How is a happy marriage?
By Shilpi0202
@Shilpi0202 (188)
India
November 26, 2010 5:46am CST
Tomorrow's my first marriage anniversary. Ours was a love marriage. We share everything with each other. And have lots of fun together... Can say we live like buddies.
The thing is that we are extreme opposites. While i m too punctual n hardworking, he's laid back though very creative n talented. He doesn't like to be pinpointed at and acts too obstinate at times. I like a traditional Indian wife take care of the house and cook. He's too easy going, happy-go-lucky and of a good nature too. But his sudden outbursts, mood swings, laid back n obstinate nature really annoy me at times. I get too pissed off. As a result, we fight atleast once every week. It's never too loud but cold. We stop taking for a while.And by the end of the day or the next day, it's all fine.
I was so excited about our anniversary but we fought again today. Don't think we r celebrating tomorrow. And that's our first anniversary. Wondering if ours is a happy marriage or not...
2 responses
@la_chique (1498)
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26 Nov 10
First of all congratulations. Hope you do have a great day in spite of your concerns.
Dont worry too much about the rowing. Most couples experience teething problems. Things will get better the longer you are together.
@Susanayako1988 (350)
• China
27 Nov 10
Some men have mood periods like some women. They have ups and downs. It is natural. When he is in a bad state, you should remember that do not resist his bad state or negative emotion. They are just flows of energy. They will come and will go. If you resist the negative emotions,they will just linger over longer. Support and accept him, when he is down. I believe things will be better.
I also have this kind of experience, my boyfriend had a very bad temper when we just fell in love with each other, we quarrel a lot in the first year of our relationship. After that I began to study psychology and learn how to improve myself and how to manage my emotions. Then he saw my obvious improvement, and he started to learn psychology and improve himself. After about another year, our relationship became so enjoyable. We also share everything with each other and we seldom quarrel anymore. He told me that I helped him to become much mature. And now he does much much better with his emotions and life.
