Is This Love? Asking You How Much Money You Earn And Then, He Would Get It All?
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@IntrovertShy (2780)
Marikina, Philippines
November 25, 2010 9:27am CST
Hi. Hello. I'm totally depressed and stress. Ha ha ha. I have a "boyfriend" and I don't consider him as my "real boyfriend"--- I mean, I'm not serious because it seems that every time we meet, he would ask me about how much money I earn in my bank account and then, if he knew that I was earning a money, he would get it all and if I don't lend him the money, he would date someone else. He would date a "gay" with a stable job and not a woman.
He would text me that how much he loves me and I would tell him too, that I love him then, he would ask me if how much money I earn. The reason why he asks me about the money is that he needs it for his food, family and most of all--- his "debts".
I know, I am so stupid--- because we meet again and he told me that he's doing it for our future, so that is why he's asking me if I have money--- he said, for his requirements. He would apply a job and he needs P2,000.00 - P5,000.00 pesos... now, I'm totally confused.
Is this guy really loves me? He told me, he's doing it for our future. Ha ha. I know, I look stupid, but it hurts me a lot because I don't know from him if he's using me or he really loves me.
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12 responses
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
25 Nov 10
Oh red flag IntrovertShy, sounds like one who likes complete control and if he needs your money, then he is thinking that he can marry you and you will work while he does nothing..If a man can't take care of himself, he isn't worth it, that isn't love, that is control...
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
25 Nov 10
Oh. He he he. Now, I know even if it really hurts me a lot. Oh my gosh. Well, I guess that is "reality". There is nothing I can do about him. It broke my heart... I guess, I have to move on.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
25 Nov 10
I'm sorry, IntrovertShy, I am sure there is someone out there for you that will respect you and care for you..:)
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
27 Nov 10
Love is not about money, or anything else like that. My boyfriend and I don't have money, but we love each other very much, and we are working to get ahead in life on our own. I don't want to marry a rich man. My mother was with a rich man, and he was a total jerk. People should never marry for money because they are sacrificing their own happiness.
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
26 Nov 10
Get out, get out, GET OUT!!!!
Money talks and makes people greedy, please, girl, you really need someone stable and to treat you like a human being! If you're going to spend the rest of your life with someone it really should be your best friend, someone who you feel comfortable with, can do things with, money or no money.
I know I'm being harsh, but this is a serious issue. I hope you can find someone who will love you for your personality!
@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
He is definitely using you and you should avoid him as much as you can. Don't believe in the words that he's saying. That is totally a lie! If he's doing it for your future then he should find his own way of earning money to prove to you that he's not after yours. You already said so yourself that you look stupid, and if you allow this to continue to happen then you will be! Don't make this man trample your pride. Leave him!
@onque10 (110)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
hey, I don't know why do you care too much about his feelings towards you. Don't get me wrong, but I can't think any reason why can't you just dump him if you really don't consider him as your real bf. I think you don't love him. But what confuses me is why do you still give him money enough knowing that what he had told you were all alibis? Don't you think "you really love him" and considering him as "some flings" is just a self-mechanism?
Don't you think it's time for the two of to let go? I mean, stop playing games because at the end, it is you who will lose by any means. He's the guy, and he is the one taking money from you. You are losing the time you should be spending with someone else who really loves you. You are now wasting time, money and respect for your self. Let go girl, he doesn't deserve you. You deserve someone better. :)
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
He is doing it for his own future .
I don't think money have to middle every time you talk .
I don't know how much that money is but i think if you give them to him you will never see him again , anyway he is not worth it .
If he is going to do something for your future together its taking money from you and being lazy a*s .
I think you can find someone better anyway , this person seems like a scam for me .
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
Hello Introvert,
I am a guy and hearing this is a complete turn OFF since he's just after money from you. Have you introduced him online money making? I find it completely absurd, i think this guy is just a charmer to get you're money or something.
I would believe him if he's asking money to start a small business and then pays you back when he starts earning a month.
Actually even Selling Fish Ball or ICE is LESS THAN 2,000 Pesos
so asking for a 2,000 to 5,000 just for application is way Off. at 100o pesos he can apply for a week in 5 different companies.
@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Time to let go, IntrovertShy. The fact that he has a gay benefactor tells you that he is a user. Work is beneath him, and all those reasons he gives you are just excuses. If his family truly needs money then he should be out there working. And if I had to rely on someone else just to apply, then I would feel the lowest of the low. You deserve someone better, so go find one.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
25 Nov 10
i understand that he needs money to help his family but he doesnt have the right to everytime that calls you he always ask you for money. he should also call you just for you and him spend some good time alone. he is just using you bcs he said that if you dont lend him he will be with his gay friend. so for sure he doesnt love you trust me. if he loved you if you couldnt lend him money he would never threaten you saying that he would be with a guy and cheat on you. that guy is a stupid. sorry but leave him even if it hurts you. he cant give you true love
@akari77 (123)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Hi IntrovertShy, all i can is he doesn't deserve you at all and neither your love. I think you are very kind and he took advantage of it. He's not the right man for you and that man will not come if that so-called boyfriend is there. So it will be better to leave him. For me, i'd rather be living alone than having a boyfriend like him.
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Hi there!
My gosh... totally horrible boyfriend you got... To be honest with you, based on your story, there is nothing to suggest that he loves you even a little... I mean... if you don't give him money, he would date a g@y? He just needs money... Maybe he is badly in need of money personally. But does not he work?
Okay... It's fine if he would ask you for some money I think especially because he really needs it, but come on. Maybe what he needs is a sugar mama or sugar papa...
Well, if I were you, I would talk to him. You should also know what his lifestyle is... What is the cause of all his debts (like gambling maybe). After you talked to him, think about it, and make a decision. If you just want to help this guy, you can without being his so called girlfriend.... but maybe just a friend.
Ask him if he really loves you and open your eyes and heart. You can easily tell if he is telling you the truth or not.
But the real question here is, Do you love him? Is that the reason why you just keep on doing this for him?
Love can really make people look like stupid... But love yourself first before you love others.
:)
@fl0rencia (414)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Isn't it obvious that he's just using you for money? And why do you let him do that to you. In the first place, you can say no if asks for money. And if he says he would date a gay when you didn't give him money then let him go. Break up with him. Can't you see what he could do for money? He could date a gay for money. So he loves the money and not you. Wake up. You even called yourself stupid, so I guess you knew it. Just don't be stupid stupid much.
