Infatuation actually

@beeh13u (1037)
Philippines
November 24, 2010 12:11pm CST
Hello my fellow lotters.. I wasn't active for the past 2 weeks since I was disturbed by some freakish guy. Last week, he revealed he loved me. I was surprised. He told me he loved me 2 years ago and was too late to court me since my ex and I were together. He asked me if he has a chance for us to be together. Of course I turned him down. It's infatuation actually. It's just a month since my Ex left me and I'm not ready for another one. There are also two other guys flirting with me. First guy took me out on a date. I met the second one at the clinic while I was having a check up. But I wont fall for these 3 guys. I am still waiting for my Ex. :( stupid me.
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11 responses
• China
25 Nov 10
yesterday,i heard of my friend broking up.i don't know how to confort her.just accompany her to do what she likes.it's difficult to froget the man she loved.or accept new .it's so different.the feeling or other things.i think you also need time to say goodbye to the past as well as friend.if having no chance to be together again. you should think for yourself.find a man who really care about you.
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@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
hey Wangleigh, I'm trying to say goodbye to the past. But it's almost Christmas. Best holiday to share with the one you love right? It's hard to accept new guys because I know they'll leave me for the same reason why my Ex left me. I wish my heart is numb.
• China
26 Nov 10
i get it,if you know the reanson ,try to solve it.hoping you will be happy again.
@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
25 Nov 10
I think that you should take some time for yourself and reflect on yourself. Forget about relationships period. Do a mental cleanse of yourself! It is too soon to jump into another relationship and well frankly, waiting around for your ex is not reasonable either. I always tell my sister that she does not have to have a man.... improvement on one's self is so much more fulfilling! I hope that the freakish guy does not become a stalker, please take care of yourself!
@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Hello Shellyann36, I think I have to reassess my actions too. Yeah, I need time for myself. That's what I told that freakish guy but he insisted that we will mend our hearts together. Ew. He just doesn't get it. Plus there's a new guy pretending to care about the break-up. If I know he just wants to sleep with heartbroken girls.
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
25 Nov 10
hello. i think you are right in not wanting to fall for these particular guys. you can do better. i think it is too soon to go out with someone else for now. give yourself a break to get over your ex. if it is to be with your ex, it will be. if not, you will be able to move ahead to someone who really loves and cares for you and you for him. the best to you.
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@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
Hey clocks123, Thanks for the encouragement. I am having a big break from a break-up but that freakish guy is bothering me. Don't worry, I deleted him already. The other two are OK. They help me move on.
• United States
24 Nov 10
No honey you are not stupid one bit. It takes time sometimes to get over someone we truly care and or love. One month is not enough time to be completely over a past love. Take sometime to get to know what you want out of relationships and who you really are before you engage in another relationship so that you do not repeat patterns. Good luck to you sweetie and take the time, so that when you plunge with another somebody you do not bring over any left over baggage.
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@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
Hi Hardworkinggurl, Yeah. I think I have to change my behavior since I am always dumped by guys. I just can't give them time. I prioritize my career first.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
Girl I think it's time for you to move on and find a new love. You have three choices there and all you have to do is select for the best. Don't dwell too much in the past and don't expect your ex to come running after you anymore so you can at least move on. He was the one who left you so don't expect him to run back. If ever he does, think several times before opening your arms open wide to welcome him. Just enjoy for now and have fun, before you know it you'll find yourself ready for a new relationship.
@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Hi toniganzon, Yeah. There are just times that I miss him and hoping for him to return. It's almost Christmas too. But most of the time, I'm OK. I have fun talking to other guys. But I don't like it that they prey on newly-heartbroken people. :( But I think I'll be fine. Freakish guy was just annoying:)
• United States
25 Nov 10
Depends on your likes. Also, you should always act upon your first choice. This way you will not regret taking it. But in the process of doing it, you should think to yourself if such relationships with your ex will yield good results. He has left you and who knows if there are other girls in his life. It makes good sense to think about reasons to love a certain person rather than any person. Some will be better for your well being and provide you respect. I hope you have a good and safe Thanksgiving break.
@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
howdy rovered777, My first choice is to have a break. I sometimes can't help to think if he had dated already. Will that mean he doesn't love me at all? I don't like to date so that he won't date too. LOL. But if he already has, it leaves me no choice but to move on too.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
I think its better if you would be open to other guys while waiting for your ex. Cause if your just gonna wait for your ex then you know, you won't get the chance to give other guys their chance to show their love for you....because your mind is close only for your ex. So yeah, try to give other guys a chance. Have fun with your life...don't just be stuck waiting for your ex. You might miss a lot of good stuff.
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@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
hello donsky14, I think of that too. But my friend says that what if my ex will date other girls too. What will I feel? But he left me in the first place so why will he bother? I hate it. I like to have dates but it's only been a month and a week. Is there a 3 month rule?
@voldrox (7191)
• India
25 Nov 10
You are waiting for him. Shows, you truly loved him. It's not bad waiting. Guys would find it weird, and tell you not to wait, while some of the females would tell you to wait a little more. Most guys would want to get back to relationship with someone else and so they expect the same with girls. I can't say much, except that, you should still keep yourself away from those other guys, for the time being. Guys always hit on girls who had fresh breakups, so you would as well spend more time understanding what you really want to do next. You, should also revive and think if your ex has any chance for coming back to you, or if anything had happened between you both, does he really deserve to come back to your life ? It's all for you to decide. Wait till you have come up with a decision, then think of others.
@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Hey Voldrox, They really like to hit on girls like me. Tactless jerks. My heart isn't healed yet and they come around playing. My Ex made a very wrong decision. There are times I imagine that I openly welcome him if he comes back. But there are flashbacks on the day he rejected me that comes playing in my mind and it hurts me so much. If ever he wants me back, I will let him crawl..:)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
You did not clearly mentioned why you and your ex broke up. Is there a third party or the guy just fall out of love one day? If it's either of the two I would agree you are being stupid. But only you knows if you're really being stupid waiting for your ex to come back. If it is for some other reasons, it is not being stupid to wish and hope for your loved one to come back to you. I hope you will find your answers soon and know to yourself if you should wait or give up and move on.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
24 Nov 10
Ah, the dating days. I remember those. They were both fun and bittersweet. I was always a one guy woman too. One had to leave my heart before I would be able to have a romantic relationship with another. You will break hearts, but only temporarily. Everyone moves on with their lives. Have fun with yours!
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@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
hey 2004cqui, I'm the kind of person who's serious when it comes to relationships. But right now, I think I want to try meeting few guys first. My Ex and I spend 2 years together. What a waste of years if he just ended it with a snap, literally.
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
If he tells you that he loved you for 2years already. Its true love already. HE is just patient enough to wait for you until you and your boyfriend breaks and now that he has a chance, he took the opportunity.. Love love waits. It will see and examine. While infatuations is always in a hurry.. In infatuation, its in see you today, court you tomorrow and marry you a day after and after a day divorces you.. This guy have patience to wait for you this long...