Why can't we please everybody?

If by pleasing everybody, you have to change yourself, and your attitude, then it is not a worthwile cause. It is a fact that you can't please everybody. And you'll just end crazy and tired if you attempeted to. So, it is better to be true to yourself and find people only that like for being you. It is much simpler, and much easier.

Having people around who are not friendly with us, moreover, who show their dislike towards us, is a very difficult and painful situation because it hurts our feelings a lot. I think our first reaction is usually to try to be nice and friendly to such unfriendly people because we do not want to be excluded from a group, a circle. It is difficult to stay outside because we are disliked. We feel ashamed. We keep smiling and try to keep up with the group. It is not so painful when the group is large and there is no tight hierarchy within the group. Then we can find friends far from that unfriendly person and sooner or later we can just ignore him/her. It is not so smooth when we are exposed to a hostile person for one reason or another. It happened to me not so long ago and my practice was to be fair, correct, polite - and cold. I did my best not to give her opportunity to pick at me. I minded my words face to face and behind her back alike. It is not easy, but keeping silent is best. I never try making friend with a person who seems to be hostile to me: it would be submissive, servile. I save my friendship for those who deserve it. After all likes take pleasure in like.

i dont have the personality to force anybody. when i see that he/she does not like to talk to me i dont bother. there are a lot of people in the world i wont waste my time on thinking how to please a single person. i agree that we can not please everybody. even the hollywood stars can prove that. some people has traits that are friendly only when they need somehting from you and i hate that. so i will find someone who is worth the time and will not stress me. friendship should be fun not stressful.

Of course, it is true that one can't please everybody. People are different. I like blue; my friend likes red. Purple is a combination of red and blue. Both of us should be pleased, but in reality, neither of us is pleased.

No...I never tried to be friend with a person that never want me to be his/her friend. Because I believe that it will lessen the possibility of misunderstanding or avoid any trouble in the part of that person. Although it is a good thing to be friendly but much better to avoid trouble than force someone else to be friend with me and in the future problem may arise in between... It's really hard to please everybody because we are have different opinion in life. But if all people being reasonable enough and considerate. That matter will be avoided...

i think it`s true if we never can please many people...so be your self,try the best to do good things

Do you try to be friend to a person who seem that he/she don't like you? No, friendship is a two way street. I will be civil to someone mainly in cases where we have mutual friends or work together, but I am not the type of person to try and swim upstream just to be someone's friend. Sometimes other people are difficult to understand and not easy to be wtih them. Do you agree that we cannot please everybody? We can't please everybody because everyone has different things that they find "pleasing" it was one of those things that make us all individual.

I will be nice to them but if it's obvious they don't like me, then I find myself intimidated and I will avoid them as much as possible. I have had this situation happen recently with a daughter's now ex-friend and her mother. We have to go to school chorus concerts..and this mother takes advantage and gives my daughter and me nasty looks. I just smile and try to avoid looking at her because I wind up going home upset every time! It is true-not everyone can get along.

Dear vycess, Well, of couse, we can't please every one and we don't have to! If it is not because of work, I won't please someone I do not like. I think everyone of us like to live happily then there is no reason to hurt our feeling. If someone is not suitable to be a friend, then leave it. Have a great week! agonyaunt69 (11:51pm 29 Nov 2010, Hong Kong time)

I stay away with people who showed unlikeness to me because it's very uncomfortable to be with them. there are really people hard to understand even how to spell their character looks like out of dictionary. Yes you can't please everybody.

We cannot please everybody all the time. If we try to do that, we will loose our originality and keep bending backwards to please others. I try not to hurt others mostly either with my words or my actions but sometimes, I cannot help it. To be good to everyone is impossible and I just make sure that I am good to my family and myself and people close to me. And generally, of course!

It's true that we can't please everybody but somehow we should at least give ourselves a chance to know people. Sometimes first impressions are way different from the real person we're looking at. If still you find it hard to understand such person and you don't feel like being with that person, then you are not obliged to... let's be friends...

This is very agreeable. It is really hard to please everybody; Anybody for a fact. You might seem to think that One person will be agreeable only when what ever you might be doing is in favor of him/her or vice versa. but not for long... not every thing that we do will be pretty amiable to everything. Understanding them is like the deep blue sea.. and I advice you to not focus on keeping those kind of people to please. Human nature is like the fingers we have, looking at them, know their sizes and shapes, and you'll know that the Individuality of each will be variety also.

if he/she doesn't like you for who you are then why he wants to be friends with you after all? just to change you? that's just wrong. you become a friend with someone because either you have things in common, or you understand and listen eachother. real friends won't ever try to change you. and we shouldn't try either to please them. we should firstly please ourselves.. what good will make if you pretend to be someone else? eventually, your friend will want to change you more and more if he sees you do it, and you'll end up not knowing who you are anymore, so is it worth it? no

I fully agree that it's impossible to please everybody because we are all so different. If we were all the same, the world would be a rather boring place. We are interested in people because they have some characteristic that attracts us. We are also repelled because some characterics repels us. It is all down to the way we have grown up. As a therapist, I have studied human behaviour for many years as a part of my work, and there are so many fascinating and different types of characters in the world. _Derek

Even in our wildest dreams will it be possible for us to please everybody. Pleasing yourself is all you can say for sure. When we try to change ourselves to please someone else we end up losing ourselves instead.

There is only one person that I know of that doesn't like me. I think she is jealous of me, because I spend more time with a mutual friend than she does. When I first found out she didn't like me, I admit it bothered me a little bit. I try to be nice to everyone and was suprised. Now I don't pay any attention and it doesn't bother me at all. I feel that if only one person doesn't like me, I guess that is pretty good.

Hi vycess! We may be the same in some ways. But in many others we are different. Our upbringing and experiences heightened these differences. We can never please everyone. There are people amongst the crowd we seem to like and can relate to. The opposite is also true. There are colleagues at work I can really relate to and work with. But there are also those I simply find difficult to. I may not be close to them . But I'm also not against them. I've at least learnt to embrace to coexist peacefully with anyone.

We can't please everybody because we have different preferences. Most of the time, what we like is not so-cool to the taste of the others. That is why God created different colors, sizes, heights, weights and the likes. He created us unique and different from one another. Yes, we really can not please everyone but it doesn't mean we can not get a positive response from them. don't try to ignore them, maybe what they are saying may cause you improvement. or if you think that they intentionally oppose you, stay nice to them because at the end of the day, it is the worth of what we have done is what will always count. :)

Yes. Pleasing everybody is a choice and not a requirement in life. If you're trying to make friends with anybody and they reject the offer, it's merely their problem and not for you to feel guilty about!