Why do some people moan about other people

Hi Joystick!. I think who moan about others its mean they have low self esteem and by making others look bad they feel achieving something. I usually really picky to someone I share my story, I had to make sure they able keeping a secret. I think if others talk bad about my others friend, I think its better if I ask from the first hand to make every thing clear.

Most people do this because they are insecure with their selves. My MIL is a lot like this. I just have to keep by distance.....my counselor says I need to just accept that is the way she is and that we can't change others. Maybe you need to think the same way. With my mother in law, even if i talk to her, I know this will not change things....she will continue to be the same way..so the next step is to accept the way she is....but this is going to be very hard for me.,,,because her actions are sooo wrong. I don't know...It will take me along time to accept her....if ever.. Sometimes, you think WTH!!!?????

Hi Joy, If you say anything at all then I think it would be best if you said it right directly to the person that is doing the bad-mouthing and tell her that you don't want to hear it. Whatever you do, don't tell one friend what the other one is saying. That will just put you right smack in the middle of it all...not a good spot to be in, I wouldn't think.

I think that is the way some people are and that is the way that they always will be.I feel that sometimes they do not really seem to notice what they are saying, then notice what they are doing less than an hour or so later.I have over the years worked out who is who and what people are known for.

I don't like to friendship with people those who are having moaning character. Never believe such people. Don't try to encourage such people. It is 100% sure that they will moan about us also. It is better for us to move away from such character's. Nobody is perfect in this world. We don't have the right to judge others. If we are perfect, we can judge others. The measure that we use for others will be the same that God will use for us.

do what u think is right! (: jst be more vigilant cause after all, u'l be d 1 responsible of d things that u do. but 1 thing is 4 certain, dn't do d same act cause sometimes things do carry us away from good esp. when these things somehow push our interest at d center that lead us 2 trouble. so if u hear something negative from a person saying something about someone who is closely related 2 u, u better not react on it. u may but make sure it's a positive response like giving good advices that nothing is impossible in a good conversation. say it in a manner that will make d person realize that everything will be smooth going when d approach is humane & just! (;

You do realize that if they talk bad about your friends to you, there's a good chance they are talking bad about you to your friends don't you??? I work with a girl like that. When she found out I wasn't going to badmouth anybody along with her, she turned her wrath on me. I was talking to another girl in the office when the bad mouther walked up & interrupted to tell us what a 4th girl had done. It hit me wrong as I had just been told what she was saying about me behind my back so I snapped at her "You are one of the most miserable biitches I have ever met. If you don't like what she does, discuss it with her & NOT me!!! Then I called the 4th girl to her office & told her the bad mouther had something she wanted to discuss with her. NO, she didn't appreciate it, but she did quit bad mouthing others in my presence & she stopped bad mouthing me or everybody else just quit telling me about it if she's saying anything. Either way, I'm where I want to be...out of the loop!!!

I find that some people just like to keep confusion going and it is easy to get caught in the middle if you are not careful. When I first see it happening I try to just ignore the comments or change the conversation. If that does not work and the person is obviously trying to get a resonse from me, I refuse to say anything negative about the other person. That is the easiest way to get caught up. I'll make a general statement like "oh, everyone makes mistakes now and then" or "yes, I have even been guilty of that before myself". I do not say anything that I would not wnat repeated. Soon this person will get the message that they cannot gossip with you.

I usually keep in quite when I hear the moaning from a person about an other person. Because we don't know it's true or not. So, we need to keep quite to search. Is it right? As me, we don't say moaning about other persons moreover these are true. Because if that person is bad, everyone will be know it, don't need we said.