please answer the given situation...
By hushi22
@hushi22 (4928)
November 26, 2010 6:20am CST
let's say you are the younger sister and the only sibling left for your older sister who has a complicated pregnancy. in fact big sister just got out from the hospital. would you still dare to go out dating every night as in really late at night with a so-so bf? big sister is 7 months pregnant and is currently having pains and problems that she needs support and assistance from time to time.
would you choose spending more time with the guy because he only has a month to stay in your country or be with the sister who has two more months suffering of a complicated pregnancy?
do you have a heart to post on facebook:
I ALSO HAVE MY OWN LIFE. DON'T DEPRIVE ME!
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5 responses
@sindorian (16)
• Romania
26 Nov 10
I really don't mean to be rude, but were it the case, the older sister would have done it with her own hand, had the little sister acted as such, then they were really not close
I've seen cases, and you really can't blame the younger sister, were you in the exact same situation with the past included, no matter what you say now, you would have done something quite similar
It's not a question, it's a situation, asking the questions as such is unjust
@hushi22 (4928)
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26 Nov 10
im sorry i dont think i understood it fully.
anyway, i believe the younger sister knows pretty well she needs to focus on the here and now. besides she is a nurse like me. her older sister is damn so down emotionally, financially, and even has a complicated pregnancy.
as a nurse i don't think of the past or future, but the immediate problem and as her cousin i think of her welfare and of course the way i see it the she (the older sister) needs more understanding, time, and help more than the younger one or her so-so bf who even didnt contact or connect with her for the past few days.
@hushi22 (4928)
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26 Nov 10
...and more to say it's the older sister who has a grudge and fought with my parents. as in bad mouthing my parents so if i would consider what happened in the past i should be the first one not to mind her condition. she did a lot of silly and crazy things to me and my family.
...but my entire family still managed to understand and help her to get out of the depression she is into right now. that depression is one factor that is giving her so much stress in pregnancy. it's just upsetting to see my cousin (the younger one) who is a nurse that she could take care of other like our patients before, but she couldn't take good care of her own sister. they don't have a grudge. she is just really self-centered! always making sure she doesn't do anything, but leisure and pleasure.
...am really scared our aunts would find out what happens and will tell their mom who is working abroad. for sure their mom would be damn so worried and might cause an argument or fight in the family.
@sindorian (16)
• Romania
26 Nov 10
I see your point
It's still a little different being a sister affair
It's true that the older sister would need her help, and it really is a tough period for her, I'm sorry I didn't mention that, but the thing is you are trying to disgrace the younger sister(or well, that's what I understand from this post) and it's not fair
If the older sister would have really been a great sister, this would have not happened, what I was saying is that you can't judge things just from this, I'm pretty sure the younger sister has her stories to, and especially if she understands the situation, I'm pretty sure she has her reasons for not helping, and it's far more that just to be with her so-so bf or going out
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
26 Nov 10
Hi Hushi,
I would probably explain the situation to my boyfriend and spend as much time with him as possible. Even though my sister were having a difficult pregnancy, I would assume she has a husband or boyfriend at hand to help her out. I would of course be available if she needed me but since I am not a doctor or anything, there is very little I'd be able to do other than give her a ride to the hospital and be there for moral support. I think I would be able to juggle both situations fairly and still be able to fit in some sleep. I would try anyway.
@hushi22 (4928)
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26 Nov 10
hi sid! =)
yes, that is exactly my point and i already talked to both of them. my bestfriend, the younger one doesnt listen. she is doing the same mistake again. every time she has a bf, suitor, or so-so bf, fling or whatever it is she always make it win over anyone like family or relatives. she is doing it again. she doesnt learn and/or listen.
the older sister has no bf or husband because when she is on her 7months of pregnancy the guy suddenly disappeared maybe because he couldnt support the baby financially. he was fired from work and before he just relied on the business of the girl.
it's such a sad story.
it is 3 am here and everyone is awakened by their fight.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
1 Dec 10
If my sister was 7 months pregnant and was having a difficult time in her pregnancy would spend lots of time with her. She would need lots of help from me and I would be able to give her that.
If I had a boyfriend visit at the same time I would try to spend a little time with him like 2 hours a day and my sister the other 22 hours of the time. A pregnancy lasts 9 months. I would promise to my boyfriend that I would visit him for one month to make up for not spending much time with him.
A complicated pregnancy can be scary as it was for me at 36 weeks when I was expecting my disabled son. I found out about his spina bifida and hydrocephalus.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
18 May 11
Hi. hushi. In a situation as this, I would just try to be there for my oldest sister as I can. I will also try to make time for my boyfriend too. If my boyfriend respects the fact that I have a sister that I have to look after, then me and him could spend some time together. I would think that if my sister was having a complicated pregnancy, she should seek some medical attention so that she can become an inpatient in the hospital. The doctors and nurses could look after her while she is having complications during her pregnancy. I also think that she should be under medical observations too. Her condition sounds more seriously to just be treated at home by me. I am not a medical professional and I think that it is best that she seek the advice from a medical professional that concerns her condition.
