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I've been there. Except that we are just dating and my mom didn't approve for us to date each other in the beginning but afterwards, she begin to accept him and she doesn't mnd if we get married as long as he will graduate and get a decent job in his carrer to support the family financially. Parents are just afraid that you pick up the wrong person or someone that isn't good enough as you mentionned. First of all, the parents need to know the man a little more. I wouldn't date someone for many years and present him to my family in the last minute for the wedding. That would be silly. Not only they don't know him well but i present him all of a sudden. I said thse because i assumed that he asked permission to the parents and they said no and if they didn't like him from the biginning, I am sure they wouldn't let me date him. What i would do is to postpone the wedding and get to let my family know him a little better. Once they will take the time to know him better, they might change their mind. Consider what they say about him. The look and all doesn't matter much. But if they find him rude for example, how can he show respect to your elders later on? If they think that he can't support you, how can he even support your children in this case? Keep in mind what they say and think about it. If he has those potential that the parents can't see, obviously, I should give them more time to connect with him.

Hi Yanyanyow, WEll, my parents disapproved of my husband when I got engaged and I married him anyway. They were right and the marriage didn't work out but I have no regrets. I loved him so much at the time we were married that there is nothing they could have said that would have changed my mind. In things like this, you have to follow your heart.

Why are we asking for permission in the first place? Its your life, you conduct it as you see fit. There's no need to ask permission for your own decisions.

I think it used to be common to do this. A man who wanted to marry a girl would first have to ask permission to marry his daughter. Personally I think its a good thing now a days that we are not expected to do that. Just because I might not like somoene who might want to marry my daughter someday does not mean that he wont be a good husband for her and make my daughter very happy.

It would be hard in the long run if parents don't like your fiance. It would be better to talk with them and let them understand.

I think parents must give everyone a choice but if you want to marry him your parents arent the people thart make the choice only you do that and if they didnt want that you do it dont look about what they say! I know in some countries must parents give promose to get marry but here in the netherlands after 21 year not anymore!

i think you must convince the parents. maybe they never know about your candidate.. marriage is once a life..so thats parents must select carefully