Hate yourself

Yes thanks, these experiences are a kind of teachers who are very strict and too harsh but at end you have to learn and grow up so that you do not repeat such thing again.

HI dear, It is true. In our life, we must have faced such several problems, where we feel contempt or hatred due to some of our deeds. Sometime it may be due to careless or unawareness or anything of the sort. But the result may be so bitter and feel uneasiness and restlessness. In many occasions it could be happening due to our own mistakes only. So that we find no one else to blame and take the full responsibility upon us, which in turn result in hatred and contempt. However, such incidents and experience would result us to look forward without making mistakes in the coming future. Thanks for your response. Thank-s

Hi dear, Of course, some times it happens in such a way. May not be purposive, but circumstantially happens and we may not even thing of the future of the deed. Thanks for your comments. Thank-s

Hiya thanks, See what you mean here. But you should not feel bad you tried to help someone and in return they did this to you. We have borrowed money to other People done them Jobs too very important ones but we have not got paid from them. Actually I have almost given up on all of them. With you having a Family to maintain I can well understand how you feel to a point. But don´t hate yourself for having tried to help someone things will sort themselves out. Exactly how I don´t know but I hope they will right themselves soon for you. Take care now.

Hi dear, Thanks for your comments. When I posted this topic, there was a genuine reasons for it. In fact, financially I helped someone, a close friend who was very much in need of money and he was terribly needed the case urgently. As knowing the fact, I took a heavy bank loan and helped him on the basis of returning with in a months period. I have other loans and major liabilities and the income what I get is not sufficient at that point of time. As keeping all in mind, I gone for another loan and helped the person. He was fully aware of my position and he took the money and run away. Now it is almost 20 months and I am repaying the loan and I have no trace of the person. All my calculations went wrong. Family, children education, my 2-3 other loans, household expenses, utility bills, salary reduction, no other source of income, increased expenses, etc. made me handicapped. I didn’t consulted with anyone before making the payment. No proper documentation is not made. Instead of paying by cheque, I made full amount in cash. No receipts were made. So I did a totally absolute blunders on the grounds of friendship and trust. Also, this is not the first time it happens, I have met several similar incidents and have more than adequate bitter experiences on such matters. Again I went for it and defeated. You can assume, how much time others can help me. I can borrow for some time. But I should pay back. So many issues come up after doing it. So, a help is a good thing, but when the recipient did the wrong thing, I had to suffer all the setbacks. If I am alone, I can suffer. Also I got a full family depend on me and I have no alternatives, other than suffering. This is the reason why I feel very bad on me and I felt so much hatred towards me, because I did all foolish things. In such a case, anybody will feel self contempt and hatred. Though it is a personal matter, I think people can learn some ‘good lessons’ from experience and all should be careful when dealing with money, especially large amount of money. Again, we can help others, but while doing so, we should be stable and we should have back of money, if anything inappropriate is happening. Thank-s

Hi dear, Thanks for your comments. Tried of many times. But when I think about the stupidity of the work I have done, it is beyond pardonable. Some time even small child would think of many times while doing such things. Like 10+10=20, all know it better. If I say 30, how good it can be. So, there are few events happened from my side which really felt bad on me and I felt such a dirty feel about me on doing so. Thank-s

Hi dear, Thanks for your comments. As you said, it is true that there may be some occasions in everyones life. May be by circumstantially we must have compelled to do it or forced to do it by willingly or unwillingly. But the result may be bad or haunting and we may have a feeling of guilty or bad effect on ourselves. But such things are natural as long as we live in a society and once occurred such things is alright and a repetition of the same should be avoided at any cost. Regards, Thank-s

Hi, You responded nicely. In fact, I meant the same too, but worded differently to include all the similar feelings alongwith it. For the last few months whatever I did all were went wrong and made me unhappy. The similar issues like went on and one after another followed and virtually made me made and finally some sort of discomfort and hatred started towards me. It was own mistake and which lead me to ask you all about such an incident. However, it is nice to talk to you and thanks for your comments. Thank-s

Hi dear, We would have to face difference experiences everyday in life. Yesterdays, today’s and tomorrow’s situations may be totally different and some time it is beyond comparison due to the diversity nature of our life. As this is a fact, we cannot even predict what can be of tomorrow and day-after-tomorrow. We need to strive mingle with better off situations. Good events, nice thoughts, great ideas, even excellent friendships, etc can make us more happy. Having open mindedness and free thinking also will help us to keep energized. Moreover, the positive thinking and doing things in time, proper management, understand our family and friends and a decent behavior and pleasing approach will also promote us to greatness. Above all, whatever we feel not good and cannot compromise, just ignore those things which gives us head ache and tension. Try maximum to solve out with best effort and if not working out, ignore them and don’t take it as a burden to us. Such simple things if we can follow, I think we can be happy all times and can minimize and as a result, this will help us to love our self to an extent. Try, if it works. Thank you for your comments and response. Thank-s

Hi dear, You are absolutely right, it is another kind of strength. If we already gone through a similar situation, we never repeat such foolishness again. So, once it happened and we tasted the bitterness. So, it is always a lesson for us in the future. Thank you for your comments and response. Thank-s

Yes, mistakes are natural and repeating the same mistake can be said to be the real mistake. We all are human beings and naturally we are tempted to do it. But identify the mistake and trying to avoid by doing so is the real power. In certain times, it will not really workout when we think one side of the same. What happened to me is also the same, lopsided conviction. Regards, Thank-s