Dogs are running after bones, what are men running after?
By Suggar
@Suggar (3606)
Bulgaria
November 25, 2010 10:18am CST
Hello friends. Today i'm alone at home, because my boyfriend had to do a business trip. So i invited a friend of mine, girl, who came home for a coffee. We had really good time with the coffee and the cookies, some juice and at some time, we started to talk about men.
Months ago she had a boyfriend, who after 5 years long and nice relationship, broke up with her. And today, talking about guys, we reached discussion about that the men never help us, reminding by themselves that something has to be done. They also wait us to ask if they can do it, and after that they start doing it. I told her that my boyfriend told me soon "tell me what to do and i'll do it", i answered "don't you see that there are dirty plates, there is a garbage which need to go out of the apartment? There are so many things, why you never see them before i ask". We laughed a lot with my friend and she said "Guys are like dogs, you have to throw a bone and they will run after it" 
So can you say that your partner is a like a dog, which you have to lead all the time, asking for whatever it is?
When i say dog i must say also that i love dogs, because they are great pets - smart, sensitive and nice, they are part of our life and we can have a great friendship without talking. So there is nothing shameful in that comparison. 
So can you say that your partner is a like a dog, which you have to lead all the time, asking for whatever it is?
When i say dog i must say also that i love dogs, because they are great pets - smart, sensitive and nice, they are part of our life and we can have a great friendship without talking. So there is nothing shameful in that comparison. 2 people like this
10 responses
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
25 Nov 10
I swear i'm a puppy :P
I need to be told to do it , maybe cuz i'm kind of lazy :P
But if you dont tell me i will just pass on it :D
But well if i get a bonus for doing it without someone telling me , i might as well start doing it without reminding :P
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@mustread (224)
• Bulgaria
28 Nov 10
I like to clean , to cook and to do laundry as well . I have always done that at home and when my ex-girlfriend was living with me .
But I always needed to be said what to cook , when to clean and etc.
Especially with cooking - I totally lack the creativity for it , but if someone tells me to do a burger,a soup i will find the recipe and do it with pleasure.
And some girls like doing cleaning,cooking all the things at home as you said , but they usually stay at home doing those things , it's get really hard if she tries to work and do this things at the same time.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
If the dogs running for a bone while boys are running away from they're responsibilities. This is what I observe most of the guys around. They are not want to investigate by their partner as they wanted to do something that the husband may discover. Running away from so many things around us. There are some guys but are responsible at all times so need to run after.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
25 Nov 10
Men can not help who they are; their biological makeup is masculinity, which lead them to more manly chores such as, mowing the lawn,washing the car, painting the house and so on. They have to be told to stack the dishes in the dishwasher, or vacuum the floor. In other words, they are wired different from women.
They don't mean to seem sloppy or useless around the house (inside)they just need to be guided, like a dog
and most times they are happy to oblige. Men, like dogs are wonderful and loving and worth keeping.
and most times they are happy to oblige. Men, like dogs are wonderful and loving and worth keeping.
@Susanayako1988 (350)
• China
26 Nov 10
There are a lot of things men are running after. On the surface, they run after money, fame, success, beautiful lovers and at the same time a romantic love. Essentially, they are pursuing after a sense of safety, being loved and loving.
@Jiabsa (511)
• India
26 Nov 10
This is a very interesting topic to read. But I don't like to give an explanation about my husband(not partner...I think that there is some difference between a partner and a husband). Because after marriage, he becomes a part of our life. We have to adjust a lot to lead a happy life. All people are not alike, some are very strict and not ready to give any value to their better halves' opinion.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Hello friends, i can say that i don't agree with you.
Sorry, but for me one sign and one changed family name doesn't mean much more than a relationship where you live with the person, who is not just a room mate, but you share emotions, moments, you support each other and help each other in the difficult moments. Of course one relationship can be finished, but one marriage too, so for me there is no difference. I am with thinking that i'll live with that person to the end of my life, as you are with the same thinking. We will share good and bad moments, we will deal with the problems, probably will have kids some day.
I'm not 16 and my decisions are something, which i did because i wanted and because i take the things pretty serious.
Of course one relationship can be finished, but one marriage too, so for me there is no difference. I am with thinking that i'll live with that person to the end of my life, as you are with the same thinking. We will share good and bad moments, we will deal with the problems, probably will have kids some day.
I'm not 16 and my decisions are something, which i did because i wanted and because i take the things pretty serious. 
@theredquill (586)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
Oh, we are the other way around. My partner is a bit obsessive-compulsive especially when it comes to how things are done at home. It used to be a cause of our petty fights because when he doesn't like how I do things he would tell me in a rather "very honest" way (I'd like to put it that way), and then I would get offended because I was too proud to be told what to do. But we have come up with a compromise. He does what he does best like cooking, washing the dishes, and cleaning the bathroom. And I do my specialty: washing and pressing clothes, scrubbing the floor, and tending to the plants. I guess that's fair enough. Haha! Talk about sharing of responsibilities.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
25 Nov 10
That's great, what you wrote, i mean everyone to do some part of what has to be done. I don't ask my boyfriend to do anything because of two reasons - he got kidney stones, and he is in pain all the time and the second reason is that he is perfectionist, which i really hate, because he can do something 1 or 2 hours, when something else is more important and has to be done.
@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
25 Nov 10
Hahaha, yes sometimes men are like dog (I have a dog so I know) When my dog does something he should, I compliment him, tell him what a good dog he is and you can tell he's happy and he'll do it again just to get a treat. Same with men or women for that fact. If you do something and you're told you did a good job, you'll feel good about yourself and tempted to do it again. Same with your man!!
Now I wont be the one to tell you what the "treat" should be for your man but Im sure you can figure that one out hahaha!!
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
25 Nov 10
ahah thats a good question actually^^ anyway about my ex bf i guess that he always need me to pressure him to care for me. before while we were not together and he had to be after me he always care without me asking for it^^ but since we became together and he started to dont have time for me was like always me pushing him to care. but when i was almost leaving he cared much and showed i was important to him. i left him weeks ago but he said he would still wait me and i just read in his tagged page today that he still loves me bcs something he wrote in his status^^ ahah so i guess that he loves me but doesnt know how to show it^^
@rovered777 (649)
• United States
25 Nov 10
We love to see our girl friend talk and become really confident in partnering us. It seems that I usually respect whatever she has to say, but will follow the rules when it comes to family and house chores. Its never going to hurt me, if I take initiative by cleaning the carpet, mowing the lawn or washing my wife's and child's clothes. I think that's what we're made to do, but lots of men may abuse such a relationship. For Thanksgiving, I had prepared all the meals and we just finished eating two hours ago. She really loves to see me work, and I feel blessed to have her.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 10
Oh, Rovered, that's amazing. 
It's amazing that you don't wait your wife to ask you. It can be really annoying right here, when everything is messy, we wait guests and i try to clean everywhere, because i don't know where my guests will go during their visitation and he stays on his computer, just doing something... 
He just say - what if it's little messy, don't worry ... But for me it's not that way. First of all i don't like when my guests visit other rooms, and it happens a lot with my kitchen so i try to keep it in a good look.
It's amazing that you don't wait your wife to ask you. It can be really annoying right here, when everything is messy, we wait guests and i try to clean everywhere, because i don't know where my guests will go during their visitation and he stays on his computer, just doing something...
He just say - what if it's little messy, don't worry ... But for me it's not that way. First of all i don't like when my guests visit other rooms, and it happens a lot with my kitchen so i try to keep it in a good look. 