Do you like good qualities or hate bad qualities in a friend...?
By chayapathys
@chayapathys (2111)
India
November 28, 2010 8:18pm CST
All of us have friends and as human beings they have both good qualities and bad qualities in them.In the initial stages when we become friends we go by mostly outward appearance or by necessity we become friends. In due course we notice some good qualities and also some bad qualities in them.But we continue the friendship for various reasons.After all they are human beings and like us they possess some good qualities and also some bad qualities.But we bear with them.My question is whether you appreciate and admire the good qualities and become closer or notice only bad qualities and try to distance them.As for me I notice bad qualities and try to distance them. What about you...?
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14 responses
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
well, it depends on a bad quality. if that thing my fried does is just a quirk and it just annoys me, then i put up with it, like, she's too loud or if she talks funny, then that's okay. she's my friend and i have to accept that. but if that bad quality is something that could be hurtful to me, then i try to stay away. like if that person is violent or is a trouble-maker, then i would just stay away.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
29 Nov 10
You have the right attitude towards friendship.As long as the bad qualities in your friend does not hurt you personally it is OK.After all we are all human beings and we bound to have both good as well as bad qualities.There should be sincere understanding in friendship and then only it lasts .You should ignore some short comings if it does not harm you...
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
yeah, i mean i have faults too, and they put up with it. i don't know if i'm the easiest person to put up with, buy my friends do. so i just try to return the favor by being a good friend as well. besides, if you love your friends you should accept them for who they are, including the good and the bad.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
29 Nov 10
Hi chayapathys: My best friend, I have met him for more than ten years. I know him pretty well and I have noticed some of his bad qualities. Sometimes I can't stand this part of his personality but I let it be because he is my friend and I appreciate his loyalty and that he has been with me in the good and bad moments. I prefer to think about the good things rather than the bad ones.
ALVARO
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
29 Nov 10
You are really great.Inspite of noticing bad qualities in your friend you still feel coming close to him.As you rightly said he has stood by you in your good and bad times.That is really very appreciable quality in your friend .Very rarely friends do stand by in bad times.It is good you ignore his bad qualities as they do not affect the sincerity of your friendship.Best of luck ..
@ganeshprabhuk (1722)
• India
29 Nov 10
Every person has a good & bad qualities so friendship is more important than all this qualities,We should accept both ends of a person no one is perfect in this world so we need to blend & adjust in any relation in life.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
29 Nov 10
To accept someone as a friend we need to accept all of the qualities they have. We should not just take the good ones. we need to welcome the bad ones as well. Liking the good qualities in a friend is always easier. Hating the bad qualities leaves us with a different feeling that we might not be as happy with.
@ivanmarginal (675)
• Indonesia
29 Nov 10
Of course I like good quality friendship. I wanna my friendship last long. I need to behave nicely to all my friends. And my friends also need to behave nicely in return. Understanding and respecting each other, that's the keys. Friendship is the thing we need in life. Without friend, I don't know what I'll be.
@PSTordilla (88)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
A friend is a friend. You like them for their good traits and you tolerate and live with their bad traits. They would likely do the same to you.
@hanni711 (243)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
I don't think you would want somebody for his/her bad qualities. But all of us has bad qualities because we're not perfect.Even our best friends sometimes show their bad qualities but we still accept them for what they are because the best qualities in them always stand out. Besides, we already built a relationship with them.
@yanyanyow (326)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
i found my friends because we have the same likes and dislikes. i like the feeling that we both share the same things, thoughts and experiences. its like we can relate to each other easily. other than that, i dont mind their other qualities, whether good or bad. if they have good qualities, then be it. if they have bad qualities too, who doesnt have one, right? i'll just accept them and as a friend its my duty to caution them on their actions but dont have the right to push them to change their bad qualities.
@calpro (930)
• India
29 Nov 10
Hi,
When I like a friend I accept him as he is. I don't mind much of his qualities they don't bother me either to continue my friendship. Here what I mean by bad qualities is habits,like his habits drink smoke etc. But if the bad qualities what you mean like hurting others, paining somebody without reason, I don't take them easily.
I will try to speak to him and explain him the right way to live, and i will try to change his attitude. If he does not want to change I will forced to say bye bye.
Like to mingle with human beings who do not hurt or give pain to others.
Happy Living
Calpro
@mustread (224)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 10
I sometimes get annoyed of my friends bad qualities , but they make them what they are and I try not to mind them. And of course I like their good qualities , I like even when they are honest and tell me what a jerk I am sometimes.
Friends are one of the best things in the world , don't try to change them.
@rolash (33)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
hello chayapathys! i have a lot of friends. And each one of them has a good and bad attitudes. I really appreciate all those attitudes because despite their bad qualities they love me for what i am. I mean they were my friends, so I have to accept who they are but of course if their attitudes exceeds in a way that they cause me pain, i have to confront them, telling them that what they did is not good. I think that what's friend are, sharing all feelings that can affect one's self... =)
@kaye114 (28)
•
29 Nov 10
Of course everyone would love a good quality in a friend! but if you really are a true friend will it matter if your friend holds a good a bad qualities at same time? I think we should appreciate good qualities and when bad qualities came along, you should help a friend realize them, to turn their bad into a good ones instead of trying to go distant!
@jajaisarockstar (6)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
Actually all people have good and bad side... as a friend, you'll just have to accept who he/she really is.. as for all relationship, acceptance i very important. :)
