Do you believe that friendship can remain forever?
By stand87
@stand87 (664)
Bulgaria
November 25, 2010 10:38am CST
Some posts back, I was writting about a friend of mine. We just lost connection, time and life just separated us. I was missing her and that was what my post was all about. Now, facebook is bringing us together again. We met there few weeks ago. So, after maybe 5 long years we finally met each other again :) I can't even believe! We were so happy about it. But . . . Do you know, it's not the same thing it used to be before. I think we're still the same kind of people, but somehow our relations are not the same. We're just not talking like we used to before, not speaking in the manner we used to before. It's something like we never knew each other before!
At first I was so exited and loved to meet her again! Just few moments later I was thinking that maybe it would have been better if we never met each other again.
Have you ever experienced such thing?
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15 responses
@rovered777 (649)
• United States
25 Nov 10
Friendships can vary for different people. I had a friend in college that was very close to me. Days after we finished school, we hung out to watch a movie. It seemed like a night mare because he was acting rude and didn't give much respect. That really hurt me and my finances, and so I thought of just ignoring him. In fact, I have always answered his calls and even helped him during a car accident. I believe he was taking advantage of me, and so I decided to part ways.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
29 Nov 10
I think that when you are meeting someone again after a long period of time it can go two different ways. First of all, it could be like you've been friends all along and never lost contact with each other. The other way that it can go is that you find that you two have grown apart from each other and there may or may not be a chance that you will be able to forge a friendship again. I'm so sorry that your reuniting with your friend has not been as good as you expected it to be.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
26 Nov 10
No. I haven't had an old friend resurface after that long a time. I have reconnected with a good friend here. He was away for a long time. And now he is back and we are just as close as we were before. I think friendships are like any other relationships , you have to work on them and not take them for granted. I hope you and your friend can rebuild up your relationship.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
I think it will not remain forever because time is running and and changing as well as the relationship we have towards our friends or to any people. I experience also the same as you toward my friend.. I have a friend and we are almost sisters when we are together. But when the time that we parted ways she is now at Canada and i remain here there was changes happened. We never saw each other for almost 10years. ANd when the time has come, when she is at home we have meet but there was a changes. We became silent and we cannot asked about what had happen when we are away. Anyway that was only for an hour before we got recovered and right after then we talked and we are happy sharing together our experiences. So happy to reminisced.
@koAebryant (358)
• China
26 Nov 10
Friendship can remain forever.But you do not keep communication long time,you will become apart.I ever feel that when I met some of my friend in primary school,we did not have some common language.Remember keeping communication.
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Nov 10
People change. History doesn't. We all can get excited to see someone again when we think of the history we had with this person. Then we actually see them again and realize things have changed. People grow up, mature, change their frame of mind, their way of doing those cute little things that excited us and made us happy. Things, places and people change. Realities change too. What was important and established before isn't anymore.
@substance (585)
• India
25 Nov 10
Its always wonderful to meet old friends but somehow after all the "first talks" you do find out that there is nothing in common now so the conversation sort of gets cold. hmmm..
But like they say 'old is gold" so I think you just need to find some common grounds to start off again. I am still friends with some of my old school mates and its fun and we know each other much better this way..
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
A friend-student of mine told me before that when he goes back home our relationship will never be the same. We won't be talking as much as we used to despite the existence of messengers. He just simply believed in reality and I didn't. I was very idealistic. But he was right. Distance and time changes our relationship with our friends, and as we grow older we also see differences in each other that might keep us apart.
@calpro (930)
• India
25 Nov 10
It can remain forever, If the friends are real and both of them expect friendship from each other and nothing more than that it exists. If any one of them is elf centered and trying to exploit the other I don;t think so it will not last forever. I rarely see such kind of friends, The best friends whom have seen is my uncle and his friend they are friends for 55years.
My uncle and his friend started friendship when they both were at 10 and studied in the same class same school till now they are good friends and now they both are 65 years old now.
Happy mylotting my friend
Calpro
@Desiree1203 (75)
• China
26 Nov 10
I think the friendship fades with the time but also believe friends are friends. just because of the time and place, we get seperated. but we still value our friendship. just the experience, different because we were not together, we hardly can find something common to share, only the time we passed together.
Time, buddy , is a bloodless knife, which makes us lose but at the same time teaches us to value.
@ufjari (13)
• Pakistan
26 Nov 10
I believe that but its ratios are very low, very short cases you're found in which your friend for everlasting. Mostly we found the friendship not long lasting and we miss that friends too whom are most important and valuable for us but not for them. And as my point of view never make or aspect any friend everlasting cos sometimes you heart by them when u ignored by then. and as I wrote most of us are facing same as my point of view and be agreeing with me.
@dhanakool (39)
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25 Nov 10
it depends on the person ur with and luck also matters..its hard to get friends who remain forever..but i am lucky that i got frnds who always stay by my side..i live in a community from my childhood..nd i used to have many frnds there..of thm 8 wer my best frnds..v have everything in common..v al studied in same school and colege..and now few of us even do job in same company..and even now we stay in that same community..its been 22 years and we still are friends and remain forever.. :)
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 10
Friendship is meant to be forever. Of course time changes and we all go our different ways and lead different life but friendship remain no matter where we are.
