After all those things, what do they expect?

I have a feeling that your mother-in-law thinks you married her son for her money and also that is the reason you are not doing well financially now. It is hard to forgive someone or someones who decide that you are of bad character and that can never be forgotten even if they give a reason why - like perhaps your husband went out with a gold digger before meeting you. It is not about those who have money despising those who don't, or those who do not have money, despising those who do. It is the character of the person. I wonder did your mother-in-law say that she was sorry for all the ways she treated you and what she said about you? That would help a lot.

Sometimes misunderstanding can alter people's perception towards the other's motives. I'm not taking her side or anything. I'm just merely stating a fact cuz i've experienced this and it's something like a phenomenon we have to avoid.

It sounds as if your husband was/is a "Mamma's Boy". And this spread to his siblings view of him. No matter what a woman does, nothing will be right or good in the eyes of her mother-in-law. The wife is, afterall, the terrible person that dared to make her son happy. To dare to create a life with him that does not revolved around the Mother. It would seem that in such a Matriarchal family, her other children are blindly following in Mother's thoughts about you. I can offer some first-hand experience advice for you. 1. Never ever say anything that is negative about her to your husband or children. This includes anything that could be even twisted into something negative. 2. Never say anything to anyone in the town, family, area this woman, her friends or family lives. 3. Always be polite, accommodating and cordial to her. 4. If you are in her home or she in yours and her words/behavior/etc. become negative towards you find a way to leave. Remember suddenly you have an important errand to take care of that can not wait or over the course of an hour display symptoms of illness. Whatever it takes to get away gracefully. 5. While this one is very controversial, it is something wives have done for thousands and thousands of years to lessen the hold over their husbands: Move. Do not move so far away that all contact is lost. But just enough that dropping by for a visit is improbable. Common reasons for moving include, lower cost of living in the new area, better schools, better environment for allergies. 6. On holidays you have to spend time in her company, delay leaving your home and have a set time with your husband on when you will get home. This will shorten your exposure to her. All in all it boils down to taking the high ground and limiting exposure to her and anyone else that is negative towards you. Over time, the people that are negative towards you will show their true colors more and more. Eventually, your children and your husband will see this. Good luck!

Oh boy can I relate to what you're saying! Money does not equate with intelligence! My mother-in-law s impressed by money. My mom was impressed by money. But it all depends on who has the money. I could go so on and on with this one! I tolerate my mom-in-law because my husband loves her.