Relationship so hard to maintain...why??
By xxj3ffxx
@xxj3ffxx (501)
Australia
November 23, 2010 6:50pm CST
Especially when you are very far from each other. Life is cruel sometimes, when you love someone but you need to go overseas for studies or work for how many years, long distance relationship should be considered at this time. but how would it be maintain? I had my own experience in the past.. we were in love for 4years which should be strong enough to maintain, but we broke up after 4months am gone due to horrible fights. True i wanted to explore the world on my own, she did to in her own way. I did say horrible things that made her gone away... she is now married to another stupid guys.. well..my whole point is can we actually maintain relationship while we are away? How?
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6 responses
@the_CHAD (17)
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
In my opinion, it's because people move on when they're alone or lonely. Relationships tend to become meaningless if a person can't touch or hold the the one they love.
To me, having a long distance relationship is like having a love one die on you. That person won't be there anymore, but you will convince yourself that he/she is ok and is already in a better place somewhere.. But sooner or later, you will move on and will try to find tangible happiness.
@brigette1 (19)
• United States
20 Dec 10
I used to think love was all you needed to keep a relationship going. I was wrong. It takes work- a lot of it. Both people need to put in equal work, or it won't last. I personally don't believe long distance relationships can EVER work, based on my own experience. A healthy relationship requires actual affection and that means being face to face. There are too many things to worry about when you're far from each other. It is also easy to forget how much that person means to you when they're not around.
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
24 Dec 10
Yes, i know this feeling too.. being away from the person you love is so hard that you may also forget and miss all the good and bad things happen to her/him. Missing his/her hard times may also show that you are less and less important to her/him. and eventually he/she will get use to it and forget about you.
@moneymommy (3418)
• United States
24 Nov 10
Long distance relationships can be hard to maintain. But, they can work out. All depends on how strong the love is to begin with.
@chipesterkhan (2925)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
oh crapadoodoo i hope my relationship will survive
my girl's also leaving to work while i stay here in the philippines
i think we all just need to be mature enough to understand that we are far from each other and need to be strong
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
24 Nov 10
One thing you should know about my relationship... i didnt let my gf know that i will come back and be with her again... So you better let her know that you will wait for her to come back and be 2gether again.. then it will be alright if she accepts
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@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
9 Dec 10
because of the ego, both sides are thinking about their own, with a lot of talk we can make a relationship work if we tell each other what are we expecting, so there is no frustration and also we will know if other is really capable to be our partner
so in short, definetly ego
@deepak093041 (6)
• India
30 Nov 10
i feel for you.... but love-relationship just need weekly affection via whatever be the way... whenever u are so far from your love.... just take care of your relationship... without making a loud noise, often its helpful... but don't show to your lover that you are so happy without her ...... always present your self as a suffered, helpless person without her. in short its very difficult to maintain this type of relationship..... you just have to be a creeping reptile.... who always kneels towards his someone special......
