How to propose to a girl?
By xxj3ffxx
@xxj3ffxx (501)
Australia
November 26, 2010 5:13pm CST
How to ask a girl to be your girlfriend?
One friend advised me to be myself, and am quite direct speaking guy. and directly asked this stupid question after knowing this person for at least 2years. "Do you want to be my girlfriend".
Well, i was expecting a hug or something like this. Her answer was like "Hum... you are very kind Jeff, but I will and always think of you as my best friend".
What was the problem here?
thinking that Good base of friendship is the best to starting a relationship?
Or
My way of proposing the girl to direct?
Or
I waited too long because her heart for me is only friendship?
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9 responses
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
27 Nov 10
A serious man is never held back about what he wants-as for girls, am sure even before you speak to the love of your life-some chemistry will have transferred from your body to hers and from hers to yours without a word being said.In this way, you will be shocked to learn that you have actually got her without saying a word because, she was so overwhelmed with the chemistry that she decided to make the proposal her self! So do not worry about the proposal, worry about the chemistry!
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@MikeW7 (10)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
When you know in your heart that you love the girl, then that's all you need to know. Let her reach that realization by herself.
You see, it becomes obvious to you when the girl is in love with you. She's moves too close to you; she smiles a lot when she's with you; she makes an excuse to touch you; those are some of the things that tell you that she's falling for you! What you have to do is pay attention to her body language!
So next time, let her bring up the subject of whether she wants to be more than just "friends". All you have to do is treat her right, make sure she has a good time when she's with you - sooner or later she'll talk about being your girl.
@Susanayako1988 (350)
• China
27 Nov 10
I think prepare something more romantic will give you a bigger chance. Like prepare a room full of flowers and balloons, romantic music and some specail dishes to have a meal. Then in that romantic atmosphere, you can tell her that you want to be her bf.Good luck with you.
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I really don't know what is the best moment to propose a girl to your girlfriend. I fail at this task once already, and I already lost confidence of myself. I ask this Mexican girl to be my girlfriend, and I guess that she only treated me like her friend only. Nothing more. I simply give up. My advice, to be direct. If she say "no", let her be, and let her go.
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@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
27 Nov 10
Dude.. its only one girl over a millions of girls.. let you know that i proposed more than five girls and all rejected.. all because i was too much of a good friend to them... well.. not my fault tho... just not the right one thats all.. you will find yours one days as well i believe that mine will come one day...
cheers
@toniganzon (72553)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
She was just not into you and we can't force anybody to like us just because we developed a certain friendship with them I have several male friends and we have very platonic relationship. My husband was the exception though since we developed feelings for each other in the middle of our friendship and that took us years to realize we were falling for each other.
There's no perfect way of proposing. You were doing it right, it's just that you didn't ask the right one!
Good luck!
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@sheonline27 (69)
•
27 Nov 10
All you have to do is just patiently wait when the right time comes, maybe the girl is not ready yet to enter into a relationship, or she is very careful in choosing whom she want to share her whole life with. If you really love the girl, wait until the time comes that she will also tell you the same feeling you have for her. While waiting, just continue in showing her how special she is to you,respect her and be a friend who is always there for her 24/7. By this, she will realized that your intentions and your feelings towards her is very much sincere.
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@shaggin (72289)
• United States
29 Nov 10
Well sometimes we develop feelings for people who will never feel the same way about us. When we feel for them so much its hard to imagine they dont feel the same way but thats how it happens sometimes and there isnt anything we can do about it. I'm sorry that things wont work out with this girl. You can still be very good friends but just dont expect that she will change her mind and suddenly want a relationship with you because she probably wont by the sounds of it.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I will stand with the idea to continue to be yourself, you have declared yourself to her and continuing to be yourself perhaps she may see you differently. If she does not I see that your friendship will remain strong.
@cyrri_ako (461)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
i believe proposing would be romantic if it's unplanned...
if it's spontaneous...but still with proper timing...