How Can I Mend A Broken Heart?
By Dale Javier
@playingideas65 (113)
Philippines
November 26, 2010 6:14am CST
It's sad but sometimes a relationship ends without any warnings. It really hurts when you really spent most of your life with that person and with a blink of an eye, it's gone. I was trying to forget everything but it comes back when I'm in solitude.
Sometimes friends told me that I am crazy because I am talking with my dog. It's a one way that I process with my loss and sadness. I believe that the unconditional love of animals sometimes give you back the connection you've lost. Do you agree with me? or I'm really lost connection with my mind?
Sometimes I felt so paranoid. My mind is jammed with memories, self doubts and hopes about future. How can I calm down with my emotions?
In the end, there's only one problem that bothers me, How Can I Mend A Broken Heart?
14 responses
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
27 Nov 10
Am sorry about you pain, but it is important to know that some people just kill off love instead of nurturing it! Am sure, while you were giving it your whole, your love was not doing his part-he made love to wither away-you must cry out but please just understand that this happens and life must move on!
@offlimits (596)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
Things like that are never easy, especially when you've been too attached with the thought that the two of you will always be together. I honestly think that you are not to be judged with what you think is best to heal yourself, so if you feel that your dog really helps you feel better, then go talk to your dog all you want. You are not crazy for acting like that because you deserve to move on and to start anew. I know you struggle to become whole again, but you will get past through it, somehow, someday. :)
@Ruby722 (796)
• China
27 Nov 10
Oh dear
It's really sorry to hear about this,I belive you can get yourself together sooner or later,My roommater she just broken up with her BF,So i guess i can understand how you feel,Please dont give yourself too much pressure,You need hang out with your friends gets some fun,You need do some sports enrich you daily life,you need fresh air,I am sure you will be fine one day
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 10
Hi,
DOn't be sad...whatever has happened,it is over and
you should stay strong and start your new life,instead of
getting yourself in sadness always.
Since your relationship has ended,then you have to accept the facts,unless
there is still possibility to patch back,then try to get it done.
Or else,don't waste your time on it.
Try to out for shopping or go for short holiday trip,it will help you
to forget the past slowly and get back to your own routine.
Of course, it takes time for you to forget your past relationship,but
as long as you are strong enough to go through it,sure you can make it.
@wiwa05 (230)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
I've been there.. I've done what you've done as well- talking to your dog/pet...
Actually, that's a normal response to a person especially when he/she's hurt. In fact, accodring to a study talking to a pet, if you don't have anyone to talk to, lessens depression & helps one feel lightly calm & comfortable in a way that you could only understand.
I was so down, same as you.. It felt like the whole world blows right in front of me. Like every minute, every second that I'm awake my heart will explode. It really hurts but that's life, that's love. It even took me 3 years before I've realized that God really made it all happen for my own good & happiness.. TRUST me, if God gives that challenge to you, FACE it! STAND up & don't waste too much time crying for someone not worth your tears for. You might not know, while your crying for him/her, she's/he's enjoying another one's company & not even bother to think about you or what he've done to you. Think about it! You deserve to be happy & you deserve someone better! While still you can, leave a piece of your heart just for yourself so you could love once again. Love, get hurt, & be happy! In the end, you'll find yourself one day, reminiscing every hurt that you've been through & laugh about it. Be happy, you deserve it! ^_^
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
26 Nov 10
Hello, i am sorry about the loss of your relationship. what you are experiencing is normal feelings. it takes time to go through. it is ok to talk to your dog as you find comfort in letting your feelings out. you will never forget your relationship; but in time, you will begin to feel better. you will then move forward and find the right person you should be with. it is good sometimes when a relationship does end. we find that the person isn't the right one for us. give yourself time. take a break. the best to you and your future
@monitasharma (38)
• India
26 Nov 10
You can mend your broken heart by first, accepting the truth! And then, realizing that whatever has happened must have a STRONG reason as to why it happened. You must tell yourself every morning and before going to bed, that God has chosen you for a very special purpose on this earth and ACCOMPLISHING that is your first and foremost duty. You must realize that you are very very special. Try to find your purpose of life, and then give your heart and soul to it.... Drink, sleep , eat with it until you completely fall in love with your work...Ur focused will be completely changed then and hopefully, ur heart will be healed...Remember, nobody can heal ur heart better than the ALmighty. Try getting close to God as much as possible..
Wish you all the best!
@Susanayako1988 (350)
• China
26 Nov 10
My dear friend, you are just being sad. Of course you are not disconnected with your mind. or you will not ask this question yourself. In order to calm down your feeling, I think you should first allow yourself to be sad. Accept the sad feeling and remember that it is just a form of negative energy. It comes and it goes. Don't shut your heart because of this sad experience. Learn to love yourself at the first. After you truely fall in love with yourself, you will attract others to love you.
You can also learn to paint and dance. They are good activities to release your negative emotions.Make your life rich and you will not feel lonely even without a romantic relationship.
Good luck with you, my dear friend.
@akari77 (123)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Memories haunt and it happens after a very painful ending spcially if it's a happy one. Just try your best to avoid recalling or anything that will make you feel sad. Always remind yourself to move on and to be strong and bring yourself back, the person you are before you met your ex.
@acrossnation (773)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 10
My heart been broken many times. Its okay but its not alright. Especially when you listen to a song that is related. Dont get carried away, since u r human like me and
lingered in the same circle than its not something to feel like u r unique or otherwise.
@weestly (7)
• China
27 Nov 10
I know the feeling because I broke up with my ex-boyfriend suddenly like 3 years ago.We had been together about 2 years and once he said he needed to think about our relationship clearly then the next day he ended it.Might he thougt I should so sad,so when I said "OK" with smile he was so astonished.
Acctually,I was sad badly,but I just didnot want to let him know.I still enjoyed my life just like nothing was happening.I never tried to forget anything I just make myself so busy and then I have no time to think of him or those sweet times.Night was harder than day,I would find some happy movies to see or some very sad movies or novels.These things can make you laugh or cry.That took works to me.You can try it.
I believe time is the best medicine for everyone and everything.
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Know that everything passes...
Give yourself time, its the only cure to a broken heart, talk to friends, or your dog(it's totally normal), engage in new hobbies, better yourself, don't dwell on negative emotions and believe in yourself...
@sindorian (16)
• Romania
26 Nov 10
Well, first of, show me one person that has never talked to a dog, and I could clearly say he's nuts ^^
I can however say that you must really have lost connection with your mind if you don't plan to write a book with that unconditional love line
Again, show me the person that doesn't have a mind jammed of memories, self doubt and hopes, really
How to calm down, just accept it and move one (yeah I know, I love that line to, few words to say, few years to do), the past is the past, now, I'm not saying forget about it, yeah, it's still their, the fun part is that you can visit it any time you want, still, the present and future can be pretty fun to y'know, and if you want to mend a broken heart you should really try them out some times, the past ain't going nowhere
(huh, reading it sounds rude, hate it when that happens, still, don't worry, be happy?)