line again. There is something ugly in sefishness and greed that tends to reveal itself even through a beautiful package. That food was for everyone. To think she deserved special treatment was not just selfish...it was inconsiderate, rude, shallow on and on. And did she even think beyond herself to think about the spot she was putting you in? 
Or how it may have made the other maybe not so pretty ones feel??
Or how it may have made the other maybe not so pretty ones feel??
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
8 Dec 10
I just know too many beautiful on the outside people that use their good lucks to their own advantage and it is just so so irritating. A physically beautiful person does catch attention. A truly beautiful person would use that attention to do some good for others and certainly wouldn't use it for undeserved self-gain.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
7 Dec 10
Just being a guy, and being blinded by the beautiful appearance in front of me, I never even thought of 'being-put-on-the-spot'. But you're right! I was put on the spot, which she didn't have the right to. Beautiful or not. I guess that's why it is more important to see a person from within.
Thanks.
@neddyjones (1)
• Czech Republic
24 Nov 10
sometimes saying no is so hard especially when an attractive person is hard to ignore.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
25 Nov 10
Hello cher913. I think that is the objective. To get pass the physical look, and see the person inside. And then judge if he or she is a beautiful person. Then maybe that person would be a hard-to-say-no person.
But sometimes, as neddyjones says, it's hard to get pass the look. And harder to ignore them. Welcome to myLot neddyjones.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
25 Nov 10
you know what, I have problems with good looking men too
so I avoid them as much as I can LOL
because I know it's difficult to say no to them
@theDeranged (96)
• Canada
24 Nov 10
Attractive people irk me. Which is odd, as I have been called sexy, hot and beautiful so many times in my life.
Or, maybe it's not attractive people that irk me, but attractive people who are egotistical about it, look down their noses at those less attractive, and use their attractiveness to gain favors. That seems more like it.
Anyway. I have no problem whatsoever saying no to an attractive person. Especially if that person seems to be even slightly snotty. What I do have trouble saying no to, is honestly nice people. Even a person who is far less than physically attractive, if they are friendly, outgoing, confident and just plain nice, I have a really hard time saying no. Probably because, they aren't likely to say no to others.
@irish101086 (14)
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24 Nov 10
saying no will come next if you know how to resist first because you can never say no if you are not willing to say it. let us all admit that if a guy or girl is attractive it gives him or her an extra point to get noticed or draw attention from the crowd. that boils down to another thing that yes it is also easy for them to get what they want since they can use and maximize their charisma to persuade other people to give in to their desires.
@wargod (29)
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24 Nov 10
Hi My friend! If i a server like you and put in a situation like yours? Seen a beautiful lady, go in the front and ask something? well! I think I'm also say "NO". Because there are two reasons, First you are a "GUY" and it is nature on us men to attract and serve well to the beautiful lady's. Second is "You doing your job", your job there is to serve people. And also you know and understand of what situation are you belong on that time. you are a server, and you participating on that operation. so it is normal to serve food and service to all people there.
So don't be confuse!
But before I go, can i ask question to you?
Are you a boy or a girl?
because you didn't say if you a boy or a girl!
@eshaan (6188)
• India
24 Nov 10
I have not faced such a situation yet...and its very difficult for me to answer your question even if i imagine the situation for myself...a very difficult question indeed 
according to my nature..i am not sure about me doing my duty honestly...i am also fall weak i think 
...do i don't know myself yet???
according to my nature..i am not sure about me doing my duty honestly...i am also fall weak i think ...do i don't know myself yet???
@TeamCholent (2832)
• United States
23 Nov 10
Yes, I have never had any issues with saying no to anyone but I do agree that is the person is attractive it makes it slightly harder.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
24 Nov 10
I do not find it difficult to differentiate a no when it come to attractive and unattractive people. However when they are extra nice I would have a problem saying no regardless of how they looked.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
7 Dec 10
From the response above, I just realized that there is a big difference with the sexes. Where as girls wouldn't have a problem seeing through exterior appearances, as guys we are a bit different. We are programmed to goof in front of beautiful girls. And to say yes to everything.
@Jiabsa (511)
• India
24 Nov 10
I give equal importance to all kinds of people whether they are attractive or non attractive. I don't like partiality. Even a beggar and a rich man is alike in front of my eyes. I respect each one's personality. But my problem is that i can't say 'NO' to anybody whether they do something as wrong. I know that it is not a good habit. But i can't change.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
7 Dec 10
Maybe you are just too good of a person Jiabsa. That you always see the good in the person in front of you no matter what their appearance is. I don't necessarily think it is bad, but it would be nice to say no once in a while, so as not to be stepped on by other people all the time.
Goodluck!
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
24 Nov 10
Hey it is very simple to say no, Just Say "NO". You could have said it but politely. If the ask why tell them reason. Why is difficult? Everyone is attractive, are you not? I am attractive too. I think everyone is attractive. When you are in business you have to control the emotions or you should know how to hide them. I think you had a chance there with the person but you lost it.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
7 Dec 10
Well, congratulations to you sanjay91422. For declaring yourself attractive. Although I am secure about myself, and how I look, I wouldn't necessarily declare how attractive I am.
Good for you that you don't seem to have any problems declaring it yourself.
