you win a lover but you lose at least two friends

as far as i remember, i've been in that kind of situation too. i didn't have much time for my friends and my world only revolves with my special someone. that time, i felt the security with my loved one but still there is a feeling of emptiness. someone you can talk to about your thoughts and feelings that only your closest friends can understand and some things that you can only do with them. im not saying that you can't rely, be happy and do these things with your loved one but this made me realize that there are some instances that needs to be done with your friends alone. Things that i learned on that scenario, give time for your loved one, give time for your friends and most important, give time for yourself.

hmmm...why would that happen? i mean good friends could understand and remain still. well, that is difficult for me to understand because i havent experienced, but i hope you get better and wont do the same mistake again. =)

It is kind of sad when this happens. I know that if my friends did this I would understand and I wouldnt stop being their friend. When the guy and my friend split up I would still be there for them. I understand what its like when you meet someone new and want to spend a lot of time with them.

I did spend a lot of time with my ex, but I also had a separate life with my friends. I didn't really like his friends and he didn't really like mine, so our worlds didn't really collide that frequently. We went on vacation with a couple friends of ours to Mexico and we spent some time to ourselves during nap time where we didn't really sleep at all if you know what I mean. That was the best vacation I've ever taken. But when we went to Europe it was just him and his two best friends and I felt excluded because I didn't bring any of our friends. I overheard his best friend say that I was crazier than his ex and I didn't like that. We fought a lot and it was in general not a fun trip especially since we didn't do much planning and had to make tons of decisions every single day. They didn't like to call places on the phone so I made some of the reservations by phone. I got sick and tired of it and went and got drunk by myself at an English speaking bar in Madrid a couple days into the trip, which cooled me off some. I've never gotten so engrossed in him to exclude other people. We still hung out with other people.